{"id":89317,"date":"2020-08-14T08:09:50","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T08:09:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=89317"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:40:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:40:01","slug":"tive-sorte-por-teres-saido-da-minha-vida-a-tempo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/tive-sorte-por-teres-saido-da-minha-vida-a-tempo\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o tive sorte em ter-te - tive sorte por teres sa\u00eddo da minha vida a tempo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Por onde \u00e9 que come\u00e7o?<\/p>\n

\u00c0s vezes sinto-me t\u00e3o idiota que Deixei-te entrar na minha vida<\/a> mas lembro-me que acreditava que eras uma pessoa melhor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, that wasn\u2019t the case.<\/p>\n

Tudo o que faz\u00edamos parecia sempre uma esp\u00e9cie de competi\u00e7\u00e3o em que algu\u00e9m tinha de provar alguma coisa. Nunca nada era simples ou f\u00e1cil.<\/p>\n

Obrigaste-me a acreditar que eu era menos do que tu para depois me dares uma pobre desculpa de amor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At\u00e9 esperavas que eu ficasse grato quando, na realidade, n\u00e3o me deste nada. A \u00fanica coisa que deste a algu\u00e9m foi uma falsa sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de dom\u00ednio.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t believe I ever fell for that. However, now I know better. Now I know exactly what I DON\u2019T want in life. Now I know what a man in my life should never ever do.<\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t ever talk down to me\u2014like you did.<\/strong> I\u2019m not a child, I\u2019m not stupid, I can fully comprehend and do things on my own.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want you to mansplain anything to me. There\u2019s a difference between respectful and gentle ways of explaining things and full-on disrespect.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m done with men who need to make me feel smaller so they can feel better about themselves. Go and feed your ego somewhere else.<\/p>\n

Another thing I won\u2019t let anyone do again is walk all over me.<\/strong> I won\u2019t be a doormat for a man\u2019s internalized frustration. I don\u2019t deserve that.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t let him control my life or ruin my mood and forget about doing him favors and getting nothing in return! I\u2019m not here to satisfy his every whim.<\/p>\n

Uma das coisas mais importantes que aprendi foi a ouvir a minha intui\u00e7\u00e3o. Quando algo parecer estranho, confie em si pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong> If he\u2019s acting sketchy, don\u2019t let him get away with it.<\/p>\n

Be very clear and ask for explanations, don\u2019t sweep anything under the rug.<\/p>\n

Ignorei tantas coisas por amor a ti que acabei por me arruinar e, ao mesmo tempo, tu n\u00e3o te arrependes de nada.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Not only that but you blamed me for the things I never did. Later, I figured that out of fear, I was doing the same thing you did to me. Crazy, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

\"imagem<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m de tudo isso, a sua autocomisera\u00e7\u00e3o era insuport\u00e1vel. A tua auto-obsess\u00e3o tornou-se t\u00e3o \u00f3bvia que era dif\u00edcil de ignorar.<\/p>\n

Tudo o que fez foi fazer-me sentir mal pelo que fiz, o que \u00e9 um exemplo cl\u00e1ssico de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o emocional.<\/p>\n

Tudo girava sempre em torno de como nos sent\u00edamos.<\/p>\n

Eu estava a tentar ajudar-te, mas tu estavas sempre a usar-me.<\/p>\n

No final, apercebi-me you\u2019ll never change<\/a>. Nunca quiseste mudar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s how I learned that you can\u2019t change other people. Without their effort, nothing can be done.<\/p>\n

Other than that, I realized that by being with you, I disrespected myself. I didn\u2019t know my own worth and I agreed to play by your rules and ended up hurting myself but that\u2019s over with now.<\/p>\n

Lembro-me de me dizeres que eu tinha sorte em ter-te porque eras sempre melhor do que eu. Adivinha?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Now I know I\u2019m lucky you\u2019re gone. I\u2019m THANKFUL you\u2019re gone.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O melhor de tudo \u00e9 que agora, depois de tanto tempo, tenho-me a mim pr\u00f3pria e senti muito a minha falta.<\/p>\n

I will never let another man ruin my life like you did. There\u2019s no place for repeated mistakes. Instead, I promise myself I will stay true to myself, which means playing by nobody\u2019s rules.<\/p>\n

The next person who comes into my life will be someone who\u2019s worthy of my attention, time and love. Someone who will see me for who I am.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You taught me a valuable lesson. It had its price but now I understand why all of this had to happen. I needed to learn to love myself and that\u2019s what I did.<\/p>\n

After all, I forgive you but this time, I\u2019m not doing it for you but for myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ao perdoar-vos, estou a permitir-me seguir em frente com a minha vida.<\/p>\n

\"N\u00e3o<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Where do I start? Sometimes I feel so dumb that I let you into my life but then again, I remember I just believed you were a better person. Well, that wasn\u2019t the case. Everything we did always felt like some kind of competition where someone needed to prove something. Nothing was ever simple or…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-89317","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/89317","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=89317"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/89317\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=89317"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=89317"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=89317"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}