{"id":8662,"date":"2020-08-17T08:47:17","date_gmt":"2020-08-17T08:47:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=8662"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:59:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:59:01","slug":"encontraras-forca-afasta-te-de-uma-relacao-toxica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/encontraras-forca-afasta-te-de-uma-relacao-toxica\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 assim que encontrar\u00e1s a for\u00e7a para te afastares de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sabias no fundo que aquilo n\u00e3o era amor. O amor n\u00e3o era suposto ser assim. N\u00e3o era suposto o amor magoar-te e diminuir-te.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o era suposto o amor fazer-nos sentir menos dignos. Mas o teu amor f\u00ea-lo.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>O teu amor partia-te o cora\u00e7\u00e3o todas as manh\u00e3s que acordavas. O teu amor magoava-te com cada mensagem que recebias. O teu amor destruiu-te com cada palavra dura que disse.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>It wasn\u2019t always like that. When you met him, he wanted to give you the world. He wanted you to feel safe and protected.<\/p>\n<p>He wanted to wrap you in his love and keep you safe in his arms\u2014away from bad people, away from the vicious world.<\/p>\n<p><i> Isn\u2019t that every girl\u2019s dream? Isn\u2019t that all you\u2019ve ever wanted? <\/i><\/p>\n<p>Por isso, alinhaste. Por isso, aceitaste segui-lo cegamente porque viste um raio de sol ao fundo do teu t\u00fanel escuro e solit\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-108218\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-loving-couple-standing-face-to-face.jpg\" alt=\"um casal amoroso frente a frente\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-loving-couple-standing-face-to-face.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-loving-couple-standing-face-to-face-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-loving-couple-standing-face-to-face-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-loving-couple-standing-face-to-face-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-loving-couple-standing-face-to-face-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quem diria que ele s\u00f3 a arrastaria mais para a escurid\u00e3o em vez de lhe mostrar a sa\u00edda?<\/p>\n<p>He began to change, to show his hidden \u2018rotten\u2019 face one tiny step at a time. It first began with nagging: \u201cYou shouldn\u2019t have done this, you shouldn\u2019t have done that\u2026\u201d, but gradually it became worse.<\/p>\n<p>Ele come\u00e7ou a gritar contigo por cada coisa que desaprovava ou n\u00e3o gostava. Ele queria que tu dan\u00e7asses ao som da m\u00fasica que ele tocava.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>He wanted you to become someone else, someone up his street\u2014a complete stranger to you. He wanted you to be perfect, his little work of art. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>And you became that. You couldn\u2019t recognize yourself anymore. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/todas-as-raparigas-ja-perderam-um-homem-toxico\/\">You weren\u2019t the person you used to be.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Pouco a pouco, uma coisa de cada vez, ele certificou-se de que isso acontecia. Corrigia-te em tudo o que fazias.<\/p>\n<p>Even when you had your moments of complete soberness, when you weren\u2019t drugged with his words and deeds, when you knew that you weren\u2019t crazy and that you weren\u2019t guilty of things he accused you of, you couldn\u2019t fight back.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-108225\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-young-loving-couple-arguing-in-the-house.jpg\" alt=\"um jovem casal amoroso a discutir em casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-young-loving-couple-arguing-in-the-house.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-young-loving-couple-arguing-in-the-house-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-young-loving-couple-arguing-in-the-house-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-young-loving-couple-arguing-in-the-house-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-young-loving-couple-arguing-in-the-house-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ele desarmava-o logo no in\u00edcio da batalha.<\/p>\n<p>Fazia-te acreditar em coisas que n\u00e3o eram verdadeiras, inventava palavras e dava-lhes vida, como se tivessem sa\u00eddo da tua boca.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o havia esperan\u00e7a e estava perdido, sem ter para onde ir, a n\u00e3o ser ficar ali e esperar que ele acabasse.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, you were even apologizing for things that you never did, just so you could shut him up, just so he would leave you alone already. You couldn\u2019t listen to him and his screaming anymore.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Cada uma das suas palavras frias e sem cora\u00e7\u00e3o trespassou-te mesmo no \u00e2mago do teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, como se fossem l\u00e2minas velhas e ferrugentas mas afiadas.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Those hurtful and degrading moments were the ones that led you to where you are today\u2014far away from him.<\/p>\n<p>Although you felt like you couldn\u2019t take any of it anymore, you weren\u2019t aware that every toxic move he made gave you more strength to <a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/kat-george\/2013\/07\/here-is-how-you-walk-away-from-him\/\" rel=\"noopener\">afastar-se dele.<\/a> Sei que j\u00e1 sabes isso.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-108216 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-brunette-in-black-with-a-brown-bag-goes-somewhere.jpg\" alt=\"uma morena de preto com um saco castanho vai a algum lado\" width=\"800\" height=\"543\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-brunette-in-black-with-a-brown-bag-goes-somewhere.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-brunette-in-black-with-a-brown-bag-goes-somewhere-300x204.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-brunette-in-black-with-a-brown-bag-goes-somewhere-768x521.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-brunette-in-black-with-a-brown-bag-goes-somewhere-150x102.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Sempre que querias ir embora, ele puxava-te de novo para dentro<\/i><\/b> . Sempre que o confrontava e lhe dizia que ele a tratava mal, ele pedia desculpa s\u00f3 para a calar, tratava-a bem durante uns dias e depois o c\u00edrculo continuava.<\/p>\n<p>Assim que ele visse que tinhas acalmado, voltava a ser um completo idiota.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Continuava a pensar que ele ia mudar.<\/i><\/b> You knew you fell in love with him for some reason, but you couldn\u2019t remember why anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, continuou a pensar que ele ia mudar. Continuou a mentir a si pr\u00f3pria que era apenas uma fase e que ele iria sair dela. At\u00e9 tentou ajud\u00e1-lo a ver que ele n\u00e3o era uma boa pessoa.<\/p>\n<p>All of that was in vain. These people can\u2019t change unless they want to. You can\u2019t do anything about it so it would be better if you\u2019 never even tried. You should have left a long time ago.<\/p>\n<p>But, it\u2019s okay because you left. Somehow you found the strength and one simple goodbye did it. Done. He is history now.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Encontrou a for\u00e7a para aceitar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o como ela era<\/i><\/b> \u2014a pack of toxic lies. Lying and cheating became more than you could handle.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-108210\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/beautiful-brunette-standing-outside-with-a-man-and-talking.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/beautiful-brunette-standing-outside-with-a-man-and-talking.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/beautiful-brunette-standing-outside-with-a-man-and-talking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/beautiful-brunette-standing-outside-with-a-man-and-talking-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/beautiful-brunette-standing-outside-with-a-man-and-talking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/beautiful-brunette-standing-outside-with-a-man-and-talking-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You simply cracked. And he couldn\u2019t stop there. Not just that he lied to you, he abused you emotionally by making you believe in things that were not true.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/narcisistas-manipuladores-psicopatas-pessoas-toxicas-prejudicar\/\">Ele enganou-a e manipulou-a<\/a> para fazer o que ele queria.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Encontrou a for\u00e7a para finalmente p\u00f4r fim a tudo.<\/i><\/b> You decided you weren\u2019t going to hurt anymore. You decided that you weren\u2019t going to waste your life on that pathetic bastard who was sucking you dry.<\/p>\n<p>You decided you\u2019d had enough of him tearing you up inside.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Encontrou a for\u00e7a para finalmente dizer a si pr\u00f3prio que merecia melhor. <\/i><\/b> You know that life doesn\u2019t last forever and you finally realized that you might miss the right one by putting up with the wrong one.<\/p>\n<p>You knew it was time to change that, at any cost. The kind of love you were getting was not the love you deserved and the amount of love you were putting into your relationship wasn\u2019t paid back, not even a bit.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Encontrou a for\u00e7a para aceitar que deix\u00e1-lo a magoaria<\/i><\/b> . Of course, you\u2019re going to hurt. No matter what he did to you, you got used to being around that person.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-108214 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-sad-red-haired-woman-standing-outside-in-the-rain.jpg\" alt=\"uma mulher ruiva e triste que est\u00e1 l\u00e1 fora \u00e0 chuva\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-sad-red-haired-woman-standing-outside-in-the-rain.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-sad-red-haired-woman-standing-outside-in-the-rain-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-sad-red-haired-woman-standing-outside-in-the-rain-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-sad-red-haired-woman-standing-outside-in-the-rain-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-sad-red-haired-woman-standing-outside-in-the-rain-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He was a part of your life for a long time and now he\u2019s gone. Every change is scary, even one for the good. The scariest part is the one that comes right after breaking up.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1s a sofrer por estares sozinha e, para n\u00e3o falar do facto de ele ter tomado conta de ti, sentires-te rejeitada e indigna.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Encontrou a for\u00e7a para assumir o controlo da sua vida.<\/i><\/b> Esta \u00e9 a coisa mais importante que tens de perceber. Finalmente percebeste que precisavas de fazer alguma coisa.<\/p>\n<p>Percebeu que se recusaria a continuar a viver assim. Talvez agora precise da ajuda dos seus amigos ou da sua fam\u00edlia, talvez precise de ajuda profissional.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever it is, don\u2019t hesitate to ask, to do something. That is only the first but most important step that awaits you in life. A life without abuse, a life without him.<\/p>\n<p><i> Don\u2019t let anyone define you and mold you like you\u2019re a lousy and faceless piece of clay. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i> Don\u2019t let anyone make you his own masterpiece because you are the only one who knows what you need, want and deserve. Never settle for anything else <\/i> .<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-108235 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-How-Youll-Find-The-Strength-To-Walk-Away-From-A-Toxic-Relationship-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"\u00c9 assim que encontrar\u00e1s a for\u00e7a para te afastares de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-How-Youll-Find-The-Strength-To-Walk-Away-From-A-Toxic-Relationship-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-How-Youll-Find-The-Strength-To-Walk-Away-From-A-Toxic-Relationship-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-How-Youll-Find-The-Strength-To-Walk-Away-From-A-Toxic-Relationship-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-How-Youll-Find-The-Strength-To-Walk-Away-From-A-Toxic-Relationship-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-How-Youll-Find-The-Strength-To-Walk-Away-From-A-Toxic-Relationship-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You knew deep inside that it wasn\u2019t love. Love was not supposed to be like that. Love was not supposed to hurt you and diminish you. Love was not supposed to make you feel less worthy. But, your love did. Your love broke your heart every morning you woke up. Your love hurt you with&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":108207,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8662","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-How-Youll-Find-The-Strength-To-Walk-Away-From-A-Toxic-Relationship.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? 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