{"id":87986,"date":"2020-08-14T06:33:22","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T06:33:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=87986"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:32:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:32:18","slug":"como-ultrapassar-o-medo-de-perder-alguem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-ultrapassar-o-medo-de-perder-alguem\/","title":{"rendered":"Como superar o medo de perder algu\u00e9m que voc\u00ea ama em 7 passos"},"content":{"rendered":"

O <\/span>medo de perder<\/span> algu\u00e9m de quem se gosta \u00e9 perfeitamente normal.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though people don’t talk about it frequently, the <\/span>medo da perda<\/span> de um <\/span>membro da fam\u00edlia<\/span>, a <\/span>alma g\u00e9mea<\/span> ou um <\/span>melhor amigo<\/span> \u00e9 um <\/span>medo comum<\/span> e todos n\u00f3s nos deparamos com isso em algum momento. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn’t mean that you should allow these fears to take over your life. It doesn’t mean that you should allow them to control you and prevent you from living your life to the fullest. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se isto \u00e9 algo com que se identifica, pode ter um problema que, felizmente, pode ser resolvido. Aqui est\u00e1 um guia passo a passo para o ajudar a lidar com o seu <\/span>medo de <\/span>perdedor<\/span> algu\u00e9m<\/span><\/a> que amas e para te fazer <\/span>sentir-se melhor<\/span> em pouco tempo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Aceitar a perda como uma parte da vida<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it; we would all be happiest to have all of our <\/span>entes queridos<\/span> near us forever. It would be amazing if we didn\u2019t have to face things such as departures, break-ups, and, finally, death.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, a verdade \u00e9 que tudo isto \u00e9 uma <\/b>parte da vida<\/b>, whether you like to admit it or not. As much as you try, you can\u2019t always avoid losing someone you love.<\/b><\/p>\n

Basically, the harsh reality is that this is something you\u2019ll have to learn how to deal with, sooner or later. So instead of running away from reality, you better accept it in time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Veja, <\/span>reprimir as emo\u00e7\u00f5es<\/span><\/a> and pretending that your fears are nonexistent won\u2019t chase them away. This approach won\u2019t magically erase what you\u2019re feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, quando tentamos enterrar as coisas, elas s\u00f3 se tornam maiores e ainda mais assustadoras. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me; you\u2019re not alone on this one. In fact, every person alive has at least once dealt with the <\/span>medo de perder um ente querido<\/span>, seguido do medo de <\/span>desgosto<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all been in a situation where we simply had to accept loss as a <\/b>parte da vida<\/b>Mesmo que prefer\u00edssemos evitar viv\u00ea-la. <\/b><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t only lose people you love and care about; you\u2019ll also lose opportunities, things, feelings and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, all of this is a part of this difficult process called growing up. Sadly, you can\u2019t always have what you want and you can\u2019t always keep around those you would like to have by your side. <\/span><\/p>\n

Algumas pessoas abandonam-nos porque querem, outras v\u00e3o-se embora devido \u00e0s circunst\u00e2ncias da vida e a vida leva-as para sempre. <\/span><\/p>\n

Na maior parte dos casos, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 absolutamente nada que se possa fazer, em vez de se ter de aguentar e lidar com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o da melhor forma poss\u00edvel. <\/span><\/p>\n

Enfrentar os seus medos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O pr\u00f3ximo passo para ultrapassar uma <\/span>medo de perder<\/span> algu\u00e9m que amamos est\u00e1 em enfrentar os nossos medos.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you can\u2019t chase your demons until you prove them that you\u2019re strong enough to look them directly in the eye and show them your bravery. <\/span><\/p>\n

When I say this, I\u2019m not only talking about accepting your fear, since this should already be a given up until this point.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I\u2019m talking about getting to the bottom of them. You see, every fear has a root and a reason, which in most cases is not seen at a first glance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, you have to dig deeper under the layers to figure out what you\u2019re really afraid of. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso fazer uma grande auto-introspe\u00e7\u00e3o e uma an\u00e1lise detalhada da rela\u00e7\u00e3o que se tem com a outra pessoa antes de compreender os seus medos. <\/b><\/p>\n

This might be a hard pill to swallow but when you\u2019re afraid of losing a person you love, in most situations, you\u2019re being <\/span>ego\u00edsta<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, you\u2019re actually scared of having to live without them by your side and you\u2019re terrified of the fact that you\u2019ll have to get along without them next to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared of losing the support or the comfort they\u2019ve been giving you. <\/b>Medo de ter de seguir em frente sem que te empurrem para a frente ou te salvem sempre que fazes asneiras. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes you\u2019re afraid of losing the sense of control the other person is giving you or the ego boost they\u2019ve been providing you. Afraid of losing the sensation you have when you\u2019re with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t have to necessarily mean that you don\u2019t love the person we\u2019re talking about. However, you love whatever they\u2019re giving you even more and that is the core of selfishness. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, the first question you\u2019ll have to ask yourself is what you\u2019re actually afraid of losing. What is the thing about this person you feel so addicted to?<\/b><\/p>\n

Accept that you can\u2019t always be in control<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

They say that destiny deals you the cards but you\u2019re the one who has to play them the best way possible. If you look at life like this, you\u2019re in no way abolished of all responsibility for whatever happens in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re a human being. It means that God gave you a reason and free will, which includes judgment-making skills. <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s never good to go through your own life like it\u2019s happening to someone else. It\u2019s never okay to only go with the flow and see where destiny takes you, as if you have no part in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, ir demasiado longe na dire\u00e7\u00e3o oposta tamb\u00e9m nunca \u00e9 bom. Ser um <\/span>man\u00edaco por controlo<\/span><\/a> vai trazer-lhe muito mais problemas do que pensa. <\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00e1 foi dito que a perda \u00e9 uma <\/span>parte da vida<\/span> e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 absolutamente nada que se possa fazer e isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade quando se trata da morte do seu <\/span>entes queridos<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sim, pode fazer o seu melhor para lhes proporcionar bons cuidados m\u00e9dicos, pode cuidar deles para o <\/span>pouco tempo<\/span> they have left but eventually, if someone is meant to die, you can\u2019t change their future.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sei que \u00e9 dif\u00edcil de aceitar, mas h\u00e1 muitas coisas na vossa exist\u00eancia terrena que est\u00e3o fora do vosso alcance,<\/b> things you can\u2019t control as much you try to. <\/span><\/p>\n

This includes different life circumstances and other people\u2019s behavior. Sometimes, you can do everything by the book but despite that, unexpected events will happen and all you can do is accept them.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, sabe o que pode controlar? A forma como reage a estes acontecimentos. <\/b><\/p>\n

Pode desperdi\u00e7ar o seu precioso tempo e energia a lutar contra os moinhos de vento e passar o resto da sua vida como S\u00edsifo ou pode redirecionar toda a sua for\u00e7a para lidar com as coisas m\u00e1s da sua vida, incluindo as perdas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Realize that you don\u2019t actually need anyone<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This one might sound harsh or even egocentric but the only truth is that, at the end of the day, you don\u2019t actually need anyone to survive this adventure called life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, as a human, you\u2019re a social being, which means that you are happier when you\u2019re surrounded by the people you love and the ones who love you back.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you need any of these people to survive. It doesn’t mean it’s okay to be emotionally <\/span>co-dependente<\/span> no seu <\/span>alma g\u00e9mea<\/span>, <\/span>melhores amigos<\/span> ou <\/span>membros da fam\u00edlia<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

As much as it seems that you would die if you happened to lose someone you care for, trust me, you won\u2019t. <\/b>Na verdade, trata-se de uma quest\u00e3o de <\/span>autoestima<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t believe in your own capacities and you think you need someone to guide you through life. Well, let me tell you something\u2014you’re the <\/span>\u00fanica pessoa<\/span> de que realmente precisa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Despite what you might think now, the truth is that you can make it without anyone. You\u2019re capable of going through life without anyone having your back or holding your hand.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not saying that losing a <\/span>ente querido<\/span> won\u2019t leave consequences on you. In fact, in some cases, these consequences might even be permanent.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, <\/span>de cada vez que se sente <\/b>tempos dif\u00edceis<\/b>, sobreviver\u00e1s. As tuas feridas transformar-se-\u00e3o em cicatrizes, mas continuar\u00e1s a avan\u00e7ar apesar delas.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sabendo isto, est\u00e1 perfeitamente consciente de que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de sentir algo como uma <\/span>medo do abandono<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remember\u2014whoever has the privilege to be a part of your life is there because you let them. You gave them the gift of your presence and you chose them to be next to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, if they want out, you shouldn\u2019t be the one holding them back. Instead, let them go and remind yourself that your world won\u2019t stop without them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Desfrutar do momento presente<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re dealing with a <\/span>medo de perder<\/span> algu\u00e9m, \u00e9 tudo em que consegues pensar. O p\u00e2nico paralisa-nos e, quando damos por isso, torna-se o \u00fanico sentimento que temos. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re terrified of having to go on without your <\/span>ente querido<\/span> at\u00e9 ao ponto em que os seus medos o consomem completamente e at\u00e9 o impedem de funcionar corretamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sei que \u00e9 muito mais f\u00e1cil falar do que fazer, mas o que espera exatamente conseguir com isto? Ser\u00e1 que o facto de ter medo vai mudar o resultado das coisas?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ir\u00e1 salvar os doentes terminais? <\/span>ente querido<\/span>\u2019s life? Will it keep your romantic partner next to you? Will your <\/span>medo do abandono<\/span> impedir realmente as pessoas de se afastarem de si?<\/span><\/p>\n

You and I both know that the answers to all of these questions is the same\u2014it\u2019s a big, fat no. So, what\u2019s the point?<\/span><\/p>\n

Pelo contr\u00e1rio,<\/span> when you\u2019re overwhelmed with your fears, you become so obsessed with the potential future that you miss out on the present.<\/b><\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 obcecado com o que pode acontecer amanh\u00e3, ao ponto de o dia de hoje lhe passar ao lado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, if you\u2019re looking for effective ways to get rid of your fears, <\/span>desfrutar do <\/span>momento atual<\/span><\/a> \u00e9 uma das primeiras coisas que tem de aprender a fazer. <\/span><\/p>\n

For example, when you have a terminally ill patient next to you, wouldn\u2019t it be better to cherish the <\/span>pouco tempo<\/span> que tem a oportunidade de passar com eles em vez de estar a imaginar diferentes cen\u00e1rios na sua cabe\u00e7a? <\/span><\/p>\n

What is inevitable will happen and there is no way you can impact that. In fact, you\u2019ll have plenty of time to grieve your loss once or if it happens. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s the point of thinking about it in advance? Trust me when I tell you that you\u2019ll be sorry for wasting so much time on your fears before they even became a reality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Acreditar em si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No final do dia, ter f\u00e9 em si pr\u00f3prio e trabalhar no seu <\/span>autoestima<\/span> is the number one thing. Trust me when I tell you that you\u2019re way stronger than you ever pictured yourself being.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, life gives you exactly what you can take and handle. You get the challenges you have the ability to overcome, even if sometimes you\u2019re not aware of your capacities. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, I\u2019m begging you, have a little more optimism. Please, <\/span>acreditar em si pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a> e no seu poder interior.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t consider yourself too weak, despite being emotional. Don\u2019t consider yourself a coward, despite having such a big heart. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pedir aconselhamento profissional<\/h2>\n

\"terapeuta<\/p>\n

O medo de perder algu\u00e9m que se ama<\/span> is perfectly normal to some extent. We all face these fears on a daily basis and sadly, they\u2019re a part of everyone\u2019s thoughts. <\/span><\/p>\n

A <\/span>medo comum<\/span> \u00e9 <\/span>tanatofobia<\/span>\u2014a <\/span>medo da morte<\/span>. Basicamente, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 quase nenhuma pessoa neste mundo que consiga aceitar a sua mortalidade. No entanto, <\/span>tanatofobia<\/span> doesn’t only mean you’re afraid of dying.<\/span><\/p>\n

De facto, inclui tamb\u00e9m um <\/span>medo da morte<\/span> do seu <\/span>entes queridos<\/span>,<\/span> que muitas vezes equivale a um <\/span>medo da perda<\/span> daqueles de quem se gosta.  <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if these fears are impacting your life to the point where it has become impossible to live it properly, maybe it\u2019s time to ask for help.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, fale com o seu <\/span>melhores amigos<\/span>, parceiro rom\u00e2ntico ou uma pessoa pr\u00f3xima <\/span>membro da fam\u00edlia<\/span>. Describe whatever you\u2019re feeling and ask them whether they\u2019re going through the same.<\/span><\/p>\n

Try comparing the intensity of your emotions to theirs and see whether you\u2019re experiencing something similar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m, <\/span>it is possible that you\u2019re dealing with some deeper <\/b>mental <\/b>sa\u00fade<\/b><\/a> quest\u00f5es<\/b> que provocam esses medos.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

Nesse caso, <\/span>tomar medidas<\/span>, concentre-se em alguns <\/span>autocuidado<\/span> e falar com um <\/span>profissional de sa\u00fade mental<\/span> quem o ajudar\u00e1 <\/span>sentir-se melhor<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o, ter problemas mentais <\/span>quest\u00f5es de sa\u00fade<\/span> doesn\u2019t make you crazy; it just means that you\u2019re a human being made out of flesh and blood and that you need a hand coping with something. <\/span><\/p>\n

Confiar nisto <\/span>profissional de sa\u00fade mental<\/span> and talk to them about everything that\u2019s bothering you, otherwise they won\u2019t be able to assist you in the right way. <\/span><\/p>\n

O mesmo se aplica \u00e0s pessoas mais pr\u00f3ximas a quem quer confiar. Certifique-se de que se trata realmente da sua <\/span>melhor amigo<\/span> you\u2019re talking to.<\/span><\/p>\n

It should be someone who won\u2019t violate your trust, despite not being able to give you <\/span>aconselhamento profissional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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