{"id":8474,"date":"2017-11-14T11:48:20","date_gmt":"2017-11-14T11:48:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=8474"},"modified":"2021-08-31T07:48:26","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T07:48:26","slug":"a-rapariga-usa-a-desculpa-da-doenca-mental-idiota","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-rapariga-usa-a-desculpa-da-doenca-mental-idiota\/","title":{"rendered":"Para a rapariga que usa a sua doen\u00e7a mental como desculpa para ser uma idiota"},"content":{"rendered":"

O problema n\u00e3o \u00e9 o facto de ser bipolar. O problema \u00e9 que usas a tua doen\u00e7a como desculpa para justificar o teu mau comportamento.<\/b> I’m not insinuating that you don\u2019t have a legit diagnosis, and I\u2019m also not trying to say that you can control your behavior. I know that you can\u2019t. <\/span><\/p>\n

What you could do is be proactive in your own self-care. What you could do is try to learn strategies that will help YOU to function better in your day-to-day life so that your own behavior isn\u2019t your biggest barrier. I mean, aside from the fact that I can\u2019t talk to you about anything real, and you cut me out of your life and the lives of your children without so much as a second thought, your demons don\u2019t hurt me the way they do you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Como teu amigo, quero o melhor para ti e, como pessoa com experi\u00eancia em lidar com problemas de sa\u00fade mental, sei que h\u00e1 mais op\u00e7\u00f5es para ti do que aquelas que consideras. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sabendo que esta falta de vontade\/incapacidade de se ajudar a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9, na verdade, um sintoma do pr\u00f3prio problema para o qual quero que obtenha ajuda, ofereci-me para o ajudar. Ofereci-me para fazer o trabalho bra\u00e7al, fazer os telefonemas, ir consigo \u00e0s consultas.<\/span> I even offered to go with you to the hospital and sit in the emergency department for two days so you could have your meds monitored and adjusted when your \u2018idiot doctor\u2019 had the nerve to leave you in his waiting room for too long, and you left the office in a huff without getting the prescription that you needed to function.<\/b> And then I listened to you complain three months later when you still hadn\u2019t resolved the issue on your own. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have a diagnosis and you think that\u2019s enough, but it\u2019s not. Your meds clearly help to some degree, but they aren’t going to teach you the skills you need to maintain your interpersonal relationships. <\/b><\/p>\n

Se, em algum momento, quiser sair da montanha-russa que \u00e9 a sua vida, ter\u00e1 de encarar a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/a> You create chaos because that’s what you need to feel grounded, and you refuse to get actual help because you don’t want to do the work that helping yourself will entail. It\u2019s hard and when things get hard you would rather walk away than problem solve. <\/span>I’ve seen you do it over and over in your life; you want to take the easy way out and it leads to more work for yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n

Okay, fine, whatever. Keep half-assing it. It\u2019s not for me to judge your life choices, and I\u2019m not. The problem is that I can’t tiptoe around you on these eggshells anymore. If I thought there was an end in sight, maybe. But, unfortunately, I\u2019ve come to realize that until you get real help and change your patterns, we are always going to end up at this place where you see me as the enemy.<\/span> Fica zangado comigo por saber que podia ter uma melhor qualidade de vida e ainda mais zangado quando tento ajud\u00e1-lo a conseguir isso quando come\u00e7a a perder o controlo.<\/b> I don\u2019t know what to do with that anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

What you don\u2019t realize while you\u2019re busy being mad at me for giving a fuck is that you\u2019re breaking my heart over and over again. You\u2019re making me question my sanity. <\/span>You\u2019re separating me from your children whom I love dearly and have tried and succeeded to make meaningful relationships with, and every time you cut me off they feel abandoned by me, while I miss them and all of their important milestones until you decide I\u2019m not the worst again<\/b>. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just you in this and all the time that you\u2019re not actually dealing with or managing your illness, my place in your life is precarious, and no matter how many ways I try to tell myself, \u201cIt\u2019s not her, it\u2019s her illness,\u201d it comes back to the fact that, <\/span>Desde que n\u00e3o estejas a lidar com o teu diagn\u00f3stico, tu \u00e9s a tua doen\u00e7a, e a tua doen\u00e7a \u00e9 uma esp\u00e9cie de idiota para mim.<\/b><\/p>\n

by\u00a0Tia Grace<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The problem is not that you are bipolar. The problem is that you use your illness as an excuse to justify your poor behavior. I’m not insinuating that you don\u2019t have a legit diagnosis, and I\u2019m also not trying to say that you can control your behavior. I know that you can\u2019t. What you could…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":8482,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29635],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8474","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-depression"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29635,"label":"depression"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/matthew-kane-188603.jpg",800,563,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29635,"name":"depression","slug":"depression","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29635,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you or someone you know is fighting depression, here you'll find symptoms, plenty of coping techniques, and above all, you'll learn to understand it.","parent":22911,"count":23,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29635,"category_count":23,"category_description":"If you or someone you know is fighting depression, here you'll find symptoms, plenty of coping techniques, and above all, you'll learn to understand it.","cat_name":"depression","category_nicename":"depression","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8474","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8474"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8474\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8482"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8474"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8474"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8474"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}