Even though some of you won\u2019t agree with me, you probably have your own reasons why you want to avoid catching feelings, aka the modern world plague.<\/p>\n
(Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here, right? Right.)<\/p>\n
Some of you want to focus on your career or finishing college or you just don’t have time for any type of romance that starts with catching feelings and ends up with catching tears.<\/p>\n
And guess what? That’s TOTALLY okay!<\/p>\n
It’s true that I’ve never been a fan of one-night-stands and casual hookups but sometimes \u2018a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do\u2019.<\/p>\n
Por vezes, temos de nos colocar em primeiro lugar, porque o amor-pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 tudo menos sobrevalorizado! <\/p>\n
Now that we got that straight, let’s see how to AVOID catching feelings and enjoy the charms of casual dating (without becoming a namorador em s\u00e9rie<\/a>):<\/p>\n Nunca fui uma pessoa de fazer c\u00f3pias de seguran\u00e7a, mas apercebi-me de que este conceito pode ser bastante \u00fatil.<\/p>\n The thing is, when you’re casually dating only one person, it is easier for you to start catching feelings for them.<\/p>\n You know that feeling when you’re dying of boredom and you want to do something fun but the guy\/girl that you’re dating is busy at the time?<\/p>\n Sometimes, you might think that they’re ignoring you on purpose and that’s when your casual thing starts turning into something emocional<\/a> mais do que casual.<\/strong><\/p>\n For that reason, it’s good to always have a backup (or a few of them, just in case). So, when Mike\/Emma is busy, you call the other guy\/girl who is available.<\/p>\n That way, you’ll protect yourself from any potential anticipation, necessary contemplation and waiting.<\/p>\n If one person is not available for a casual hangout, you know that you have other options available, so you basically don’t give a damn about anything else.<\/p>\n Sim, parece cruel, mas assim \u00e9 o mundo em que vivemos e a piscina dos encontros (e at\u00e9 rima!).<\/p>\n If you want to keep it \u2018no strings attached\u2019 and avoid them becoming your significant other, you should definitely avoid hanging out during the day (or at least not do it too often).<\/p>\n Why? Because somehow, magically, daytime is reserved for catching feelings. Do you think it is a coincidence that all those casual dating movie scenes are usually recorded at night? It’s not.<\/p>\n \u00c9 muito mais f\u00e1cil captar os sentimentos por algu\u00e9m quando essa pessoa passa a fazer parte da sua rotina di\u00e1ria. <\/strong><\/p>\n E pode dar por si a apressar-se a terminar outras coisas s\u00f3 para passar tempo com eles.<\/strong><\/p>\n However, night-time is a whole different thing. We (usually) don’t have anything to do at that time unless it\u2019s to chill the hell out.<\/p>\n When we’re in that mood, there’s less of a chance of catching feelings for someone.<\/p>\n We’re only focused on having a good time instead of talking about real-life problems or needing a shoulder to cry on and from my own personal experience, I can confirm that those things bond people.<\/p>\n If you’re not ready for that (yet), then you should avoid or minimize hangouts during the day.<\/p>\n Sem d\u00favida, os encontros casuais t\u00eam muitas vantagens e a minha preferida \u00e9 p\u00f4r-se a si pr\u00f3prio em primeiro lugar.<\/p>\n You don’t have a sense of \u2018obligation\u2019 toward your dating partner, which means you can hang out whenever you feel like it.<\/p>\n You don’t have to explain why you’re not in a good mood at that moment or why you prefer binge-watching over spending time with them.<\/p>\n So, as long as you’re putting yourself first, you’re on the right track.<\/p>\n The moment you start canceling your own plans for the sake of hanging out with them, then you know you’re doomed.<\/strong><\/p>\n Porqu\u00ea?<\/strong> Porque cancelar planos significa sacrificar o seu pr\u00f3prio hor\u00e1rio e liberdade por algu\u00e9m que mal conhece (ou algu\u00e9m que gostaria de conhecer melhor).<\/p>\n Quando isso acontece, faz deles a sua prioridade n\u00famero um, o que equivale a estar numa semi-rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Ponha-se sempre em primeiro lugar e pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio o que gostaria de fazer nesse momento, em vez de pensar demasiado nas coisas. V\u00e1 com a corrente, mime-se e aproveite cada segundo.<\/p>\n A sua vida = as suas regras!<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: Apanhado a sentir algo pelo homem errado? 6 maneiras de os fazer desaparecer<\/a><\/p>\n Estabelecer limites \u00e9 uma coisa maravilhosa em todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es e especialmente quando se trata de dominar a arte de como n\u00e3o apanhar sentimentos.<\/p>\n Pense em estabelecer algumas regras b\u00e1sicas com o seu parceiro casual.<\/p>\n Fale sobre o que seria considerado inapropriado e escreva-o, se necess\u00e1rio, para que se possa lembrar sempre dessas regras de ouro.<\/strong><\/p>\n Uma das suas regras b\u00e1sicas deve ser, sem d\u00favida, N\u00c3O dar as m\u00e3os (especialmente em p\u00fablico) e deve evitar longas sess\u00f5es de car\u00edcias.<\/p>\n O que quer que seja que o fa\u00e7a sentir desconfort\u00e1vel ou estranho, coloque-o na lista. Pe\u00e7a-lhes tamb\u00e9m que fa\u00e7am o mesmo.<\/p>\n When you know all the things that you shouldn’t do if you want to preserve casual status, then it will be easier for you to maintain it.<\/p>\n When I was in a recent no-strings-attached relationship, I didn’t set any rules because I thought that I could manage without them. Boy, was I wrong.<\/p>\n Sem dar por isso, dei por mim a pensar demasiado nas coisas e a questionar constantemente as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/strong><\/p>\n Sempre que estavam prestes a fazer alguma coisa, surgiam-me mil perguntas na cabe\u00e7a, porque tinha medo que fizessem algo que n\u00e3o fosse casual.<\/p>\n When you’re constantly anxious about such things, you cannot have fun and just enjoy the moment so for the sake of your own well-being, estabelecer limites<\/a> e cumpri-las.<\/p>\n You have no idea how grateful you will be for doing that because that is the only way for a casual thing to function properly in the long run. So, you’re welcome!<\/p>\n “You promised that you would call me! You didn\u2019t pay the bill at the restaurant. You make me feel sad and disappointed.”<\/em><\/p>\n As tr\u00eas frases acima s\u00e3o coisas que s\u00f3 devem ser usadas num contexto s\u00e9rio, ou seja, numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria, por isso deve guard\u00e1-las para a sua futura cara-metade.<\/p>\n Por isso, quando se trata de encontros casuais, a regra n\u00famero um \u00e9 baixar as suas expectativas. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso ter em mente que a outra pessoa n\u00e3o \u00e9 obrigada a fazer nada por si, muito menos a pagar uma conta.<\/strong><\/p>\n And the same thing goes for you as well. You don’t need to put much effort into your hangouts and you should expect less effort treatment in return as well.<\/p>\n If you don’t lower your expectations, you might get hurt and you don’t want that. You don’t want them to disappoint you, hurt you, play with you or make you cry.<\/p>\n You want to find a middle ground; a balance between a booty call and dating exclusively. Once you succeed in doing so, then you know you won’t be able to catch feelings so quickly.<\/p>\n It’s important to understand that casual dating is not the same thing as booty calls. It’s somewhere in-between a serious relationship and, okay, a engate<\/a>.<\/p>\n Por isso, se houver uma festa do pijama (e Deus sabe que vai haver), devem ser picantes e n\u00e3o devem ter a ver com rela\u00e7\u00f5es (ou seja, n\u00e3o devem ser demasiado giras e inocentes).<\/p>\n Now, this doesn’t mean that you should be active the whole night (if you catch my drift) but you also shouldn’t be grandma-style.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you notice that all you do during sleepovers is cuddle without initiating anything spicier, then you know you’re doomed.<\/p>\n This is something that happens in long-term relationships, where partners tend to enjoy each other’s presence more than anything else.<\/p>\n Escusado ser\u00e1 dizer que este cen\u00e1rio \u00e9 perfeito para se apaixonarem gradualmente e se ligarem profundamente um ao outro.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you don’t want that, then you should keep your sleepovers spicy and not lazy. But remember, don’t overdo it because they are not your booty call.<\/p>\n You don’t want to find yourself drooling over the phone every minute while persuading them to sleep over.<\/p>\n Estas coisas devem acontecer naturalmente e, se acontecerem, \u00e9 melhor apiment\u00e1-las!<\/p>\n What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you see two people holding hands? That they’re in a relationship, right?<\/p>\n Tal e qual demonstra\u00e7\u00f5es p\u00fablicas de afeto (PDA)<\/a> est\u00e3o frequentemente relacionados com algo de grave.<\/p>\n So, the last thing you need is other people thinking that you’re in a relationship (which might also ruin your backup plans).<\/strong><\/p>\n This is why you should keep PDA behind closed doors unless you want other people to witness them. If you don’t, then you’re a legit casual dater and I encourage you to keep up the good work.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, tenho de acrescentar algo que pode ser irrelevante para alguns de v\u00f3s.<\/p>\n I’ve noticed that many people practice PDA just because they want to be seen with their partner and not because they have this uncontrollable urge for make-out sessions in the middle of the street.<\/p>\n Querem partilhar o seu amor com outras pessoas, enquanto alguns s\u00f3 querem fazer ci\u00fames aos outros.<\/p>\n There are many possible interpretations but the most important thing is to keep your affection behind closed doors until you’re ready to go public.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: 10 sinais \u00f3bvios de que ele est\u00e1 a fingir que n\u00e3o gosta de ti (e 8 raz\u00f5es para isso)<\/a><\/p>\n Provavelmente, tem um restaurante preferido, um caf\u00e9 onde se sente em casa e onde gosta de relaxar antes ou depois do trabalho ou um s\u00edtio relaxante onde vai para recarregar energias.<\/p>\n Well, guess what? Avoid taking your casual bae to those places if you don’t want to ruin your life. Joking aside, it’s kind of true that this could potentially mess up your life big time.<\/p>\n Imagine que, com o tempo, os seus lugares favoritos se tornam tamb\u00e9m os lugares favoritos deles.<\/strong><\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, acorda de manh\u00e3, vai ao seu caf\u00e9 e l\u00e1 est\u00e3o eles, sentados e a beber o seu expresso enquanto acenam para que se junte a eles.<\/p>\n A primeira coisa que lhe vem \u00e0 cabe\u00e7a \u00e9 provavelmente algo do g\u00e9nero: Oh, n\u00e3o!<\/p>\n Sim, se necess\u00e1rio, poder\u00e1 inventar desculpas<\/a> like you’re in a hurry or similar (because ain’t nobody got time to think of a proper excuse when taken by surprise).<\/p>\n However, sadly, you wouldn’t be able to use the same excuse every single time you see them there.<\/p>\n Por isso, N\u00c3O os leve aos seus locais favoritos se quiser manter os mesmos n\u00edveis de descontra\u00e7\u00e3o e descontra\u00e7\u00e3o na sua vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n Deve certificar-se de que continua a ter a sua rotina, sem convites para encontros casuais. O tempo para as suas coisas e para sair com eles deve ser sempre separado.<\/p>\n Quando passam a fazer parte da nossa vida, deixamos de poder chamar-lhe casual.<\/p>\n Whatever you do, do NOT introduce them to your friends. Or if you really have to, then don’t introduce them to all of your friends. If you’re wondering why, here are some legit reasons.<\/p>\n Um dos piores cen\u00e1rios seria os seus amigos estarem constantemente a sair com eles.<\/p>\n Quando se trata de encontros casuais, esta deve ser uma prioridade m\u00e1xima na lista das suas regras b\u00e1sicas: N\u00e3o deixe que os seus namorados casuais se infiltrem no seu grupo de amigos.<\/strong><\/p>\n Porque isso significa que ter\u00e1s de passar todo o teu tempo livre com eles tamb\u00e9m. N\u00e3o ter\u00e1s a op\u00e7\u00e3o de sair com os teus amigos e depois escolheres sair com eles separadamente.<\/p>\n Once they become a part of your gang, there’s no way back. If your friends enjoy their company and how cool they are, they might even start forcing you to consider something serious with them.<\/p>\n If catching feelings is not something you would want to deal with at the moment, then simply don’t introduce them to your friends.<\/p>\n And if your friends ask whether you’re seeing someone and if they can meet them, just tell them that it’s none of their business and you’ll introduce them in case you ever become exclusive.<\/p>\n A primeira vez que os levamos para casa, podemos dizer que acabou o jogo. (Se eu soubesse disso no passado, a minha vida teria sido muito mais f\u00e1cil).<\/p>\n So, don’t take them home (especially if you live with your mom and dad) if you’re not sure whether you want to be exclusive with them.<\/p>\n Se queres aprender a n\u00e3o apanhar sentimentos, ent\u00e3o tens de aprender a n\u00e3o os levar para casa! Brincadeiras \u00e0 parte, provavelmente j\u00e1 sabes que levar algu\u00e9m para casa grita S\u00c9RIO.<\/strong><\/p>\n This is one of those things that people do when they’re in a rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria<\/a> e querem apresentar o seu parceiro a todos os membros da fam\u00edlia e amigos.<\/p>\n By doing that, they’re basically making things official because now those people are also part of their relationship.<\/p>\n So, do you want your mom, dad and other family members and friends to be a part of your casual thing? I don’t think so. So, don’t take them home unless it is an emergency situation or similar.<\/p>\n If they agree with you on this, then you know you’re on the same page but if they insist that you introduce them to all of your friends and family, then you should run because it’s evident that they’re aiming for something more serious, aka a relationship.<\/p>\n “Hey, what are you doing? OMG you won’t believe what just happened! I’m bored… Can you come over? Why aren’t you texting me back?”<\/em><\/p>\n TEXTING\u2014one word that can cause billions of problems and frustrations. I’m pretty much convinced that the moment we entered the modern era, our love lives were doomed.<\/p>\n Sim, \u00e9 bom saber que se pode trocar ideias com qualquer pessoa, sempre que se quiser.<\/p>\n You don’t need to send them letters like in old times when rela\u00e7\u00f5es epistolares<\/a> estavam na moda porque agora temos as redes sociais!<\/p>\n We have tons of instant messaging variations and that’s exactly what doomed us. In times like these, trying to limit a conversation is more like trying not to breathe when you know you can.<\/p>\n While there’s no need to limit conversations with your legit partner, casual baes are a different thing.<\/strong><\/p>\n Se enviar demasiadas mensagens de texto, telefonar demasiado ou exagerar em qualquer outra coisa, corre o risco de se encurralar e tornar as coisas mais graves do que s\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Perguntar-lhe constantemente como foi o seu dia, contar-lhe todos os pormenores da sua vida e afins s\u00e3o coisas que deve evitar fazer.<\/p>\n Trocar algumas mensagens de texto casuais aqui e ali \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel, mas dizer-lhes que o Jo\u00e3o\/Sophia do seu trabalho \u00e9 um verdadeiro chato n\u00e3o \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel se quiser manter as coisas casuais.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: 6 sinais precoces de que ele pode estar a sentir algo por ti<\/a><\/p>\n Poder\u00e1 pensar que, em encontros casuais, o respeito m\u00fatuo n\u00e3o \u00e9 assim t\u00e3o importante, mas pense novamente.<\/p>\n Todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es com seres humanos devem basear-se no respeito m\u00fatuo, independentemente de se tratar de algo casual ou mais s\u00e9rio.<\/p>\n Se, por alguma raz\u00e3o, a pessoa est\u00e1 impedida de sair consigo, tem de respeitar esse facto. Al\u00e9m disso, ambos t\u00eam de respeitar as regras b\u00e1sicas se quiserem que as coisas funcionem.<\/p>\n Just because they’re not your legit partner, this doesn’t mean you should treat them like someone unimportant whose main purpose is to entertain you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mesmo as coisas casuais requerem um certo esfor\u00e7o m\u00fatuo, por isso tenha isso em mente.<\/p>\n Even though you’re here to learn how to not catch feelings, you cannot be one hundred percent sure that you won’t.<\/p>\n In case you do happen to catch feelings for them, respect them enough to tell them that and to leave if you’re not on the same page.<\/p>\n By doing that, you’re also maintaining your self-respect because there’s nothing more frustrating than lying to yourself and living in an illusion.<\/p>\n Life is too short to pretend that you don’t have feelings for someone when you do or to pretend that you have feelings when you don’t.<\/p>\n You both deserve to know the truth and to be genuine with each other. You should respect each other enough to leave when\/if needed if that’s what you both agree on.<\/p>\n For a long time, I wasn’t even aware of the fact that I have this tendency to tell every guy my whole life story and all the relevant details.<\/p>\n I mean, it’s not like I’m at a job interview but I still can’t help but act like that.<\/p>\n I would even share with them things about my previous relationships and it’s not like this should be something that interests them.<\/strong><\/p>\n Even worse, it’s not something I should even share with them if I want to keep things casual.<\/p>\n So, don’t make the same mistakes as me. Be smart and learn from other people’s failures and don’t share your life story with your casual bae.<\/p>\n N\u00e3o, eles n\u00e3o est\u00e3o interessados em todos aqueles momentos engra\u00e7ados da sua inf\u00e2ncia, adolesc\u00eancia rebelde, fracassos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es e todas as outras coisas que pertencem ao livro chamado hist\u00f3ria da sua vida.<\/p>\n If you want to keep things casual, you need to keep your conversations casual as well. Once you cross that line, there’s no way back.<\/strong><\/p>\n They might become interested in every single detail from your past and ask you tons of subquestions, and once you start answering, you won’t be able to retreat.<\/p>\nTer uma c\u00f3pia de seguran\u00e7a<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEvitar ou reduzir ao m\u00ednimo os encontros durante o dia<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nPonha-se em primeiro lugar<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEstabelecer limites<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nReduzir as suas expectativas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nManter as festas do pijama picantes<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nManter o PDA \u00e0 porta fechada<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEvite levar o seu bae casual aos seus lugares favoritos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nN\u00c3O os apresentes a (todos) os teus amigos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDon’t take them home<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nLimite as suas conversas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nTer respeito m\u00fatuo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDon’t share your life story with them<\/h2>\n
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