{"id":88443,"date":"2020-08-14T07:02:50","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T07:02:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=88443"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:27:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:27:39","slug":"ao-meu-melhor-amigo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ao-meu-melhor-amigo\/","title":{"rendered":"Para o meu melhor amigo: Podes t\u00ea-lo perdoado, mas eu nunca o farei"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Perdoei-lhe por causa da minha pr\u00f3pria paz, n\u00e3o para aliviar a sua consci\u00eancia.\"<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Foram essas as tuas palavras exactas quando me disseste que o tinhas perdoado, e sabes que mais, tu podes t\u00ea-lo feito, mas eu nunca, NUNCA o farei, por mais tolo que isso pare\u00e7a.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca o perdoarei por todas as l\u00e1grimas que choraste e por todas as noites sem dormir que ele causou. De facto, n\u00e3o vou <\/span>perdoar<\/span><\/a> uma \u00fanica l\u00e1grima, quanto mais os rios que derramaste por causa dele.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ele devia saber que n\u00e3o devia fazer-te sentir t\u00e3o vulner\u00e1vel e indigna. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lembro-me de como estava feliz quando o conheceu, mas lembro-me ainda melhor de como essa felicidade se evaporava a cada dia que passava com ele<\/i><\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

I won’t forgive him for destroying the child inside you, for making that pure little girl grow up in such a cruel way that you forgot that she had ever even been there.<\/span><\/p>\n

My dear friend, I look at you now and admire you for your strength to forgive him. I admire you, because you are doing something that I can’t even imagine doing.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Cada peda\u00e7o de mim grita de dor quando me lembro daquela noite em que vieste ter comigo, desesperada por causa de outro desgosto que ele te estava a fazer passar. <\/span><\/p>\n

You were so fragile, so gentle. I wish I had been able to stop your pain, but I couldn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ainda estou t\u00e3o furioso, t\u00e3o zangado com ele, e tudo o que consigo ver quando me cruzo com ele \u00e9 tu a chorar no ch\u00e3o da minha casa de banho a meio da noite.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t deserve that kind of treatment \u2013 no one does.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

N\u00c3O o perdoo por a ter transformado nesta pessoa silenciosa que tem medo de expressar a sua opini\u00e3o e que agora se sente t\u00e3o desconfort\u00e1vel consigo pr\u00f3pria. <\/span><\/p>\n

He didn’t just break your heart, he shattered it in a way that will always leave a mark.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lembro-me de ti antes dele.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remember the joyful girl who loved life, believed in herself, and wouldn’t let anyone tell her what to do.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Porque me lembro, nunca o vou perdoar por ter criado a <\/i><\/b>inseguro<\/i><\/b><\/a> girl who chose her words carefully so they didn\u2019t sound wrong to him.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ele nunca te apreciou como devia. Estar com ele transformou-a numa pessoa insegura que s\u00f3 via os seus defeitos e nunca as suas virtudes. Bem, na verdade, os defeitos que ele te disse que tinhas.<\/span><\/p>\n

I will never forgive him for making you think you didn’t <\/span>merecem melhor<\/span><\/a> back then, and carving that opinion so deep into your mind that you still don’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

The only truth is HE DIDN’T DESERVE YOU. Or any other good-hearted, sincere girl.<\/span><\/p>\n

I always knew you were too good for him, and he knew that as well. To this day I\u2019m certain that he did all those things to you just to make you feel as miserable as he was.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ele \u00e9 inseguro, tem uma opini\u00e3o baixa sobre si pr\u00f3prio e queria que sentisses o mesmo e que te deitasses abaixo com ele.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Maybe he thought that it would make him feel better, and maybe it even did, but I will never forgive him for that. He shouldn’t have used you to boost his ego.<\/span><\/p>\n

Era suposto ele ser o teu lugar seguro, algu\u00e9m para quem corrias e n\u00e3o de quem fugias. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Vi-te ficar cada vez mais pequeno todos os dias, durante anos.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hate myself for not being able to get you out of that painful cycle of destruction, and I can’t forgive him for making you think you didn’t need or deserve help. <\/span><\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t a good person, he still isn’t. I know you are \u2013 too good actually \u2013 and that’s why you have forgiven him. I can’t. Not now, not ever. Maybe that makes me a bad person, but I\u2019m fine with that.<\/span><\/p>\n

People say that we forgive because we need it, in order to move on. That might be true, but I also know my truth. And yours. The truth that hurts so bad, the pain so sharp, that it\u2019s unforgivable. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m grateful for you being able to forgive, that was your healing path to recovery.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Still, I\u2019ll always be here to make sure you never let anyone else break you.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Para<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cI forgave him for the sake of my own peace, not to ease his conscience .\u201d Those were your exact words when you told me that you had forgiven him, and you know what, you may have, but I never, EVER will, no matter how silly that seems. I will never forgive him for all…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":88445,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-88443","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/To-My-Best-Friend-You-May-Have-Forgiven-Him-But-I-Never-Will.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88443","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=88443"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88443\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/88445"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=88443"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=88443"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=88443"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}