{"id":86532,"date":"2021-05-18T17:56:23","date_gmt":"2021-05-18T17:56:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=86532"},"modified":"2022-09-20T08:36:50","modified_gmt":"2022-09-20T08:36:50","slug":"como-comunicar-com-um-parceiro-evitante","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-comunicar-com-um-parceiro-evitante\/","title":{"rendered":"Como comunicar com um parceiro evitante: 10 formas comprovadas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Segundo a teoria da vincula\u00e7\u00e3o, existem tr\u00eas tipos b\u00e1sicos de estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o: seguro, ansioso e evitante. Cada um deles afecta a rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre duas pessoas.<\/p>\n

Dependendo das nossas experi\u00eancias passadas, sobretudo rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas e experi\u00eancias de inf\u00e2ncia, todos n\u00f3s cri\u00e1mos uma destas estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o para n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/a><\/p>\n

An avoidant attachment style is when a person wants to be close to someone but at the same time, they aren’t comfortable with being in a relationship and sharing certain things with the other person.<\/p>\n

T\u00eam opini\u00f5es negativas sobre si pr\u00f3prias e sobre as outras pessoas.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

They think that one day, you’ll use their feelings and their secrets to hurt them; that\u2019s why many people want to know how to communicate with an avoidant partner.<\/p>\n

Numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, ambos os parceiros devem aceitar o outro como ele realmente \u00e9, celebrar as suas diferen\u00e7as e lidar com os seus problemas de forma saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Dicas sobre como comunicar com um parceiro evitante<\/h2>\n

Establishing a healthy relationship and communication with an avoidant partner isn’t so difficult; you just have to calm your nervous system and be more patient.<\/p>\n

Aqui est\u00e1 como comunicar<\/a> com um parceiro evitante das formas mais eficientes e comprovadas.<\/p>\n

Deixe-os vir ter consigo primeiro<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don’t chase after them. If you have had a fight or disagreement, don’t constantly call or text them. Don’t text them and they will text you<\/a>. Your partner will probably need time to gather their thoughts before they’re ready to talk to you.<\/p>\n

Let them come to you first. After some time, they’ll cool off and it’ll be easier for both of you to talk and solve your issues peacefully.<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa com um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante \u00e9 medo da intimidade f\u00edsica.<\/a> Se a pessoa decidiu dar esse passo consigo, tem de ter cuidado com ela depois disso.<\/p>\n

If they seem distant or request some alone time afterward, don’t immediately start thinking about how something went wrong. They don’t want to break up, they just need time to process what happened.<\/p>\n

You have to be aware that you need to go slowly with an avoidant person. Don’t compare them to your previous partners, nor your relationship with your past ones.<\/p>\n

Reconhecer os seus limites<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A person with an avoidant attachment style knows how important their boundaries and limits are to them and they try to respect other people\u2019s boundaries.<\/p>\n

They won’t be direct about the things they don’t like but as time goes by, you’ll be able to figure it out by yourself.<\/p>\n

Then you have to find the right way to deal with it and respond to it. Having boundaries is good for every healthy relationship so you\u2019ll also have to set some of your own.<\/p>\n

Show that you’re reliable<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Even in times when they request some time alone or some space, you have to respect it but you also have to show them that you’re there for them.<\/p>\n

Tell them that you’ll be there if they decide to talk to you. Tell them that no matter what happens, you believe in your strong bond and that you’ll fight it together.<\/p>\n

Se lhes prometeu algo, tem de cumprir a sua palavra. Se lhe disseram algo em confid\u00eancia e lhe juraram segredo, n\u00e3o o deve repetir a mais ningu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

They must know that they can trust you. If you have had a fearful-avoidant open up to you, trust me, you’ve already achieved great success. Becoming emotionally close to someone is their biggest fear.<\/p>\n

Don’t avoid disagreements<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

You have different opinions and perspectives over some things and it’s perfectly normal that you’ll come into conflict.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t avoid it. It’ll be good for you. Your partner might unintentionally open up to you in those moments and that’ll be a great way for you to understand how they feel and think about you.<\/p>\n

If you both run away from conflict, your partner will continue to bottle up their emotions and it’s only a matter of time before those emotions boil over, which would significantly change your relationship for sure.<\/p>\n

Falem dos vossos interesses comuns<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Encontre alguns pontos em comum, alguns interesses comuns, e fale sobre eles. Isto \u00e9 especialmente importante para aqueles que acabaram de iniciar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Maybe you can find some things that you both like, a common hobby or some TV shows that you both like, something you’ll both enjoy doing or talking about.<\/p>\n

You’ll learn so much about each other from performing some activities together.<\/p>\n

Afterward, talk about your new experience and how it made you feel. I’m sure it will improve your communication and create a deeper bond between you two.<\/p>\n

Pergunte frequentemente ao seu parceiro como se sente<\/h3>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

It’s very important to know how your partner feels, which is why you should talk about your emotions more often.<\/p>\n

Don’t start that conversation only once you see some changes in your partner’s behavior, as it might be too late then.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 especialmente importante porque sabemos como \u00e9 dif\u00edcil para uma pessoa com um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante abrir-se connosco e falar sobre as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es por si pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n

Your partner is shy when it comes to talking about their feelings and they\u2019re also afraid that you might use their feelings to control them, which is why they think that the best thing is to keep it to themselves.<\/p>\n

Envie-lhes uma mensagem a meio do dia a perguntar como est\u00e3o ou como est\u00e1 a correr o dia.<\/p>\n

It’s not just important for them to talk about their feelings for you; you have to talk about their issues at work, their problems with family and all the other things that bother them.<\/p>\n

Additionally,  you can’t only talk about their physical health, you must also ask them about their spiritual and sa\u00fade mental <\/a>porque quando se trata de pessoas evitadoras, a sa\u00fade mental \u00e9 igualmente importante.<\/p>\n

Fale sobre os seus medos<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

We all have some fears but most people don’t like to talk about them because they don\u2019t think others will understand.<\/p>\n

Se o seu parceiro se sente \u00e0 vontade para lhe falar dos seus medos, por mais estranhos ou engra\u00e7ados que sejam, tem de mostrar compreens\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Tell them that they are normal and that they’re probably not the only person with those fears. After all, if they bother them so much, there is always a way to work on them and overcome them.<\/p>\n

Falar dos seus pr\u00f3prios defeitos e imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Show them that you aren’t ashamed to talk about your flaws and imperfections. Show them that you have embraced them and that you accept them as part of you.<\/p>\n

Maybe it’ll help them to open up and talk about their flaws and maybe they’ll follow your example and also embrace their imperfections.<\/p>\n

Falar amplamente sobre o futuro<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

If you think that you should have \u2018the talk\u2019, you shouldn’t ask them directly how they feel about taking the next step or about your future together.<\/p>\n

Fale sobre o futuro em geral e pergunte-lhes quais s\u00e3o os seus planos para o futuro. Pergunte-lhes onde gostariam de viver, quando querem casar e quantos filhos querem ter.<\/p>\n

From their answers, you’ll be able to understand whether your relationship has a future or not. If they mention you in their plans for the future, then they’re sure they want to spend their life with you.<\/p>\n

No entanto, pode demorar algum tempo at\u00e9 que decidam dar o passo seguinte.<\/p>\n

Ter paci\u00eancia<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

With people who have an avoidant attachment style, it\u2019s all about patience.<\/p>\n

Primeiro, temos de aprender os seus h\u00e1bitos, depois temos de reconhecer os seus limites e fronteiras e temos de encontrar alguns interesses comuns que possam fazer em conjunto.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso provar-lhes que se ama verdadeiramente para que possam abrir-se a si.<\/p>\n

It takes time to build a connection with a fearful-avoidant. If you have strong feelings for them and want to make your relationship work, you’ll have to be patient and take it one step at a time.<\/p>\n

Como estabelecer uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o com um parceiro evitante<\/h2>\n

Uma pessoa evitante n\u00e3o \u00e9 necessariamente um narcisista. Algumas pessoas usam o estilo evitante apenas como prote\u00e7\u00e3o para n\u00e3o serem magoadas pela pessoa que amam.<\/p>\n

It’s possible to connect with an avoidant person and it’s actually pretty simple to do; you just have to be full of understanding and patience.<\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m tens de aprender um pouco mais sobre o estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante. Estas s\u00e3o algumas das melhores formas de estabelecer uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu parceiro evitante.<\/p>\n

Don’t invade their personal space<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A primeira coisa que tem de fazer \u00e9 aceitar o facto de o seu parceiro ser um <\/i><\/b>distanciador<\/i><\/b>. <\/i><\/b>Then, if you really love them, you’ll have to accept it and try to find the best way to deal with it.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t think that you can accept it and feel the need that you have to change them somehow, then my advice for you is to admit it to them and end things with them while it’s still not too late.<\/p>\n

People with an avoidant attachment pattern consider themselves independent even when they’re in a relationship. If they ask you for some space, don’t hesitate to give it them.<\/p>\n

Let’s be honest, we all need some personal space in a relationship and only because we have different interests. It’ll also help to keep the peace between you two in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Dar-lhes o tempo de que necessitam<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If we have different interests and need some personal space when we’re in a romantic relationship, then we also need some alone time.<\/p>\n

By respecting their need to be alone for some time, you’re showing them that you understand and accept them for who they are.<\/p>\n

It’s difficult for a fearful-avoidant to maintain a relationship. They want to be close to someone but at the same time, they worry that they might get hurt so they try to protect themselves.<\/p>\n

Estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 dif\u00edcil para eles, por muito que o queiram, e tentam esconder isso. T\u00eam emo\u00e7\u00f5es contradit\u00f3rias e, por vezes, \u00e9 muito complicado.<\/p>\n

That’s why they need some time for themselves. They want to think about their relationship and their partner and they want to organize their thoughts and emotions.<\/p>\n

Don’t pressure them<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Don’t pressure them into something they don’t want to do. Don’t try to make them do anything because you won’t get the answer you hoped for.<\/p>\n

Pressuring them will only make things worse. Avoidantly attached partners like to feel independent and that’s why they don’t like to be told what to do.<\/p>\n

Mostrar compreens\u00e3o do seu estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s temos estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o diferentes e a \u00fanica coisa que podemos fazer \u00e9 aceitar o nosso partner’s attachment style<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Escolheste-os, apaixonaste-te por eles sozinho e agora tens de os aceitar como s\u00e3o. Eles aceitaram-no, por isso, porque \u00e9 que h\u00e1-de tentar mud\u00e1-los?<\/p>\n

You have to show interest and respect for their own needs. I know that sometimes you aren’t okay with their avoidant behavior but you have to find a way to accept it and find the best way to deal with it in healthy ways.<\/p>\n

Prove that you’re trustworthy<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Nunca, mas mesmo NUNCA, diga a outra pessoa algo que ela lhe tenha dito em confid\u00eancia; isso \u00e9 algo que um desdenhoso-evitador<\/a> doesn’t forgive.<\/p>\n

Mostre-lhes que podem contar consigo sempre que precisarem de si. Show them that they can count on you because you’ll always be there for them. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Have respect for their needs and wants. If they request some alone time or some space for themselves, don’t make a scene and let them have it; it\u2019s just how they need to unwind.<\/p>\n

The more you prove that you respect their attachment needs, the closer you’ll get to them and they’ll be able to trust you and open up to you.<\/p>\n

Ouvir mais do que falar<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It’s okay to open up to your partner and tell them how you feel and it\u2019s okay to talk about your own needs, thoughts and feelings.<\/p>\n

No entanto, se quer realmente estabelecer uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o com um parceiro evitante, tem de o ouvir mais e falar menos.<\/p>\n

You have to show them that you are really trying to understand their avoidant behavior and that’s why you listen to them so carefully.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a com que se abram para si.<\/i><\/b> Mostre-lhes que podem confiar em si para tudo. Tente falar com ele sobre as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas ou a sua inf\u00e2ncia.<\/p>\n

Se descobrirmos porque \u00e9 que criaram esse estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ou quem s\u00e3o os seus <\/i><\/b>figura de anexo<\/i><\/b> era<\/i><\/b>, it’ll be easier for you to find a way to cope with their <\/i><\/b>estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/i><\/b>. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ir a aconselhamento de casais, se necess\u00e1rio<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you can’t deal with your problems by yourselves, then I suggest couples therapy as it\u2019s the only way you’ll be able to handle your partner’s avoidant attachment style.<\/p>\n

The professionals at couples counseling will tell you how to get your relationship back on track and how to connect and communicate more effectively and they\u2019ll also explain everything about attachment theory.<\/p>\n

It’s truly worth a shot.<\/i><\/b> Besides, if it doesn’t help you, it can’t make things worse for you.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 muito mais f\u00e1cil lidar com um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o seguro do que com um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante. Estas pessoas sentem-se confort\u00e1veis em estar muito pr\u00f3ximas de algu\u00e9m e numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00edntima com algu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

No entanto, os evitadores atraem sobretudo pessoas com estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansiosos.<\/p>\n

They suit them best because anxious people lack self-confidence and they think they aren’t good enough; that\u2019s why they would do whatever it takes just to keep being in the relationship.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Avoidant people play a little hard to get and that’s why they more often end up with anxious partners. They chase them, which pleases their ego.<\/p>\n

Avoidant people didn’t<\/a> escolhem ser assim por si pr\u00f3prios, e \u00e9 por isso que temos de mostrar a nossa compaix\u00e3o e compreens\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

O facto \u00e9 que todos os casais t\u00eam de passar por momentos dif\u00edceis e a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um evitante-medroso ir\u00e1 certamente passar por alguns momentos dif\u00edceis, mas o facto \u00e9 que when you truly love someone, you can’t just run away when things become ugly; you have to stay, fight for your relationship and nurture it more than ever.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Esperamos que estas dicas sobre como comunicar com um parceiro evitante o tenham ajudado.<\/p>\n

It’s hard to maintain a relationship with an avoidant person but trust me, it’s all worth it. When an avoidant falls in love, it’s truly for the rest of their life.<\/p>\n

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