{"id":9232,"date":"2018-11-29T08:32:49","date_gmt":"2018-11-29T08:32:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=9232"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:25:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:25:31","slug":"a-rapariga-continua-a-culpar-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-rapariga-continua-a-culpar-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Para a rapariga que ainda se culpa a si pr\u00f3pria"},"content":{"rendered":"

What can I say to make you see that you weren\u2019t the raz\u00e3o pela qual se foi embora?<\/a><\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t because you nagged him or because you were bad in bed. It wasn\u2019t because you were mean, or rude, or filled with jealousy at the wrong moments.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t because you weren\u2019t attractive, or because you weren\u2019t as sexy or as playful or as innocent as other girls.<\/p>\n

He left because he wanted to, because he didn\u2019t deserve the person you are, because he couldn\u2019t handle what it was like to not date, or kiss, or love, someone who wasn\u2019t an asshole.<\/p>\n

He left because you\u2019re the kind of woman who made him work, who challenged him, who asked questions, who spoke up, who had a voice that he wasn\u2019t ready to hear.<\/p>\n

As raz\u00f5es que o levaram a partir v\u00e3o deix\u00e1-lo a questionar-se sobre onde TU<\/strong> weren\u2019t wrong but it\u2019s his fault, n\u00e3o o teu<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 voc\u00ea que controla as inseguran\u00e7as dele. N\u00e3o \u00e9s tu que mandas de corrigir o seu passado t\u00f3xico<\/a> e n\u00e3o mereces ter de lidar com as repercuss\u00f5es da sua agita\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

You aren\u2019t to blame for how he deals with the toxicity of his childhood or past relationships where someone did him wrong. You aren\u2019t in charge of fixing his insecurities when he uses them as an excuse to mistreat you, to belittle you, to disgrace you.<\/p>\n

He will try and try and try to convince you that you need him, that you belong to him but you are nobody\u2019s property.<\/p>\n

Ele ri-se quando lhe apetece chorar e distorce as suas palavras at\u00e9 ao ponto em que, infelizmente, come\u00e7a a acreditar nelas. Ele corta-te com palavras e com enganos.<\/p>\n

Ele vai gozar com o amor que tens no teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, o mesmo amor que sussurrou para lhe dar uma oportunidade, o mesmo amor que fez vista grossa, o mesmo amor que te fez sentir que ainda havia algo de bom a arder dentro dele.<\/p>\n

\"Para<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o foi por tua causa que ele decidiu ir-se embora.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 por tua causa que ele era infeliz<\/a> porque ele ser\u00e1 infeliz com a pr\u00f3xima mulher, e com a pr\u00f3xima, e com a pr\u00f3xima depois dessa, porque ele nunca encontrar\u00e1 paz para ser suficientemente feliz consigo mesmo.
N\u00e3o \u00e9 por tua causa que ele est\u00e1 destro\u00e7ado.<\/p>\n

Sejam o vosso pr\u00f3prio recurso para a felicidade. Sejam a vossa pr\u00f3pria raz\u00e3o para acordarem de manh\u00e3, para enfrentarem o dia e para arrasarem enquanto o fazem. Prometo-vos que, eventualmente, essas cicatrizes e essas feridas de batalha desaparecer\u00e3o. As minhas acabaram por desaparecer.<\/p>\n

Eventually, he will fade into the background. He will become the warning story you save for rainy nights or during your daughter\u2019s first break-up when she fails to realize that the guy who just broke up with her reminds you of this person you used to love all those years ago.<\/p>\n

And down the line, you\u2019ll come to realize that nada mudou de facto<\/a>. He will still be unhappy and unsure of how to handle the kind of love you tried to offer him. He doesn\u2019t think he\u2019s deserving of it because his entire life he fought the very definition of it.<\/p>\n

The memories of who he was and what he did and how he made you feel won\u2019t define you forever. I assure you of that.<\/p>\n

por Courtney Dercqu<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n

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