{"id":87677,"date":"2020-08-14T06:31:58","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T06:31:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=87677"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:33:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:33:25","slug":"o-que-e-a-auto-traicao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-que-e-a-auto-traicao\/","title":{"rendered":"O que \u00e9 a auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o e como est\u00e1 a bloquear a sua paz interior?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> \u00e9 um h\u00e1bito incrivelmente prejudicial que, em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, decide o quanto <\/span>paz interior<\/span> que acaba por ter.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ve probably never considered the incredibly <\/span>de alto custo<\/span> do <\/span>ato de auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span>. That\u2019s why I’m about to show you all the ways in which you’re unintentionally causing yourself distress.<\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00e1 alguma vez sentiu que a sua decis\u00e3o de se fazer de v\u00edtima para os outros acaba muitas vezes por o atormentar com sentimentos de <\/span><\/i>indignidade<\/span><\/i>?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

O seu <\/span><\/i>auto-engano<\/span><\/i> O jogo j\u00e1 foi t\u00e3o forte que acabou por ir contra si pr\u00f3prio ao ponto de querer <\/span><\/i>desistir<\/span><\/i>?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Alguma vez escondes o teu <\/span><\/i>verdadeiro eu<\/span><\/i> out of a fear that it simply isn’t good enough?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If you’ve nodded your head in disbelief reading these, then the rest of this article is for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Sente-se mal amado? Aqui est\u00e3o as poss\u00edveis raz\u00f5es e como mudar isso<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que a sua trai\u00e7\u00e3o a si pr\u00f3prio o est\u00e1 a privar de <\/b>Amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/b>?<\/b><\/h2>\n

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I’ve betrayed myself so many times that I am deeply ashamed just reminiscing about it. I used to be so unkind and cruel toward myself that it stopped me from living an authentic life, which I know I deserved.<\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00f3s, como <\/span>seres humanos<\/span>, have this weird tendency to go against ourselves at times when it feels like we’re unworthy. And our <\/span>autoestima<\/span> muitas vezes sofre muito com isso.<\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00e1 alguma vez sentiu uma dor de barriga <\/b>auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b> por algu\u00e9m t\u00e3o pr\u00f3ximo de si? E consegues lembrar-te da sensa\u00e7\u00e3o excruciante que isso deixou no teu peito?<\/b><\/p>\n

Com isto em mente, considere uma forma ainda maior de trai\u00e7\u00e3o, que muitas vezes implementa na sua vida sem saber; <\/span>a trai\u00e7\u00e3o de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/b><\/p>\n

However, how do you know you’re betraying yourself? Simple; by not being your true, raw, authentic self. By feeling the need to put on a mask in front of others and seldom taking it off.<\/span><\/p>\n

Isto leva ao desespero final e a uma tristeza esmagadora que assola a mente, o corpo e a alma. E este \u00e9 o momento perfeito para vos apresentar uma das minhas cita\u00e7\u00f5es favoritas de sempre:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201dThe most <\/span><\/i>forma comum de desespero<\/span><\/i> is not being who you are.\u201d<\/span><\/i> – <\/span>S\u00f8ren Kierkegaard<\/span><\/p>\n

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Por n\u00e3o ser o seu <\/span>verdadeiro eu<\/span>, you start to feel unlovable, desperate and broken and most of all\u2014abandoned.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas a pessoa que se abandonou a si pr\u00f3pria n\u00e3o \u00e9 outra sen\u00e3o voc\u00ea. A pessoa que o est\u00e1 a privar de <\/b>amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/b> \u00e9s tu.<\/b><\/p>\n

A sua constante <\/span>auto-sabotagem<\/span> is leading you further and further away from the fulfilled, healthy life you’re meant to be leading.<\/span><\/p>\n

Com o tempo, come\u00e7ou a diminuir a sua pr\u00f3pria <\/span>poder pessoal<\/span> que est\u00e1 a sufocar o seu crescimento, a sua intelig\u00eancia emocional e a sua capacidade de amar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Isn’t it high time to weed out this <\/span>mau h\u00e1bito<\/span> e come\u00e7ar a praticar <\/span>autocuidado<\/span>? <\/span><\/p>\n

Considere isto o <\/span>chamada de aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> que precisava desesperadamente e que lhe est\u00e1 a implorar para come\u00e7ar a assumir a responsabilidade pelas suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mas, para o ultrapassar, \u00e9 preciso vir <\/span>cara a cara<\/span> com as repercuss\u00f5es que isso nos deixa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, de que forma \u00e9 que <\/i><\/b>auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/i><\/b> custar-lhe o seu <\/i><\/b>paz interior<\/i><\/b> e harmonia?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>A minha alma est\u00e1 cansada: Reconhecer os sinais de uma alma cansada e corrigi-los<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

This Is How You’re Unknowingly Hurting Yourself<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

As compara\u00e7\u00f5es pouco saud\u00e1veis conduzem a expectativas inating\u00edveis<\/h2>\n

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It’s time for brutal honesty right now. How many times has your need for comparisons led to anything happy and fulfilling?<\/span><\/p>\n

And how many times have you realized that no matter how much you yearn to be someone else, it’s just not possible? Because there will always be someone smarter, stronger or more attractive than you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Those are just facts. And you need to be faced with them in order to realize the damage you’re doing to yourself by constant comparisons.<\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o existe o indiv\u00edduo perfeito que preenche todos os requisitos que todos aspiram alcan\u00e7ar!<\/b><\/p>\n

Don’t let the media and the unhealthy standards of the beauty world deceive you into believing you’re not great just the way you are. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t you know that they make money off that? The more insecure and anxiety-ridden you are, the more profit they gain. They prey on our shortcomings.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Think about it. Their entire premise is that if you buy a particular product, it’s going to make you more appealing\/attractive\/skinny, so you end up buying it.<\/span><\/p>\n

But all it leaves you with is the sad realization that no product on the market will work because there’s nothing actually wrong with you. It’s all in your head.<\/b><\/p>\n

Silencie o cr\u00edtico interior que est\u00e1 constantemente a bombarde\u00e1-lo com pensamentos negativos e resista \u00e0 <\/span>auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> em que se envolve com alguma frequ\u00eancia.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s perfeitamente \u00fanico neste mundo e nenhum <\/span>ser humano<\/span> nunca ser\u00e1 t\u00e3o dotado, forte ou perspicaz como tu. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 duas pessoas completamente iguais e isso deve ser louvado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Os desafios que teve de superar na vida e os obst\u00e1culos que continuaram a bloquear o seu caminho tornaram-no melhor por isso. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t throw it all in the dust just because some magazine tells you that you need to change any aspect of yourself. Don’t let them convince you that you need improvement just to advance their own goal.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t! And the only person you need to convince of that is yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Colocar uma m\u00e1scara impede-nos de viver uma vida aut\u00eantica<\/h2>\n

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Por vezes, estamos t\u00e3o empenhados em fazer um espet\u00e1culo para os outros que nos esquecemos at\u00e9 que ponto o nosso <\/span>auto-engano<\/span> foi-se embora. <\/span><\/p>\n

E depois, torna-se cada vez mais dif\u00edcil perceber o quanto o nosso desejo de agradar aos outros nos impede de sermos aut\u00eanticos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s what I’m talking about.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

One of my close friends has always had this incredible zest for pursuing her dream of being an artist. It’s what makes her want to get up each morning with a smile on her face.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, a sua fam\u00edlia tem um consult\u00f3rio dent\u00e1rio e sempre esperaram que ela seguisse as suas pisadas. S\u00f3 que isso significava que ela tinha de <\/span>desistir<\/span> para realizar os seus sonhos e agradar aos seus pais, enquanto sofre por dentro.<\/span><\/p>\n

She chose to be miserable and unhappy, just so that she could make her parents’ wishes come true. <\/span>Mas a que custo?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Hoje, vive uma vida com um sorriso falso no rosto, porque evita o confronto. E tudo o que isso lhe traz \u00e9 mis\u00e9ria, cansa\u00e7o e total insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ela optou por n\u00e3o ser fiel ao seu eu aut\u00eantico para agradar a terceiros. E esse \u00e9 um dos maiores actos de <\/span>auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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We weren’t put on this earth to be anyone’s puppet. Our life mission isn’t to fit anyone’s mold but our own.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ao esconder o seu <\/span>verdadeiro eu<\/span> (every single flaw, shortcoming, mistake, etc.) you are putting it out into the universe that you’re not proud of who you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are subconsciously claiming that you aren’t important enough to go after what YOU desire and that putting others’ expectations over your own is how it needs to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it doesn’t. We live in a world filled with imperfect people who are all just trying to get by. Nobody has it all and nobody ever will. <\/span><\/p>\n

But that doesn’t mean that you should stop putting your needs first. <\/span>Orgulhe-se de cada um dos seus desejos, ambi\u00e7\u00f5es e sonhos. <\/b>Rodeie-se de pessoas que fa\u00e7am o mesmo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Crie uma comunidade de pessoas que se incentivam mutuamente para serem o melhor que podem ser, sem sacrificar nenhuma parte de si pr\u00f3prias. Os seus sonhos s\u00e3o importantes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Amizades impr\u00f3prias no casamento: S\u00e3o \"apenas amigos\"?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

A procura de um parceiro que o complete faz com que se sinta indigno por si s\u00f3<\/h2>\n

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We’ve all been programmed to seek the \u2018perfect mate\u2019 in order to achieve the ultimate goal of feeling complete.<\/span><\/p>\n

The media constantly imposes these insane beliefs, saying if you’re single at a certain age, you’ve missed your boat and if you’re childless well into your 30s, your life doesn’t have a true purpose.<\/span><\/p>\n

Society can be cruel sometimes but for as long as you understand that the most important relationship of your life is with yourself, you’re going to be okay.<\/b><\/p>\n

Many of us choose relationships that don’t fulfill us out of a fear of being on our own. We don’t want to be subject to others’ opinions, which is why we often choose to settle.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, finding the \u2018’one\u2019 isn’t your one and only purpose in life. And yes, you absolutely CAN feel complete and fulfilled all on your own. <\/span><\/p>\n

The entire concept of a \u2018better half\u2019 has set us all up for failure. It defies the whole purpose of life\u2014to find happiness within, regardless of how anyone feels about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Ser solteiro pode ser dif\u00edcil e bastante solit\u00e1rio. <\/span>But isn’t it better to be single and happy than in the wrong relationship and secretly miserable?<\/b><\/p>\n

Para o seu pr\u00f3prio bem, resista \u00e0 vontade doentia de entrar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o para se sentir fixado. Adivinhe s\u00f3? Ningu\u00e9m est\u00e1 aqui para compensar os seus defeitos. <\/span><\/p>\n

E nunca ter\u00e1s uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de alta qualidade contigo mesmo at\u00e9 perceberes que \u00e9s a tua primeira prioridade. Sempre. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quando se sentir em paz sozinho, pode procurar outras pessoas para aumentar a sua felicidade. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9s completo por ti pr\u00f3prio e tens a capacidade de te fazeres feliz. Permita-se ficar solteiro o tempo suficiente para compreender que nenhum outro <\/span>ser humano<\/span> pode completar-te.<\/span><\/p>\n

They can be part of your joy but you will always be a little bit messed up until you can wake up with a smile on your face even when you’re single but thriving.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ansiar pelo futuro faz-nos perder o presente<\/h2>\n

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I’ll be the first to admit that I have a toxic tendency to never be fully present in the moment. Somehow, I always feel like the future has something better in store and that therein lies my happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas tudo o que me resta \u00e9 ser roubado do momento presente. Pensem nisso.<\/span><\/p>\n

This moment in time is all we have right now. You can’t change the course of past events and who knows what the future holds.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s a form of <\/span>auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> when you keep postponing your happiness due to a belief that tomorrow might be better. Sure, it might be but what if it isn’t?<\/span><\/p>\n

E se o dia de amanh\u00e3 trouxer um novo conjunto de infort\u00fanios que o deixar\u00e3o ainda mais infeliz do que est\u00e1 atualmente? <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t let this rob you of living right here, right now. You must be present for every single moment because you never know when your last one could be.<\/span><\/p>\n

And the same goes for your past. We’ve all had our fair share of bad experiences and toxic relationships that have changed us in many ways.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Mas isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 raz\u00e3o para negar a si pr\u00f3prio a felicidade de desfrutar de cada dia que tem pela frente.<\/b><\/p>\n

Show your past who’s boss by kicking life’s ass in the present. Don’t let negative experiences stop you from going after what you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

Abrace a vida pelo que ela \u00e9 e aproveite todas as oportunidades que tiver para se rodear de beleza em todas as formas e feitios. Tem de ser mais gentil consigo pr\u00f3prio e deixar de se deixar abater. <\/span>auto-trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> diminuir toda a vossa gl\u00f3ria e poder.<\/span><\/p>\n

Independentemente do que lhe possam ter dito, merece levar a sua vida exatamente da forma que deseja. Optar por ver o passado como um professor valioso e ter esperan\u00e7a no que est\u00e1 para vir \u00e9 o caminho a seguir!<\/span><\/p>\n

At the end of the day, all we have is now. If you don’t take advantage of current opportunities by having your head in the past or the future, you’ll miss out on some great things.<\/span><\/p>\n

Choose to be present and remain focused on what’s happening today. You’ve learned from past mistakes and the future hasn’t even happened yet.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just breathe. It’s all going to be okay.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Aceitar as pessoas como elas s\u00e3o em vez de as tentar mudar<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Como superar o h\u00e1bito de se trair a si mesmo<\/h2>\n

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