{"id":88540,"date":"2020-08-14T07:04:58","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T07:04:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=88540"},"modified":"2022-01-24T19:34:45","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T19:34:45","slug":"vida-apos-o-divorcio-para-homens","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/vida-apos-o-divorcio-para-homens\/","title":{"rendered":"O que \u00e9 continuar com a sua vida depois do div\u00f3rcio para os homens"},"content":{"rendered":"

Depois de duas pessoas se divorciarem, toda a gente tem pena da mulher e, muitas vezes, ningu\u00e9m pergunta como est\u00e1 o marido. <\/span><\/p>\n

We all have this misconception that it’s easier for men to deal with a divorce than women. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

There are so many things that people don’t know about <\/span>vida ap\u00f3s o div\u00f3rcio<\/span><\/a> for men. Many people aren’t even aware of how divorce affects us also; it changes our lives completely. <\/span><\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 aqui a ler isto porque o seu casamento acabou ou talvez tenha acabado de come\u00e7ar a <\/span>processo de div\u00f3rcio<\/span>? It doesn’t matter either way. Welcome to the club, you are not alone. <\/span><\/p>\n

The situation is confusing, to say the least. You’re a <\/span>homem solteiro<\/span> mas at\u00e9 j\u00e1 te esqueceste de como se \u00e9 solteiro. <\/span>Everything you once called ‘ours’ now has to be split into ‘yours’ and ‘hers’. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

You’re aware that so many things have changed. These are <\/span>tempos dif\u00edceis<\/span> e tu <\/span>precisa de algum tempo<\/span> para organizar os seus pensamentos e sentimentos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio algum tempo para a <\/span>processo de luto<\/span> and then you need to accept what happened and leave it in the past. You’ll have to snap out of it and learn to live after your divorce.  <\/span><\/p>\n

A coisa que definitivamente quer saber \u00e9 o que esperar do seu <\/span>nova vida<\/span>, o seu <\/span>p\u00f3s-div\u00f3rcio<\/span> vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que se pode esperar dele?<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

O div\u00f3rcio \u00e9 realmente uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o dif\u00edcil<\/span> tempo<\/span> for all people. You have to be aware that it brings so many new things into your life that’ll change it completely. <\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 tantas coisas que se podem <\/span>esperar de um div\u00f3rcio<\/span><\/a>. Predictable, unpredictable, beautiful, terrible things\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Here are some things and feelings you’ll most definitely experience after your divorce. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll feel like you’re left all alone<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

You’ll think that you’re the only one who cares about your divorce and you\u2019ll see that you’re your own biggest support. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll lose so many friends, especially if you were the one who made a mistake which was the reason for your divorce. Your friends will turn their backs on you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se o div\u00f3rcio ficar feio, a sua mulher s\u00f3 vai querer falar consigo sobre <\/span>pens\u00e3o de alimentos<\/span> na presen\u00e7a dos seus advogados. <\/span><\/p>\n

After some time, you’ll be sitting all alone in your new apartment and you’ll realize that you’re all alone in all of it. You’ll understand that you’re the only person who is there for you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll spend so much money and time on the divorce process<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Sometimes, ex-partners can’t agree on money or dividing property or the most painful part if you have kids\u2014<\/span>guarda dos filhos<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mesmo que tu e o teu <\/span>ex-mulher<\/span> have an agreed divorce, it’ll still cost you so much money, as you\u2019ll have to pay your <\/span>advogado de div\u00f3rcio<\/span> e algumas despesas legais.<\/span><\/p>\n

O melhor seria conseguir resolver o div\u00f3rcio fora do tribunal. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Se puderem concordar em tudo menos em <\/span>guarda dos filhos<\/span>, then you’ll have to hire a <\/span>direito da fam\u00edlia<\/span> lawyer and it’ll cost you even more. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, podem chegar a acordo sobre<\/span> guarda f\u00edsica conjunta.<\/b> This is when both parents have legal custody but one has to be the child’s primary caretaker and that’s usually the mother. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll have the same responsibilities, you’ll be able to see your kids whenever you want to, but still, they will live with their mother and you’ll have to pay <\/span>pens\u00e3o de alimentos<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

O div\u00f3rcio tamb\u00e9m vai afetar os seus filhos<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 um facto, se tiverem filhos juntos. N\u00e3o importa se voc\u00ea e o seu <\/span>ex-mulher<\/span> ficaram amigos, os vossos <\/span>as crian\u00e7as v\u00e3o sentir-se<\/span><\/a> the consequences too. They’ll also realize that everything has changed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even if you have joint custody, it won’t be the same for them. They’ll feel that something is missing. <\/span><\/p>\n

After some time, you or your ex-partner (or possibly both of you) will find a new partner and it’ll be difficult for them to accept it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to show your kids understanding, especially if they’re teenagers, as it\u2019s also a <\/span>momento dif\u00edcil<\/span> para eles. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se voc\u00ea e o seu ex tiverem algum desentendimento, tente n\u00e3o discutir \u00e0 frente das crian\u00e7as. <\/span>Deixa consequ\u00eancias significativas nas suas <\/i><\/b>sa\u00fade mental<\/i><\/b>. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Both of you have to sit down and talk to your kids about it. Tell them everything they need to know and tell them that even though you have decided to separate, they’ll still be your priority. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll have to pay alimony to your ex-wife<\/h2>\n

\"notas<\/p>\n

A m\u00e3e fica com a cust\u00f3dia e o pai paga <\/span>pens\u00e3o de alimentos<\/span> \u00e9 o cen\u00e1rio mais comum, pelo que deve estar preparado para isso. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, deve falar com um <\/span>direito da fam\u00edlia<\/span> lawyer about it. Of course, they’re your children and you are obligated to provide for them but you aren’t necessarily obligated to provide for your <\/span>ex-mulher<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Alguns dos vossos amigos em comum tomar\u00e3o partido<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Your friends will blame one of you for your divorce. They’ll try to find out what the reason for it was or who’s guilty for it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Claro que, na maioria dos casos, culpam o marido<\/i><\/b>.<\/b> Pensam que ele fez alguma coisa, como trair ou negligenciar a mulher, e que essa foi a raz\u00e3o do div\u00f3rcio. <\/span><\/p>\n

They’ll choose one side because it’ll be uncomfortable for them to continue to hang out with both of you. Again, in most cases, they will usually feel sorry for the wife so they choose her side. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll see how you’ll be disappointed in so many people after your divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n

Many of those people who pretended to be your best friends for so long won’t be there for you, in one of the most <\/span>tempos dif\u00edceis<\/span> da sua vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

That can be a good thing, however, because you know how people say, \u2018<\/span>A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out\u2019.<\/b><\/p>\n

Your feelings won’t go away immediately<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

If you aren’t the one who suggested the divorce and you still have feelings for your partner, you have to be aware that those feelings can’t go away overnight.<\/span><\/p>\n

It won\u2019t be easy to cope with the divorce but you’ll also have to find a way to deal with it in the healthiest way possible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t let anyone feel sorry for you. You have to be brave and strong. It’ll all pass; you just need to give yourself some time. You have to go through <\/span>recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de div\u00f3rcios<\/span> e \u00e9 preciso pensar na sua pr\u00f3pria <\/span>bem-estar<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, you are divorcing your wife even though you still love you? So what? Trust me, you aren’t the first man who had to go through this and <\/span>it’s not the end of the world.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Os vossos verdadeiros amigos e <\/span>membros da fam\u00edlia<\/span> dar-vos-\u00e1 <\/span>apoio emocional<\/span> and you’ll get through it sooner than you think. <\/span><\/p>\n

Como fazer <\/b>lidar com o div\u00f3rcio<\/b>? <\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Encontrar uma forma de ser bem sucedido na co-parentalidade com a sua ex-mulher<\/h2>\n

\"Pai<\/p>\n

O melhor para si e para os seus filhos seria encontrarem uma forma de chegarem facilmente a acordo e terem uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de co-parentalidade bem sucedida.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to show your kids that the relationship between you two doesn’t affect your relationship with them. <\/span>Eles precisam de saber que ambos estar\u00e3o sempre l\u00e1 para eles, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Talk to them more about it. Let them ask you everything they want to know. Maybe they won’t accept it in the beginning but you’ll have to be patient and let them understand and accept the new situation. <\/span><\/p>\n

Encontrar e aderir a um grupo de apoio<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

O div\u00f3rcio pode ser muito mais dif\u00edcil para os homens do que para as mulheres.<\/span><\/p>\n

Women tend to have so many friends and they’re all there for them in such times and they have <\/span>women’s<\/span> grupos de apoio<\/span>,<\/span> o que tamb\u00e9m facilita as coisas para eles. <\/span><\/p>\n

Men don’t like to share their feelings with other people so much. We like to keep that to ourselves because we always pretend we’re tough and strong. <\/span><\/p>\n

Acreditem, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de errado em mostrar as vossas emo\u00e7\u00f5es, em mostrar que tamb\u00e9m s\u00e3o vulner\u00e1veis ou que tamb\u00e9m sofrem.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m vai pensar mal de si por causa disso. Pelo contr\u00e1rio, as pessoas v\u00e3o apreci\u00e1-lo mais porque est\u00e1 a ser honesto. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m pode encontrar alguns <\/span>grupos de apoio<\/span> for divorced men, as it would be helpful to hear other men’s experiences. <\/span>Torna-se muito mais f\u00e1cil quando se tem algu\u00e9m com quem partilhar a dor. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Trabalhar a sua autoestima<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Men’s health<\/span> podem sofrer muito devido a todo o stress e problemas com que lidamos depois de um div\u00f3rcio. \u00c9 preciso saber que <\/span>seu <\/span>sa\u00fade mental<\/span><\/a> afecta grandemente o seu <\/span>sa\u00fade f\u00edsica<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you feel depressed for a long time, you won’t be able to eat well or sleep well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you’ll even try to drown your sorrows in alcohol or some other things you think might help you but these are unhealthy things which will leave some negative consequences on your physical health, which is not a healthy way to deal with your <\/span>p\u00f3s-div\u00f3rcio<\/span> lutas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ter alguns <\/span>respeito por si pr\u00f3prio<\/span>N\u00e3o s\u00f3 por tua causa, mas se tens filhos, tamb\u00e9m por causa deles. Tens de ser forte por eles.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Trabalhar no seu <\/span>autoestima<\/span> and self-confidence. This is only a temporary situation, it\u2019ll pass and you have to continue with your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Passar tempo com os seus velhos amigos<\/h2>\n

\"tr\u00eas<\/p>\n

Chame alguns dos seus <\/span>velhos amigos<\/span> e convid\u00e1-los para sair. Abra-se com eles e diga-lhes algumas coisas que o est\u00e3o a incomodar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t be afraid or ashamed to talk to them about how you feel. They are your friends and they want to be there for you and maybe they’ll give you some helpful advice. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t get involved in short-term relationships<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

\u00c0 partida, pode pensar-se que estar envolvido em <\/span>de curto prazo<\/span> as rela\u00e7\u00f5es v\u00e3o ajud\u00e1-lo a esquecer os seus sentimentos pelo seu <\/span>ex-mulher<\/span> but it won’t. <\/span><\/p>\n

A primeira vez<\/span> you try it, you might like it and think that it’s helping you but when you get tired of it, when you realize that it’s all false, it’ll make you think of your marriage and you’ll be depressed again once you understand that it was the real thing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t get me wrong; you should give yourself a chance with dating again and you should start a <\/span>nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> com algu\u00e9m.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, that should be only once you feel you’re ready for dating again and once you meet someone new whom you like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Encontrar algo que o fa\u00e7a esquecer o div\u00f3rcio<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Saia, fa\u00e7a exerc\u00edcio, encontre um novo passatempo, pratique ioga ou medite, decore a sua nova casa para fazer uma caverna de homem. <\/span><\/p>\n

Step out of your comfort zone and do something new. Do some things you’ve always wanted to but didn’t have time for because of so many obligations. <\/span><\/p>\n

Do some things you really enjoy. Travel and visit some places you’ve always wanted to visit. Do whatever you think will help you to take your mind off the divorce and your <\/span>p\u00f3s-div\u00f3rcio<\/span> lutas. <\/span><\/p>\n

6 dos erros mais comuns <\/b>os homens fazem depois do div\u00f3rcio<\/b> <\/b><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Recome\u00e7ar a namorar demasiado cedo<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Pare de tentar dar o n\u00f3 de novo demasiado depressa. Acabou de sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria, por que n\u00e3o aproveitar a sua vida de solteiro agora?<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to be sure that you’re completely over your ex-spouse. You can’t<\/span> come\u00e7ar a namorar<\/span><\/a> se ainda tens sentimentos por ela. <\/span><\/p>\n

Deve dar-se algum tempo e dedicar-se \u00e0 sua auto-rela\u00e7\u00e3o, pois isso ir\u00e1 ajud\u00e1-lo muito quando voltar ao jogo dos encontros.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll feel more confident and you won’t be afraid to give someone new a chance to enter your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Acabar numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o auto-destrutiva<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Infelizmente, muitos homens acabam numa <\/span>autodestrutivo<\/span> situation because they don’t see another way out of their current situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Drinking, using pills and other addictions won’t help you at all and will only ruin your life completely. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your divorce happened for a reason, probably because you weren’t happy in your marriage. You should see your divorce as your chance to find love and someone who’ll make you happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t ruin that chance because you may not get another one. <\/span><\/p>\n

Isolar-se<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It’s okay if you don’t want to talk to your friends or <\/span>membros da fam\u00edlia<\/span> sobre os seus sentimentos<\/span>. However, you don’t have to completely isolate yourself from them.<\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas outras coisas de que se pode falar. Visite-os ou convide-os a visit\u00e1-lo na sua nova casa. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, bottling up your emotions isn’t healthy. If you can’t talk about them with the people close to you, then seek professional help and talk about it to them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Um terapeuta profissional tamb\u00e9m o pode ajudar a encontrar uma forma de lidar com o div\u00f3rcio de uma forma saud\u00e1vel. <\/span><\/p>\n

Obrigar os filhos a escolher um lado<\/h2>\n

\"pai<\/p>\n

Leave the kids out of it, don\u2019t drag them into your marital problems as they will suffer enough once they find out their parents are divorcing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Infelizmente, <\/span>depois de um div\u00f3rcio, <\/span>mais <\/span>homens <\/span> obrigam os seus filhos a escolher um lado. Querem que os filhos os escolham e v\u00e3o viver com eles. Eu sei que todos n\u00f3s gostar\u00edamos de levar os nossos filhos connosco, mas esta n\u00e3o \u00e9 a forma de o fazer. <\/span><\/p>\n

Falar mal do ex<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 provavelmente o maior erro que qualquer homem pode cometer depois de terminar o seu casamento, especialmente se houver filhos envolvidos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Partilharam uma parte das vossas vidas juntos, t\u00eam muitas recorda\u00e7\u00f5es e amaram-se em tempos. Por tudo isso, devem continuar amigos do vosso ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Talking trash about your ex will say more about you than her. Don’t try to turn your family or friends against her. Trust me, it won’t bring you any good and you’ll only feel worse. <\/span><\/p>\n

Espiar o ex<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Escolheram seguir caminhos diferentes e j\u00e1 n\u00e3o t\u00eam o direito de se envolverem na vida amorosa dela. Ambos t\u00eam o direito de sair com quem quiserem. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn’t spy on them because once you see them with someone else (and you will after some time), it’ll only make you feel more sad and depressed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your dating life doesn’t depend on hers. You should start dating whenever you feel ready for that and don’t feel bad if you find someone before your ex does. <\/span><\/p>\n

Acho mesmo que a vida depois <\/span>div\u00f3rcio para homens<\/span><\/a> \u00e9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil como para as mulheres. No entanto, temos de conseguir lidar com isso e continuar com as nossas vidas.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 demasiadas pessoas que dependem de n\u00f3s e n\u00e3o as podemos desiludir. Lembrem-se que h\u00e1 uma vida maravilhosa \u00e0 nossa espera depois de passarmos por alguns momentos dolorosos do div\u00f3rcio.<\/span><\/p>\n

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