{"id":87714,"date":"2020-09-08T06:53:11","date_gmt":"2020-09-08T06:53:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=87714"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:07:22","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:07:22","slug":"ja-estava-apaixonado-por-outra-pessoa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ja-estava-apaixonado-por-outra-pessoa\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o dur\u00e1mos porque j\u00e1 estavas apaixonado por outra pessoa - por ti pr\u00f3prio"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nunca tivemos uma hip\u00f3tese. Honestamente, est\u00e1vamos condenados desde o in\u00edcio. Tu j\u00e1 estavas apaixonada por outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

Your heart was full of love \u2013 narcissistic self-love.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I couldn’t recognize the signs back then. But I see them clearly now. You love yourself more than you’ll ever love anyone else.<\/p>\n

Ainda assim, pergunto-me if that’s a bad thing<\/a> ou n\u00e3o. Pergunto-me quem tinha raz\u00e3o. Tu que s\u00f3 te amavas a ti ou eu que te amava mais do que a mim e a qualquer outra pessoa na minha vida.<\/p>\n

I wonder if so much self-love is healthy. I wonder if you’ll ever change. I wonder if God will send you a girl one day that will make you change.<\/p>\n

Sabes, mesmo depois de todo este tempo, ainda me pergunto tantas coisas sobre ti e a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Preciso mesmo de algumas respostas. I clearly still don\u2019t have the closure I need.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I decided to write this letter because I think it’ll help me feel better. That maybe somehow it\u2019ll help me understand you and find that closure I long for so much.<\/p>\n

I always wanted to ask you WHY? Why couldn’t you even try to fall in love with me? Was the problem with me?<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o sou mesmo suficientemente bom para ti? Achas mesmo que ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 suficientemente bom para ti?<\/p>\n

\"parte<\/p>\n

Nevermind. I know you won’t answer that, it was a rhetorical question. You won’t answer it because not even you know the answer. You\u2019re so blindly in love with yourself.<\/p>\n

I actually feel sorry for you. Oh my God, I can\u2019t believe that I\u2019m feeling sorry for the man who broke my heart. But, I do.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You aren\u2019t even aware that your self-love is out of control.<\/strong><\/em> You can\u2019t see how narcissistic self-love is ruining your life.<\/p>\n

It didn\u2019t just drive me out of your life. It drove out so many people who truly cared for you and it\u2019ll continue to do so if you don\u2019t change something.<\/p>\n

I truly hope you will. I hope you\u2019ll understand before it gets too late. I hope you\u2019ll understand that you have to let other people into your heart before you end up all alone.<\/p>\n

I was aware of the fact that you didn’t love me long before I actually broke up with you but I was grasping for straws and denying reality.<\/p>\n

I loved you too much to come to terms with the fact you’ll never be able to reciprocate the love I gave you.<\/strong><\/em> It’s like one part of me was still hoping that one day you pode mudar<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I really hoped that one day you’d be able to realize everything I did for you and all the things I gave up for you. I don\u2019t regret it.<\/p>\n

Fiz tudo isso porque estava a tentar encontrar a chave do teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Pensava que eras mais do que aparentavas.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I believed that your narcissistic behavior was just a facade. That it\u2019s how you protect yourself from being hurt by someone you love. Estava a tentar derrubar todas aquelas paredes que constru\u00edste.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t let me do that. You didn\u2019t allow me to see the real you. If you only knew that my only intention was to love you until the day I die. I never played with you and my intention was never to hurt you.<\/p>\n

Maybe one day it’ll happen, you’ll be left all alone and it may suddenly hit you how much I cared for you and how much I honestly loved you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe one day you’ll realize that you were excessively self-absorbed and gambled away your (possibly only) chance for true love.<\/p>\n

But, I can’t wait forever for that to happen. I have to live my life. I know how much I\u2019m worth and I really deserve someone to love me as much as I loved you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tenho de come\u00e7ar a pensar em mim. Eu mere\u00e7o muito mais do que alguma vez me deste.<\/em><\/p>\n

After all, you were the one who taught me how important self-love is. I\u2019ll never allow it to become so narcissistic, but<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll definitely have to work on it so I start to appreciate myself more.<\/p>\n

As tuas necessidades foram sempre a minha principal prioridade, no entanto, nunca te preocupaste com o que eu precisava. Nunca estiveste l\u00e1 para mim, nem mesmo quando eu mais precisava de ti.<\/p>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Abdiquei de tantas coisas na minha vida por ti, enquanto tu nunca tentaste comprometer algumas coisas importantes.<\/p>\n

Fiz tudo isso para te manter na minha vida, enquanto tu nunca te preocupaste comigo ou sequer te preocupaste se eu te deixaria um dia.<\/p>\n

Esperavas que tudo girasse \u00e0 tua volta e assim foi. Foi assim durante demasiado tempo, at\u00e9 que finalmente percebi que precisava de p\u00f4r um fim a isso e voltar a ser uma prioridade.<\/p>\n

Until I realized that I’m important too and that my needs are equally important as yours.<\/p>\n

Eu mere\u00e7o outra pessoa.<\/strong> <\/em>Someone who’ll cherish me in a way you never did. Someone who’ll restore my faith in love. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Someone who’ll love himself but still make me and my love a priority.<\/p>\n

Don’t think that I hate you. I never have, I never could. You always said how God created my heart to love and care for others.<\/p>\n

I just think that you have a problem. There is a name for your behavior. It’s called a perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade narc\u00edsica<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I really think that you should seek professional help. That much self-love isn’t healthy. It\u2019s already ruined something good in your life. Don’t let it ruin your entire life.<\/p>\n

I truly hope you’ll understand before it’s too late. I really hope that one day you’ll be able to realize the importance of having someone in your life, to love you, to love her. To mutually love each other.<\/p>\n

\"N\u00e3o<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

We never had a chance. Honestly, we were doomed from the very beginning. You were already in love with someone else. Your heart was full of love \u2013 narcissistic self-love. I couldn’t recognize the signs back then. But I see them clearly now. You love yourself more than you’ll ever love anyone else. Still, I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-87714","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87714","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=87714"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87714\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=87714"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=87714"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=87714"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}