{"id":85159,"date":"2020-07-09T10:49:31","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T10:49:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=85159"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:26:29","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:26:29","slug":"nao-e-da-tua-responsabilidade-salva-lo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-e-da-tua-responsabilidade-salva-lo\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o \u00e9 da tua responsabilidade salv\u00e1-lo se ele n\u00e3o quer mudar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Estou farto de dar segundas oportunidades.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Estava farta de esperar que algo mudasse quando, no fundo, sabia que estava tudo acabado desde a primeira vez que ele me olhou nos olhos e me mentiu. Essa foi a \u00faltima gota.<\/p>\n

Queria v\u00ea-lo crescer e tornar-se o homem que sempre se esfor\u00e7ou por ser, o homem que eu tamb\u00e9m via nele. Mas ele cedeu. <\/strong>He let himself lose himself and I forgot that I wasn\u2019t his savior.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t put on this earth to save him from himself. I wasn\u2019t his rehab center.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Deixou de lutar pela nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e tornou-se destrutivo e egoc\u00eantrico.<\/p>\n

Demorei algum tempo a admitir a mim pr\u00f3pria que tinha de o deixar. O meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o recusou-se a acreditar nisso durante demasiado tempo.<\/p>\n

I had to explain to myself that all of it had nothing to do with me. I wasn\u2019t the problem, I was just trying to fix it. But some people just don\u2019t want to be fixed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They would rather look away and pretend it doesn\u2019t exist. They would rather run all their life, constantly out of breath, than face the problem.<\/p>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Of course, there are people worth saving, people who need just a little nod, but not everyone can be saved and that\u2019s the sad truth.<\/p>\n

If they don\u2019t want to be saved, they can\u2019t be convinced into saving themselves.<\/p>\n

All the worry and care in this world can\u2019t help.<\/p>\n

I tried to help him for so long I forgot that\u2019s not what a relationship should look like. We weren\u2019t equal. He demanded my love and care \u2013 and I gave it to him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ele pensou que eu o podia salvar antes de ele se tentar salvar a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I was there for him when nobody else was. I cared about the person he is and all the good things in him, even when they didn\u2019t shine through.<\/p>\n

Coloquei-o sempre \u00e0 frente de todos os outros e s\u00f3 tive desilus\u00f5es em troca.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t count on him, not even for the smallest things. He somehow always thought of me last.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ele deixou-me a pensar: Foi tudo em v\u00e3o? Porque \u00e9 que \u00e9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil fazer algum esfor\u00e7o? Ser\u00e1 que ele se importa?<\/em><\/p>\n

I was unhappy but still terrified to leave him. However, I knew if I stayed, I\u2019d be even unhappier and I feared he might suck me into his toxicidade<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t want to change and despite my efforts to keep our love alive \u2013 so I did it. I finally left him.<\/p>\n

Mesmo assim, senti que tinha feito algo de errado.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t until I learned that no one can change a person who doesn\u2019t want to change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Life\u2019s harsh for everyone. We all need to fight. I needed to fight for myself too and I knew I couldn\u2019t do it by his side.<\/p>\n

I finally learned that if love can\u2019t make him change, nothing can.<\/p>\n

I also learned we shouldn\u2019t allow anyone \u2013 no matter how much we love them \u2013 to change who we are and dim our light because of their weaknesses they\u2019re not willing to face.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lose yourself saving a man who doesn\u2019t see you for who you are. Don\u2019t lose yourself for anyone.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let anyone take your light away from you. Know you did nothing wrong, you just gave yourself a chance.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Deix\u00e1-lo \u00e9 tomar conta de si pr\u00f3pria. Mudar o foco para si mesma. S\u00ea o teu pr\u00f3prio salvador, porque, neste caso, foste colocado nesta terra para cuidar de ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Learn from the example of others: Don\u2019t let your weakness consume you. Always keep fighting.<\/p>\n

We\u2019re all a little broken, we\u2019ve all been through something terrifying, and we\u2019ve all survived. Don\u2019t underestimate yourself and what you\u2019re capable of.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be afraid to change your life and set new rules. Pick those rules carefully and always keep in mind that all of this means saving yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Escolhe seguir em frente, escolhe salvar-te.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"N\u00e3o<\/p>\n

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I\u2019m done with giving second chances. I was done hoping something would change when deep down I knew it was over the first time he looked into my eyes and lied to me. That was the last straw. I wanted to see him grow into the man he always strived to be, the man I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":85185,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-85159","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/It\u2019s-Not-Your-Responsibility-To-Save-Him-If-He-Doesn\u2019t-Want-To-Change.jpg",800,507,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85159","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=85159"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85159\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/85185"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=85159"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=85159"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=85159"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}