{"id":86111,"date":"2020-08-13T13:43:41","date_gmt":"2020-08-13T13:43:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=86111"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:49:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:49:48","slug":"sobrevivente-de-abuso-narcisico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sobrevivente-de-abuso-narcisico\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma sobrevivente de abuso narcisista escreve uma mensagem que todos deveriam ler"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vou contar-vos a minha hist\u00f3ria mas, por favor, n\u00e3o se limitem a l\u00ea-la, a julgar-me e a esquecer tudo no momento seguinte. <\/span><\/p>\n

I really can\u2019t take it anymore. I don\u2019t want to be judged for my past actions anymore.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I don’t want to say mistakes because I still don’t think this was my mistake. Actually, I know it wasn’t. I fell insanely in love and <\/span>a outra pessoa utilizou isto.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Loving someone can’t be a mistake.<\/i><\/b> Love makes you weak and that’s a fact but even though, love is still not a mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tenho orgulho em admitir que estava apaixonada por esse homem, apesar de esse amor quase me ter custado a vida. Nunca fiz mal a ningu\u00e9m com isso, exceto a mim pr\u00f3pria.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t feel guilty or bad about anything I did. Yes, I stayed with my abuser for too long, even though I should’ve walked away the first time he did something bad to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

The first time he raised his voice or tried to manipulate me or threaten me with something, I should have left him. But, I didn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fiquei at\u00e9 me aperceber que as coisas nunca iriam melhorar. Que ele nunca iria mudar, por mais que eu o amasse e lhe mostrasse isso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Veja, <\/span>Aprendi da maneira mais dif\u00edcil que o amor nunca \u00e9 uma raz\u00e3o suficientemente boa para que esse tipo de pessoas mude.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

They just can’t understand that they have to change or that they’re doing something wrong. Also, they’re so good at pretending and acting.<\/span><\/p>\n

So often, their victims don’t even realize that they are being abused or mistreated.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Fingem que fazem tudo isso porque nos amam e querem o melhor para n\u00f3s. E o pior \u00e9 que nos fazem acreditar nisso tamb\u00e9m. Por isso, s\u00e3o de facto bons manipuladores.<\/span><\/p>\n

So many people told me that I shouldn’t put up with his behavior or the way he treated me.<\/span><\/p>\n

A minha fam\u00edlia, os meus amigos e at\u00e9 alguns dos meus colegas de trabalho aperceberam-se do que estava a acontecer e <\/span>aconselharam-me a p\u00f4r termo \u00e0 situa\u00e7\u00e3o antes que se agravasse ainda mais.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Narcissists truly have that ability to make you believe how all the people close to you are wrong and that they’re the only one who honestly cares about you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Essa foi a primeira coisa que ele me fez, isolar-me de todas as pessoas que me eram pr\u00f3ximas.<\/b><\/p>\n

Blame-shifting, emotional blackmail, gaslighting, lying, verbal and physical abuse\u2026 Those were just some of his techniques he used to manipulate me and to get what he wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

I said that I’m not sorry for loving someone and I’m never going to apologize for that. There is nothing wrong with that. However, I did make a mistake, one terrible mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eu amava-o e tentei tudo para o fazer acreditar nisso. Nesse processo exaustivo, perdi-me. I <\/span>perdi a minha identidade.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Esqueci-me de tudo sobre amor-pr\u00f3prio e cuidados pessoais. Esqueci-me que os meus sentimentos tamb\u00e9m s\u00e3o importantes. De certa forma, <\/span>Permiti que ele tomasse o controlo da minha vida.<\/i><\/b> Tudo isto facilitou-lhe a vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

Humilhou-me tantas vezes, tentou rebaixar-me \u00e0 frente de outras pessoas. <\/span>Ele fez todas as coisas que n\u00e3o tinham nada a ver com amor e, mesmo assim, fiquei com ele. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t strong enough to leave the man who abused me, the man whom I loved more than anything else. I couldn\u2019t save myself from my own hell.<\/span><\/p>\n

At\u00e9 que vi que tinha realmente batido no fundo do po\u00e7o. Isto pode parecer estranho, mas tive de me salvar do meu pr\u00f3prio amor e do homem que amava. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pus os meus sentimentos de lado e finalmente ganhei coragem para o calar. <\/b><\/p>\n

I still don\u2019t know how I gathered the courage but I did. I <\/span>n\u00e3o entrou em contacto<\/span> <\/a>e desapareci da vida dele. Fechei todas as portas que lhe permitiam chegar at\u00e9 mim.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was the best decision I ever made even though I didn\u2019t realize it until I started to heal. The peace that came after all the tears and sleepless nights was priceless.<\/span><\/p>\n

Finalmente, estava livre das suas correntes e senti que podia respirar de novo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Senti-me verdadeiramente como uma f\u00e9nix que renasceu das cinzas.  <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"mulher  <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

This letter isn’t only about me.<\/i><\/b> I wish it was but unfortunately, it’s not. There are so many stories similar to mine.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many women who are still victims of narcissistic abuse and who don\u2019t know how to put an end to it because of so many reasons.  <\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many people who are afraid of their abuser and they can\u2019t tell anyone about the hell they suffered or are still suffering.<\/span><\/p>\n

Espero que a minha hist\u00f3ria sirva de motiva\u00e7\u00e3o para todos os que sofreram ou ainda sofrem algum tipo de abuso, mas especialmente para os que sofreram abuso narc\u00edsico.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know you’re hurt. I know it’s hard<\/span>. I know it seems like you’re falling apart.<\/i><\/b> I know how it seems like you’ll never be able to continue with your life but you will.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll get through it. <\/span>Melhores dias vir\u00e3o.<\/i><\/b> I promise that one day you’ll be able to talk about it without crying or your voice shaking, just as I’m able to do now.<\/span><\/p>\n

One day, you’ll even thank God for those difficult times he put you through because it only made you stronger. You’ll use it as <\/span>a tua maior li\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a>. <\/span>A li\u00e7\u00e3o que muda a sua vida<\/i><\/b>.<\/b>  <\/span><\/p>\n

Hang in there and believe in yourself as I truly do. You are stronger than you think and you\u2019ll come out of those bad times even stronger. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estou a enviar-lhe um abra\u00e7o virtual de apoio.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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