{"id":8943,"date":"2017-11-23T09:17:28","date_gmt":"2017-11-23T09:17:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=8943"},"modified":"2021-08-31T08:38:37","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T08:38:37","slug":"mulher-le-mensagem-enviada-pelo-marido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/mulher-le-mensagem-enviada-pelo-marido\/","title":{"rendered":"Para a mulher que leu a mensagem que enviei ao seu marido"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m sorry that you had to see that.<\/strong> I\u2019m sorry that you had to find out undeniably the kind of man that you are married to. I\u2019m sorry that you are now questioning your entire relationship and what, if any, role I played in it. I wish I could be more helpful to you. I wish there was a way for me to tell you the things you want to hear, but I don\u2019t think I can. I can tell you for certain that I did not have an affair with your husband.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Era uma vez, numa terra long\u00ednqua, sim, eu estava apaixonada por ele.<\/strong> Conheci-o quando estava no segundo ano do liceu e ele era como um sonho ambulante. He was handsome, charming and the captain of both the football AND the basketball teams\u2014everyone was in love with him.<\/strong> When you came along, it broke my poor little teenage heart. But I actually liked you, at first, and I totally got what he saw in you. You were strong, fearless and you didn\u2019t take any shit from anyone\u2026 least of all him. Plus, you managed to get something from him that I couldn\u2019t, so more power to you. I found my own someone and we all settled into our lives.<\/p>\n

A rela\u00e7\u00e3o que eu tinha com o seu marido durante esse tempo tornou-se muito complicada porque tent\u00e1mos manter a nossa amizade<\/a>. Ultimately, as the years went by\u2014yada, yada, yada\u2014he was really fucking shitty to me and I moved on.<\/strong> Muito bem. Ele casou contigo e eu cheguei a um ponto em que ele n\u00e3o era mais do que a mem\u00f3ria distante de um tipo que me fez mal h\u00e1 muito tempo.<\/p>\n

\"Para<\/p>\n

De facto, j\u00e1 tinha avan\u00e7ado tanto que, quando ele me contactou do nada, quase uma d\u00e9cada mais tarde, para pedir desculpa pela forma terr\u00edvel como me tratava, eu estava aberta e pronta a aceitar. Estava preparada para saber como tinha sido a vossa vida, como eram os vossos filhos e como estavam todos dez anos depois.<\/p>\n

Estava pronta para ficar feliz por ambos, por as coisas terem corrido bem, e depois voltar a viver a minha vida sem ele.<\/strong> But that\u2019s not what I heard. Instead, he told me some bullshit story that had me going through post-traumatic stress and bringing up all kinds of feelings that had been buried for a long time. It took three full days of ugly crying and two sick days spent in my bed reliving the nightmare that was the last time that I saw him at\u00e9 que finalmente me consegui recompor<\/a> o suficiente para chegar a uma conclus\u00e3o racional, a mesma conclus\u00e3o a que cheguei na altura.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to be with a person who is capable of doing to me what he\u2019s done to you. And furthermore, I don\u2019t want to be with a person who is capable of doing to me what he has done to me.<\/strong> Sure, I can forgive\u2014it was, after all, a long time ago, another lifetime almost. But I don\u2019t even want to be friends with a man capable of the kinds of things he is capable of. No amount of \u2018I\u2019m sorry\u2019s\u2019 can change that.<\/p>\n

Your husband hurt me in ways that I\u2019m sure, at this point, you can begin to imagine.<\/strong> I know you have questions, all kinds of questions. I\u2019m sure I would, too, in your position, but I can\u2019t help you. I can\u2019t drag myself back to that place and let someone I\u2019ve already moved on from hurt me again. So, you will have to ask him your questions. As I\u2019m sure you could tell from the tone and the content of the message you saw, I\u2019m done with that part of my life. What happens within your marriage is for you two to figure out and I wish you all the best in doing so. Please don\u2019t contact me again.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Com os melhores cumprimentos,
\nA mulher que n\u00e3o teve um caso com o seu marido<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

by\u00a0Tia Grace<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m sorry that you had to see that. I\u2019m sorry that you had to find out undeniably the kind of man that you are married to. I\u2019m sorry that you are now questioning your entire relationship and what, if any, role I played in it. I wish I could be more helpful to you. I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":8946,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29626],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8943","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-affair"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29626,"label":"affair"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/anatol-lem-186853.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29626,"name":"affair","slug":"affair","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29626,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","parent":29620,"count":132,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29626,"category_count":132,"category_description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","cat_name":"affair","category_nicename":"affair","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8943","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8943"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8943\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8946"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8943"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8943"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8943"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}