{"id":92141,"date":"2020-09-10T13:36:49","date_gmt":"2020-09-10T13:36:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=92141"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:17:12","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:17:12","slug":"o-seu-homem-stressado-retira-se","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-seu-homem-stressado-retira-se\/","title":{"rendered":"O que deve fazer quando o seu homem stressado se retira?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando confrontados com momentos dif\u00edceis, na maioria das vezes, os homens recorrem ao isolamento.<\/p>\n

So when your stressed man withdraws with no explanation, don’t take it personally.<\/p>\n

If you sense that he needs space (even though you’re in a long-term relationship and you want to talk things through), give it to him.<\/p>\n

Here’s the deal with men in stressful situations: Instead of coping, men pull away due to their fight or flight response.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When they’re under a lot of stress, they suppress their emotions, which manifests as them being distant toward their loved ones.<\/p>\n

Mas todas as grandes rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00eam os seus altos e baixos e lidar com situa\u00e7\u00f5es de stress faz parte do processo!<\/p>\n

Don’t worry if he runs away to his man cave every now and again. It’s his way of dealing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And as someone who’s had her fair share of aloof and distant men, here’s something to help you handle this challenging period.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o disfuncional: O que \u00e9 e como reconhecer os sinais<\/a><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as raz\u00f5es mais comuns que levam os homens a afastarem-se?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Os seus n\u00edveis de stress s\u00e3o extremamente elevados<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Todos podemos concordar que o stress \u00e9 um dos maiores factores na forma como lidamos com as situa\u00e7\u00f5es do dia a dia, e o mundo neste momento est\u00e1 todo o tipo de confus\u00e3o, por isso um homem que se retira n\u00e3o \u00e9 assim t\u00e3o surpreendente.<\/p>\n

Have you stopped to think that maybe he’s been going through a lot at work?<\/p>\n

Existem outros aspectos da vida dele que lhe causam ansiedade ou exigem um grande esfor\u00e7o?<\/p>\n

I’m sure that, just like you, he also has a lot on his plate, and sometimes it’s hard for him to process his emotions.<\/p>\n

Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t automatically assume that it’s you and give him space. Right now, that’s probably all he craves.<\/p>\n

He’s feeling a little suffocated in your relationship<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Quando duas pessoas est\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o feliz e saud\u00e1vel, os seus corpos libertam a hormona oxitocina.<\/p>\n

Nas mulheres, esta hormona \u00e9 conhecida por diminuir o stress, mas nos homens diminui o n\u00edvel de testosterona, o que, na verdade, induz o stress.<\/p>\n

Por isso, quando vir o seu homem a retrair-se, \u00e9 a sua forma de recuperar os n\u00edveis de testosterona!<\/p>\n

No matter how happy your love relationship is, he’s going to withdraw until he starts feeling like a man again.<\/p>\n

It might seem silly, but it’s how men’s brains operate.<\/p>\n

And while there’s not much you can do about it, it’s reassuring to know it’s not (necessarily) you.<\/p>\n

He’s emotionally immature<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Let’s hope this isn’t the case. Basically, when men are in love, they respond in one of two ways.<\/p>\n

Ou s\u00e3o suficientemente maduros para abra\u00e7ar o amor e simplesmente deix\u00e1-lo ir, ou afastam-se.<\/p>\n

Por isso, quando o seu homem stressado se retrair, saiba que, afinal, pode n\u00e3o ser stress.<\/p>\n

Pode muito bem ser a imaturidade emocional dele a impedi-lo de a amar como voc\u00ea merece.<\/p>\n

Lidar com um amor abrangente faz com que ele queira retirar-se para a sua caverna de homem e dar alguns passos atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

And unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do. He just needs to put on his big boy pants and start acting his age.<\/p>\n

He fears that he’s starting to lose his freedom<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

A liberdade \u00e9 algo que os homens consideram inestim\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

And I haven’t met a man on this earth who didn’t fear commitment precisely due to the false idea of losing their freedom.<\/p>\n

If you merely mention marriage to a man, you’ll see him clam up. It’s like a death certificate.<\/p>\n

Gra\u00e7as a Deus, h\u00e1 um pequeno n\u00famero de pessoas que s\u00e3o realmente fixes em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a isto.<\/p>\n

But if your man has fallen for you and things are heating up, know that he may be worried about losing any freedom he’s had thus far.<\/p>\n

And when a man pulls away, it’s usually just as things are getting serious.<\/p>\n

Mais uma vez, a responsabilidade \u00e9 toda dele. O amor dele por si tem de se sobrepor aos seus medos imaturos. Pode demorar pouco tempo, por isso, tenha paci\u00eancia com ele.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Relacionamento enredado: Defini\u00e7\u00e3o, sinais e dicas para super\u00e1-lo<\/a><\/p>\n

Como pode ajudar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t interrogate him, let him come to you<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

There are few things men hate more than the question ”What’s wrong?” If he wanted to tell you what was wrong, he would have.<\/p>\n

People can’t be forced into having certain conversations unless they’re ready.<\/p>\n

You can’t expect your man to open up when you feel like it. It doesn’t work that way. Sense the vibe of the situation and respect it.<\/p>\n

His stress hormones could be going berserk right now and it’s crazy to expect him to open up just like that.<\/p>\n

If he’s going through something, you need to let him come to you of his own volition. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Anything other than that will be forced and won’t help matters at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You want him to feel safe, comfortable, and relaxed, right? Then playing detective won’t help you.<\/p>\n

Let him go through his thing, respect his space, and don’t crowd him.<\/p>\n

When he’s ready to talk, he’ll give you a hint. But when a stressed man withdraws, the last thing you should do is resort to ‘attack mode’.<\/p>\n

Patience is your best friend here. Stress management ain’t easy, so let him take control of his emotions before diving deep into this.<\/p>\n

Create a comfort zone where he’ll be likely to respond to your subtle attempts<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It’s all about feeling safe and not like you\u2019re being attacked. He needs to know that you’re not interested in starting a fight.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 apenas a tentar ajud\u00e1-lo a encontrar uma forma de sair do seu buraco.<\/p>\n

Take him out to lunch to his favorite restaurant or go for a picnic. Create a comfortable environment where he’ll be more likely to open up.<\/p>\n

Here’s how I do it. If I suspect a certain issue, I’ll just downright say ”I have a feeling things aren’t going so well with your new boss”<\/em> and he’ll take the bait.<\/p>\n

He’ll open up because I made it easier on him by openly broaching the subject.<\/p>\n

If you have any suspicions as to what has made your stressed man withdraw, don’t be shy to say it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Combine that with a soothing, relaxing atmosphere, your warm tone, and he’ll immediately feel relieved to tell you all about it.<\/p>\n

Just don’t rush it. Observe the signs he’s giving out. If you sense that he’s still hesitant to discuss it, leave it be.<\/p>\n

Now he knows that you’re there, and he’ll talk when his stress levels decrease.<\/p>\n

Offer him a conversational inroad, and he’ll reveal his inner issues sooner rather than later. It’s all about knowing your audience.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Identificar, lidar e sobreviver a uma sogra narcisista<\/a><\/p>\n

Know that it most probably isn’t you<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A pior coisa que pode fazer \u00e9 assumir que tem algo a ver consigo e faz\u00ea-lo sentir-se ainda mais desconfort\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Don’t start panicking until you have solid proof that his behavior stems from something you did or said.<\/p>\n

If you do, you’re only going to worsen things for him and give him yet another cause for concern.<\/p>\n

Tive uma amiga cujo namorado passou por uma fase complexa.<\/p>\n

Ele retraiu-se, deixou de lhe enviar mensagens como normalmente fazia e agiu de forma distante. Ela ficou fora de si a pensar que era ela.<\/p>\n

E sabem o que \u00e9 que ela fez? Em vez de ter uma conversa madura, ela atacou-o (verbalmente), apontou o dedo e fez com que tudo se resumisse a ela<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Even though she’s a friend of mine, I was disgusted by her actions. Why?<\/p>\n

Porque as pessoas t\u00eam todo o direito de passar por momentos dif\u00edceis sem terem de justificar o seu afastamento s\u00fabito.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o podemos fazer com que as pessoas se sintam ainda pior do que j\u00e1 se sentem porque n\u00e3o conseguimos lidar com o facto de agirem de uma determinada forma.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And as for my friend’s situation, it turned out her man was dealing with the death of a friend.<\/p>\n

Foram muito pr\u00f3ximos durante toda a faculdade, mas recentemente desentenderam-se. E antes de terem hip\u00f3tese de resolver a situa\u00e7\u00e3o, ele faleceu.<\/p>\n

Por isso, \u00e9 evidente que ele precisava de tempo, espa\u00e7o e paci\u00eancia para lidar com as suas pr\u00f3prias emo\u00e7\u00f5es antes de estar pronto para falar sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n

Gra\u00e7as a Deus que acabaram, porque a forma como ela o fez sentir enquanto ele estava de luto foi simplesmente horr\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Let your man breathe for a second. You cannot imagine what he’s going through, so you should never assume that it’s you.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 outras pessoas na vida dele, sabes?<\/p>\n

Find someone else to confide in until he’s mentally ready again<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You have to be mindful of his current emotional state. I’m guessing he’s not in the mood for talking and sharing right now, and that’s okay.<\/p>\n

As pessoas precisam de tempo e n\u00f3s temos de o respeitar.<\/p>\n

Fale com os seus entes queridos sobre quaisquer quest\u00f5es que o estejam a incomodar e deixe que eles<\/em> ajud\u00e1-la at\u00e9 que o seu homem esteja melhor.<\/p>\n

A \u00faltima coisa que se quer fazer \u00e9 sobrecarreg\u00e1-lo ainda mais.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o momento de se virar para os mais pr\u00f3ximos e queridos, dando-lhes tempo para lidar com as suas dificuldades.<\/p>\n

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o um ref\u00fagio seguro de tudo o que se passa \u00e0 nossa volta, mas por vezes \u00e9 preciso ler nas entrelinhas e saber quando dar um passo atr\u00e1s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes – it means a literal step back. Give him space, both emotionally and physically, let him know that you’re here for him and go spend time with your friends.<\/p>\n

It’ll be a perfect escape for both of you. He’ll have some peace of mind and you’ll be in a well-known, safe environment where you’re free to share your concerns.<\/p>\n

Conhe\u00e7a o seu parceiro suficientemente bem para o deixar ficar sozinho quando ele precisar, mas continue a apoi\u00e1-lo totalmente e a estar ao seu servi\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Regra de n\u00e3o contacto: O poder do sil\u00eancio ap\u00f3s uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n

Don’t share his problems with anyone<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Let’s put it this way.<\/p>\n

If he’s not willing to share his problems with you, his long-term partner, he most definitely doesn’t want them to be known to anyone else.<\/p>\n

You must respect his privacy and not be tempted to tell anyone anything \u2013 even your best friend.<\/p>\n

His issues shouldn’t become public knowledge, especially since you don’t even know the extent of them.<\/p>\n

Como se sentiria se o seu homem decidisse contar aos amigos todos os seus problemas mais \u00edntimos?<\/p>\n

You’d probably feel exposed, vulnerable, and like your privacy had been breached.<\/p>\n

That’s exactly how it would feel for him too. So yeah, it’s understandable that you need someone to talk to about this, but you can’t.<\/p>\n

Until your man opens up, tells you what’s on his mind, and gives you permission to speak about it, your lips must remain sealed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you keep quiet, he’ll know that his secrets are safe with you (if he didn’t already know it).<\/p>\n

He’ll know that he made the right choice when he committed to you.<\/p>\n

And in his eyes, you’ll be the best girlfriend ever. It’s important that we’re able to contain ourselves when we feel like we can’t.<\/p>\n

If you don’t, it doesn’t really breed confidence and it will be a bad sign for your relationship.<\/p>\n

Mantenha os seus problemas em segredo e a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o ir\u00e1 prosperar por isso.<\/p>\n

Don’t be foolish and think that this issue can be resolved in the bedroom<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It’s really foolish to think that men only want one thing. They are big fans of bedroom romps, sure, but it’s not a cure for his issues.<\/p>\n

Don’t use your flirty methods as a means to cheer him up or make him forget about things.<\/p>\n

It’s not going to work, because he’s issues are deeper than that.<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m disso, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que os seus n\u00edveis de stress afectem negativamente o seu desempenho, e nenhum de voc\u00eas quer isso.<\/p>\n

And if he thinks that this is your way of being there for him, it’s going to be discouraging.<\/p>\n

Ele precisa que esteja presente emocionalmente, n\u00e3o fisicamente. Ele precisa de espa\u00e7o, compreens\u00e3o e tempo para p\u00f4r a cabe\u00e7a em ordem.<\/p>\n

A bedroom romp won’t achieve anything but make him feel less like a man and more likely to be negatively affected by this attempt.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So whatever you do, don’t use your seduction methods as a weapon. You know better than that.<\/p>\n

He’s not a 15-year old boy. He’s a grown man, with actual needs that go beyond the physical.<\/p>\n

He’ll be back to himself soon enough, and you’ll have your chance to be there in all the ways you want. But for now, respect his needs.<\/p>\n

If it’s space and time, so be it.<\/p>\n

Let him have it because the sooner he gets his head together, the sooner you’ll have your hunk of a man back in your arms.<\/p>\n

If nothing seems to work, it’s time for a more serious approach<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

This might appear to be a severe issue given the time he needs to get over it…but not necessarily.<\/p>\n

You see, when a stressed man withdraws, no matter what the issue is, he’s going to wallow in misery until you deliver a shock to his system.<\/p>\n

Alguns tipos n\u00e3o conseguem processar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es para salvar as suas vidas.<\/p>\n

So if nothing is working, he’s still distant, cold, perhaps even angry, it’s time for a more severe measure.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 \u00f3bvio que isto n\u00e3o pode continuar para sempre, pois tamb\u00e9m tem necessidades.<\/p>\n

If he’s not changing his pattern of questionable behavior regardless of your understanding, he needs an ultimatum.<\/p>\n

Normalmente, n\u00e3o concordo com ultimatos de qualquer tipo, mas quando a situa\u00e7\u00e3o o exige, \u00e9 preciso fazer o que \u00e9 preciso fazer.<\/p>\n

Face him with it head-on. Tell him that you’ve been patient, understanding, and have given him the space he needed. <\/strong><\/p>\n

And so far, things haven’t changed at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se ele quiser mant\u00ea-la ao seu lado, tem de mostrar um sinal de boa f\u00e9 e dar um passo em frente.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se pode ser constantemente ignorado e n\u00e3o se importar com isso.<\/p>\n

There comes a time when we need to face our demons whether we like it or not. If we don’t, our loved ones will suffer for it.<\/p>\n

So either you work this thing out, or you’re done.<\/p>\n

Chega de andar na ponta dos p\u00e9s \u00e0 volta dele, de andar sobre cascas de ovos e de ficar em segundo plano. Por vezes, \u00e9 esta a abordagem de que os homens precisam.<\/p>\n

Until you put him in this position and open his eyes, he won’t see how damaging his behavior is.<\/p>\n

Por isso, fa\u00e7o figas para que ele ganhe ju\u00edzo, se aperceba de que isto j\u00e1 dura h\u00e1 muito tempo e que as coisas t\u00eam de mudar.<\/p>\n

If he doesn’t, at least you’ll know you did your very best.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o podes continuar a p\u00f4r-te em segundo lugar. At\u00e9 que ele veja a gravidade dos seus actos e fa\u00e7a alguma coisa, o seu trabalho aqui est\u00e1 feito.<\/p>\n

While it’s admirable that you’re so determined to stick by his side through his passive-aggressiveness, it should nunca<\/em> a todo o custo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Desafio de 30 dias para o amor-pr\u00f3prio: torne-se a melhor vers\u00e3o de si mesmo<\/a><\/p>\n

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