{"id":85692,"date":"2020-07-09T10:59:51","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T10:59:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=85692"},"modified":"2022-02-26T11:05:55","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T11:05:55","slug":"primeiro-acabamos-e-depois-casamos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/primeiro-acabamos-e-depois-casamos\/","title":{"rendered":"Primeiro acab\u00e1mos e depois cas\u00e1mos; isto foi o que aconteceu"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sei que todas as raparigas que lerem esta hist\u00f3ria se v\u00e3o identificar com ela de alguma forma.<\/p>\n<p>Como \u00e9 que posso ter tanta certeza?<\/p>\n<p>Well\u2026 It all started when I was in high school. I fell in love with the most popular boy there, duh. This is already starting to sound like a romantic movie but I swear to you that it wasn\u2019t anything like that.<\/p>\n<p>De alguma forma, consegui chamar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o dele e come\u00e7\u00e1mos a namorar. Eu estava loucamente apaixonada por ele. Ele foi o meu primeiro tudo.<\/p>\n<p>I believed there was no one who could ever replace him and I guess I was right. And yes, I\u2019m sure because later in life, I tried to replace him and it never worked.<\/p>\n<p>Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que aconteceu a seguir?<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t honestly be completely sure of what it was that tore us apart. Did we drift apart? Did we want to explore other people, other options in life?<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>\u00c9 \u00f3bvio que pens\u00e1mos que havia mais no amor e na vida do que t\u00ednhamos um com o outro e ambos continu\u00e1mos \u00e0 procura do nosso <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/porque-e-que-precisa-de-acreditar-no-destino\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">destino<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85716\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lady-hugs-a-man.jpg\" alt=\"uma senhora abra\u00e7a um homem com um casaco de ganga ao ar livre\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lady-hugs-a-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lady-hugs-a-man-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lady-hugs-a-man-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Years later, we found it, back in each other\u2019s arms.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t say I spent all those years apart dwelling on our past relationship. Did I miss him? I sure did.<\/p>\n<p>De alguma forma, fiz-me acreditar que o tempo que passei com ele permaneceria sempre uma bela recorda\u00e7\u00e3o, mas que nunca fomos feitos para mais nada.<\/p>\n<p>Sempre que pensava nele, pensava que tinha sido uma parte maravilhosa da minha adolesc\u00eancia e devo admitir que, por vezes, imaginava que fic\u00e1vamos juntos.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ainda assim, acreditava que a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o era t\u00e3o fant\u00e1stica porque \u00e9ramos jovens, despreocupados e livres e que tinha muito pouco a ver com o facto de sermos compat\u00edveis.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Por vezes, imaginava como seria a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o no mundo real e adulto.<\/p>\n<p>Nunca consegui pensar em nada que nos impedisse de ser o casal perfeito, mas continuei a enterrar esses pensamentos, pensando em como estava a ser infantil.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t even know who he was anymore. At that point, we hadn\u2019t seen each other for years and I wasn\u2019t even sure if I\u2019d recognize him if I saw him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85724\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-in-brown-winter-jacket.jpg\" alt=\"homem com casaco de inverno castanho a falar e a caminhar com uma mulher ao ar livre durante o inverno\" width=\"800\" height=\"530\"><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Continuei com a minha vida, \u00e0 procura de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/15-sinais-inegaveis-de-uma-verdadeira-relacao-amorosa\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amor verdadeiro<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Houve alguns homens que me fizeram sentir que podiam ser a escolha perfeita para mim, mas de alguma forma nunca foram suficientes.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Faltava qualquer coisa e nunca consegui identificar o que era, mas um sentimento de vazio acompanhou-me ao longo de todas as minhas experi\u00eancias de relacionamento.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Alguma vez pensei que era o meu amor por ele que me fazia sentir assim? N\u00e3o, porque nunca pensei nisso dessa forma.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Agora sei que ele sempre fez parte do meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e da minha alma, mas, na altura, n\u00e3o tinha consci\u00eancia disso.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I know that the romantics among you would like to hear that when we first met it was all rainbows, butterflies and fireworks and I\u2019m sorry to disappoint you but it wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>A primeira vez que nos vimos depois de muitos anos, fic\u00e1mos simplesmente contentes por nos reencontrarmos e conversarmos um pouco.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Nothing amazing happened. I didn\u2019t fall into his arms, telling him he was the love of my life or anything like that.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85725\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/photo-from-the-back-of-a-man.jpg\" alt=\"fotografia de costas de um homem que v\u00ea uma mulher a olhar para ele sentada \u00e0 mesa do restaurante\" width=\"800\" height=\"538\"><\/p>\n<p>Combin\u00e1mos encontrar-nos de novo. Lembro-me que na mesma noite em que o vi, senti-me de alguma forma em paz. <em><strong>Era como se tudo estivesse a come\u00e7ar a juntar-se.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Still, I didn\u2019t recognize what was happening until much, much later.<\/p>\n<p>Come\u00e7\u00e1mos lentamente a namorar outra vez e adivinha? Acab\u00e1mos por casar e ter uma fam\u00edlia linda.<\/p>\n<p>Whenever people asked us how we met, I\u2019ve always told them that it was nothing special, just two high school sweethearts who ended up together.<\/p>\n<p>Agora, quando penso nisso, a nossa hist\u00f3ria \u00e9 especial.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>It\u2019s a story of two souls who were meant to be together and who found their way back to one another.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I now know that there\u2019s nothing more special that can happen to you than being lucky enough to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/a-tua-alma-gemea-vai-inspirar-te\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">encontre a sua alma g\u00e9mea<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d like to think that <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/gostava-muito-que-tivessemos-conseguido\/\">n\u00f3s os dois conseguimos de alguma forma<\/a> happen but we really didn\u2019t. It was destiny.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-85736\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/First-We-Broke-Up-And-Then-We-Got-Married-This-Is-What-Happened-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Primeiro acab\u00e1mos e depois cas\u00e1mos; isto foi o que aconteceu\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/First-We-Broke-Up-And-Then-We-Got-Married-This-Is-What-Happened-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/First-We-Broke-Up-And-Then-We-Got-Married-This-Is-What-Happened-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/First-We-Broke-Up-And-Then-We-Got-Married-This-Is-What-Happened-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/First-We-Broke-Up-And-Then-We-Got-Married-This-Is-What-Happened-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I know that every girl who\u2019ll read this story will connect to it in some way. How can I be so sure? Well\u2026 It all started when I was in high school. I fell in love with the most popular boy there, duh. This is already starting to sound like a romantic movie but I&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":85732,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-85692","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/First-We-Broke-Up-And-Then-We-Got-Married-This-Is-What-Happened.jpg",800,502,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. 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