{"id":93235,"date":"2020-09-16T22:06:38","date_gmt":"2020-09-16T22:06:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=93235"},"modified":"2022-06-06T15:21:51","modified_gmt":"2022-06-06T15:21:51","slug":"ex-e-quente-e-frio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ex-e-quente-e-frio\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 por isso que o seu ex \u00e9 quente e frio (e o que fazer sobre isso)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o terminou h\u00e1 algum tempo. No entanto, mesmo depois de todo este tempo, a sua ex continua quente e fria.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>H\u00e1 alturas em que eles agem como se o amassem e quisessem voltar para si.<\/p>\n<p>Periods when they keep on texting you, when they&#8217;re jealous of your new life, and when they tell you how much they miss you.<\/p>\n<p>Depois, no dia seguinte, o seu comportamento muda. De repente, deixam de responder \u00e0s suas chamadas telef\u00f3nicas e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/mensagens-de-texto-para-ele\/\">mensagens de texto<\/a> e come\u00e7am a ignorar-te.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If this is something you can relate to, your ex is definitely playing a hot and cold game. They&#8217;re playing mind games and consequently, you have no clue about where you stand.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o paramos de nos perguntar o que \u00e9 que eles sentem por n\u00f3s. Quais s\u00e3o as suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es? O seu ex sente o mesmo tipo de d\u00favidas que voc\u00ea?<\/p>\n<p>Well, you\u2019ve come to the right place because you&#8217;re about to get all the answers you need. Here is everything you need to know about what to do when an ex is hot and cold and why they behave like this.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>9 Reasons For Your Ex&#8217;s <\/b><b>Comportamento quente e frio<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Separa\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o processada<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93240 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea.jpg\" alt=\"homem de camisa verde junto ao mar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The first reason for this type of hot and cold behavior is the fact that your ex still hasn\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fases-da-rutura\/\">processou a separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> de uma forma saud\u00e1vel. Isto pode acontecer mesmo que a pessoa o tenha deixado.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You see, many people think that the person walking away always knows what they\u2019re doing \u2013 that they\u2019re 100% certain about their decision and that they have no doubts about ending the relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Theoretically, this makes sense. After all, they\u2019re the ones who chose to call it a quits so it doesn\u2019t seem logical for them to have second thoughts.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, in practice, things don\u2019t always go as smoothly as you might expect. Maybe they broke up with you impulsively or maybe they\u2019re regretting their decision.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Either way, the point is that your ex is still not fully aware of the fact that you\u2019re no longer together.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>H\u00e1 dias em que ainda o consideram como seu parceiro e em que agem como se fosse <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/sera-que-ainda-o-amo-5-sinais-claros-de-que-esta-na-altura-de-o-deixar-ir\/\">ainda apaixonado<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, there are days when their boundaries are clear. Days when they\u2019re sure about your break up and when they treat you like their ex, which you actually are.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93241 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree.jpg\" alt=\"homem de casaco preto junto a uma \u00e1rvore\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If this is the case, there is no doubt about one thing: this person hasn\u2019t accepted that it\u2019s over. They\u2019re doing their best to process some post-breakup emotions, which can change by the hour.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>H\u00e1 momentos em que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-meu-ex-ja-me-esqueceu-ou-esta-apenas-zangado\/\">they\u2019re angry with you<\/a> por alguns erros que cometeram enquanto estavam juntos, ou mesmo zangados consigo pr\u00f3prios por n\u00e3o terem sabido fazer melhor e por terem permitido que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o fosse por \u00e1gua abaixo.<\/p>\n<p>Moments when they\u2019re disappointed and can\u2019t accept the fact that your romance didn\u2019t succeed. Moments when <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-sinais-de-que-se-esta-a-fazer-de-vitima\/\">se sentem v\u00edtimas<\/a> e momentos em que se sentem culpados por nos terem deixado.<\/p>\n<p>Por outro lado, tamb\u00e9m h\u00e1 momentos em que o seu ex sente todo o amor que sentia por si no passado. Momentos em que todos os problemas que tiveram parecem resol\u00faveis e disparatados.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Each one of these dilemmas going on in their head reflects their behavior toward you. They\u2019re going through a rollercoaster of emotions right now and they\u2019re behaving accordingly.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">A luta pessoal \u00e9 real<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93242 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg\" alt=\"homem com cabelo encaracolado a olhar pela janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve been in a situation before where your heart was telling you one thing while your mind advised you otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>Numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que, no fundo, sabia qual era a coisa certa a fazer, mas as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es queriam seguir o seu pr\u00f3prio caminho.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, there is a real possibility that this is exactly what\u2019s going on with your ex right now.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They are not only struggling with you \u2013 they\u2019re also struggling with themselves, which is much more difficult.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>O seu ex est\u00e1 num estado constante de dilema. Ele sabe que ainda tem sentimentos fortes por si, mas, por outro lado, acredita firmemente que voltar para si seria uma ideia horr\u00edvel.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re aware that you are <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/true-love\/coupled-up\/8-sinais-mais-comuns-de-incompatibilidade-nos-relacionamentos\/\">n\u00e3o compat\u00edvel<\/a> with each other, that you probably wouldn\u2019t last much longer if you were to reconcile, and that you can never find the middle ground.<\/p>\n<p>Por outro lado, cada vez que o v\u00eaem ou apenas ouvem falar de si, a for\u00e7a das suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es domina-os.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93243 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table.jpg\" alt=\"homem de camisa preta encostado a uma mesa de madeira\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Por isso, perguntam-se o que seria melhor. Ser\u00e1 melhor <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fake-love\/brokenhearted\/e-preciso-muita-coragem-para-nos-afastarmos-de-alguem-que-amamos\/\">afastar-me de ti<\/a> and find someone they\u2019ll get along with better and to let go of this enormous love you both feel?<\/p>\n<p>Se fizerem isto, ser\u00e1 que alguma vez o v\u00e3o esquecer completamente? Ser\u00e1 que alguma vez voltar\u00e1 a apaixonar-se por algu\u00e9m t\u00e3o profundamente?<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, are their feelings worthy of doing the wrong thing? Are they ready to spend the rest of their life next to someone they\u2019ll never get along with?<\/p>\n<p>These questions are the reason why your ex is hot and cold. There are times when their mind wins over \u2013&nbsp; they ignore you and act like they couldn\u2019t care less about you.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when they act heartless and when they manage to pretend that they\u2019re completely indifferent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, there are times when their heart gets its way. Times when they can\u2019t control themselves and when their emotions take over.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when the \u201chot\u201d phase begins. This is when they act like they love you, when they&#8217;re texting you, trying to reach out to you and want to talk things through.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You are taking a test and you don\u2019t even know it<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93244 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a utilizar o telem\u00f3vel enquanto est\u00e1 sentada na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that your ex walked away from your relationship because they felt like you weren\u2019t giving them enough attention? Because they felt like your second choice and last resort?<\/p>\n<p>Well, if that is the case, it\u2019s very likely that they\u2019re acting hot and cold because they want to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/9-sinais-de-que-ela-esta-a-testar-te-para-decidir-se-es-um-bom-namorado\/\">test\u00e1-lo<\/a>. Eles v\u00eaem esta separa\u00e7\u00e3o como uma oportunidade para aprenderes a li\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want to actually continue living without you. Instead, they want to use this situation to make you grow fonder to them.<\/p>\n<p>A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que o seu ex est\u00e1 a usar psicologia inversa. Ele parte do princ\u00edpio de que a \u00fanica forma de come\u00e7ar a apreciar a sua presen\u00e7a \u00e9 sentir a sua aus\u00eancia.<\/p>\n<p>They think that once you realize they\u2019ve abandoned you, you\u2019ll understand what you\u2019re losing. Only then will you be aware that you want them by your side, and only then will you figure out their worth.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>O comportamento frio e quente deles n\u00e3o \u00e9 mais do que um teste que tem de passar para voltar a estar com eles.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1 finalmente pronto para <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/true-love\/finding-the-one\/e-por-isso-que-se-deve-lutar-por-quem-se-ama\/\">lutar por eles<\/a>? Ser\u00e1s tu a dar o passo para a tua reconcilia\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n<p>Ou vai simplesmente deix\u00e1-los ir, sem mexer um dedo? Vai sentar-se pacificamente e v\u00ea-los deixarem-no para sempre?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93247 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a segurar o estore da janela durante o dia\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The choice is all yours. Trust me \u2013 they won\u2019t change their behavior until you show some initiative and action.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, what your ex wants is for you to try a little bit harder. They want to see that you\u2019re ready to put some effort into winning them back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Your ex wants you to fight for them. They want to see that you want them back and that you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes to be a part of their life once more.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Por outras palavras, a pessoa quer mesmo voltar para si. No entanto, recusa-se a faz\u00ea-lo sem dar luta.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want you to think that you can have them whenever and however you like. Instead, they want to be appreciated and fought for.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend wants to see you begging them. They just want you to put in at least the minimum amount of effort into winning them back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade se foram eles que o deixaram. Seria admitir o seu erro se ele voltasse para si sem mais nem menos, sem que voc\u00ea mexesse um dedo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Amea\u00e7a-os<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93254 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake.jpg\" alt=\"homem com capuz azul a olhar para o lago\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A pr\u00f3xima raz\u00e3o pela qual o seu ex \u00e9 quente e frio pode ser o facto de se sentir amea\u00e7ado pela sua presen\u00e7a.<\/p>\n<p>Como v\u00eaem, o vosso <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/se-queres-reconquistar-o-teu-ex-namorado-le-isto\/\">ex-namorado<\/a> or girlfriend is afraid that you\u2019ll find a way to fool them back in your life and give your relationship another go.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, colocam um escudo \u00e0 volta do seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Constroem muros espessos \u00e0 sua volta, que servem para te manter fora.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, every time you come near them, they feel threatened. They\u2019re terrified that you\u2019ll manage to break their shield and that you\u2019ll find a way back into their heart in no time.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re not running away from you here \u2013 they\u2019re running away from themselves and from the emotions they still have for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Continuar a ser amigo \u00e9 uma op\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93256 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher sentados numa doca a olhar para a \u00e1gua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that you\u2019re misinterpreting your ex\u2019s behavior? That you\u2019re seeing something that isn\u2019t there?<\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that you\u2019re making a big deal of your ex just calling you or liking your social media posts?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Detesto ser eu a rebentar a sua bolha, mas pode ser que o seu ex esteja apenas a tentar ser amig\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n<p>Talvez estejam a ser educados e simp\u00e1ticos consigo, n\u00e3o porque queiram voltar a estar juntos, mas porque querem <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/se-deve-continuar-a-ser-amigo-do-seu-ex\/\">continuam a ser os melhores amigos<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 primeira vista, isto pode parecer completamente imposs\u00edvel. Afinal de contas, estiveram numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 qualquer hip\u00f3tese de serem os dois melhores amigos depois de tudo o que passaram.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, this is just your point of view. You still have deep emotions for this person so it is expected that you\u2019ll feel like this.<\/p>\n<p>Por outro lado, para eles, faz todo o sentido. Continuam a sentir algo por ti, mas n\u00e3o o mesmo tipo de sentimentos que tu.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93260 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface.jpg\" alt=\"homem mulher sentado numa superf\u00edcie de bet\u00e3o e a falar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>They don\u2019t love you romantically any more but that doesn\u2019t make them completely indifferent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After all, you\u2019re the human being they spent so much time with, so it is natural that they can\u2019t forget about you overnight. They remember all the good memories and everything you shared together.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They especially don\u2019t want to see you as their arch enemy. They don\u2019t hate you \u2013they want the best for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In fact, your cold ex still wants to be a part of your life. They want to at least know how you\u2019re doing and if there is anything they can do to help you.<\/p>\n<p>However, you misinterpret their acts of kindness and see them as mixed signals or as signs that they\u2019re still in love with you. Every time they reach out to you, you see it as a chance for getting back together.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, this is not their intention. For you, it\u2019s enough to see their name on your screen phone to think that they\u2019re trying to win you back, while they\u2019re just trying to be nice and kind.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Problemas de confian\u00e7a profundamente enraizados<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93261 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field.jpg\" alt=\"homem de p\u00e9 no campo durante o p\u00f4r do sol\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Maybe your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend has the desire to be back in your life but they simply don\u2019t trust you enough yet to make that happen.<\/p>\n<p>Por favor, seja realista e pense nas coisas que fez de errado na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Pense nos seus erros e nos seus erros.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Como v\u00eaem, o vosso <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/10-sinais-inegaveis-de-que-o-ex-ama\/\">a ex ainda tem sentimentos profundos por si<\/a>. No entanto, fez algo que violou a sua confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you\u2019re aware of doing so or not, the fact is that you caused some trauma for them.<\/p>\n<p>You made them expect the worst from you so now they\u2019re scared of letting you back in their life and giving you another chance.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, now it seems that your ex is hot and cold. However, this is nothing but them attempting to see whether you\u2019re trustworthy or not.<\/p>\n<p>They can\u2019t give you a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-razoes-para-uma-rapariga-dar-uma-segunda-oportunidade\/\">segunda oportunidade<\/a> sem ter a certeza sobre si.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93265 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg\" alt=\"homem de casaco preto sentado perto de uma janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They can\u2019t give you a second chance until they\u2019re one hundred percent sure that you won\u2019t repeat your mistakes and that you won\u2019t hurt them again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, they see this period as a kind of test. They don\u2019t want you out of their life but they don\u2019t want you in it just yet, either.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Instead, what they need is to see that you\u2019ve changed. It\u2019s up to you to show them that you\u2019re a different person who won\u2019t break their heart all over again.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s your job to convince them that they can rely on you this time. That by giving you another chance they\u2019re not giving you a green light to keep on hurting them and doing them harm.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s up to you to regain their trust. They don\u2019t want you to back out as soon as they return \u2013 they want you to keep on fighting even harder and to show them that your relationship is worth the risk.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If this is the case, please don\u2019t play them once you regain their trust. Don\u2019t prove to them that breaking up with you was a good decision and that taking you back was the mistake of their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93267 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher segurando ch\u00e1venas de caf\u00e9\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Detesto ser eu a dizer-lhe isto, mas a verdade amarga \u00e9 que a sua ex-namorada ou namorado pode ter uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o da qual n\u00e3o sabe nada.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Seja como for, a quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que o novo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/a-coisa-esta-a-ficar-seria\/\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria<\/a> they\u2019re in is dictating the tempo of your communication.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, while it seems like your ex is hot and cold because of the mixed emotions they have for you, the fact is that their behavior depends on what it\u2019s going on in their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Whenever their new romance is going great, there is no sign of them. They stop returning your calls, there\u2019s no texting at all, and they don\u2019t even keep track of your social media activity like they used to.<\/p>\n<p>Consequently, you\u2019re left wondering what went wrong. Did you do something that caused them to cut ties all of a sudden \u2013 without any explanation or closure?<\/p>\n<p>Then, out of the blue, they reappear in your life. It\u2019s possible that their new relationship has entered a crisis.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93271 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge.jpg\" alt=\"homem de casaco preto e mulher sentados perto de uma ponte\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Talvez tenham percebido que o seu atual namorado ou namorada nunca os amar\u00e1 como voc\u00ea o fez. Ou talvez tenham acabado de ter uma discuss\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Beware of the possibility that your ex is doing all of this on purpose. Maybe they\u2019re trying to make their current partner jealous of you, without you being aware of what they\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n<p>Either way, this is the period in which your ex is constantly present in your life. They\u2019re not directly pressuring you to reconcile but they\u2019re all over you.<\/p>\n<p>They give you the impression that you\u2019re one step away from getting back together. However, what you don\u2019t know is that you\u2019re only serving as a way for them to overcome the crisis in their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Naturally, they won\u2019t be honest about their relationship status with you. Instead, they\u2019ll try their best to hide everything from you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After all, they want to keep you around, just in case. They can\u2019t afford to lose you if their current relationship falls apart, so they\u2019re keeping you as their safety net.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Abuso de poder<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93274 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher apoiada numa mesa enquanto olha para o telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quer queira admitir ou n\u00e3o, quando o seu ex \u00e9 quente ou frio, ele ganha algum tipo de poder sobre si.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the one waiting for them to reach out the whole time, hoping they\u2019ll come back to you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You put your life on hold, while they\u2019re out there making their mind up about you and not worrying about your well being.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you have no say in this entire situation. They\u2019re the one who needs to make the decision and you have no way of influencing it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, the truth is that in some cases, your ex is pretty much aware of all of this. They know that currently, they\u2019re the dominant one and they take advantage of that.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Eles brincam conscientemente com a sua mente e o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o. Eles procuram-no quando se sentem sozinhos e abandonados e quando n\u00e3o t\u00eam mais ningu\u00e9m a quem recorrer.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, as soon as their life gets back on track and as soon as everything starts to go smoothly, they\u2019re nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n<p>Suddenly, they\u2019ve forgotten all about you and start acting like you never existed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t fool yourself and think that this is their <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/sinais-mulher-emocionalmente-indisponivel\/\">indisponibilidade emocional<\/a> talking. You can be certain that they\u2019re doing all of this on purpose.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93277 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de top \u00e0s riscas sentada ao ar livre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want to give you a chance to fall out of love with them. As soon as they notice that your emotions are fading away and as soon as they see that you might forget them, they go into attack mode.<\/p>\n<p>So, the next day they give you hope that reconciliation is possible. They say that they miss you and that they can\u2019t imagine living their life without you.<\/p>\n<p>However, all of these are just empty words that are never backed up with action. The fact is that they\u2019re not doing anything about actually reviving your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, as soon as they see that you\u2019ve caught the hook, they\u2019re nowhere to be found. They disappear, leaving you in agony and abandoning you when you need them the most.<\/p>\n<p>At first, you suffer because of their absence and the fact that they&#8217;re acting hot and cold. You miss them and constantly overthink your entire relationship and everything that went on later.<\/p>\n<p>However, after a while, you accept that they\u2019re gone. You no longer try to contact them and you give up on the idea that you\u2019ll ever be together again.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, when you\u2019re just one step closer to finding peace, there they\u2019re again. There they\u2019re with their sweet words and empty promises.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Before you know it, you\u2019re trapped once more in this endless cycle from which you see no way out. So what is this if it\u2019s not them using their power over you?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Apaixonaram-se mas s\u00e3o nost\u00e1lgicos<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93279 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher sentados num banco perto de \u00e1gua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Here is another thing you might have trouble accepting \u2013 there is a great possibility that your ex has sadly <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/34-sinais-de-que-ja-nao-ama\/\">deixou de te amar<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The first question then is, why have they contacted you at all if they\u2019ve fallen out of love?<\/p>\n<p>Bem, por vezes, apesar de j\u00e1 n\u00e3o sentirmos nada por uma pessoa que am\u00e1vamos, continuamos a sentir nostalgia das boas recorda\u00e7\u00f5es e dos momentos que pass\u00e1mos juntos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Maybe your ex is scared of moving on. You\u2019re their comfort zone and they feel some kind of security as long as they have you around.<\/p>\n<p>Even though they\u2019ve stopped loving you, they have a hard time admitting their indifference. They simply can\u2019t let you go and they don\u2019t feel ready to continue their life without your presence.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, sempre que passam por um momento dif\u00edcil, procuram conforto na sua empresa. Continuam a pedir o seu conselho e a sua opini\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, considera-se que se trata de uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o quente e fria.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>7 coisas a fazer quando <\/b><b>O teu ex \u00e9 quente e frio<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Figure out if you\u2019re being used or they\u2019re confused<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93282 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada \u00e0 janela a olhar para o exterior\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Antes de agir em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu problema, todos os conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es lhe dir\u00e3o que, antes de mais, tem de ir ao fundo da quest\u00e3o.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Now that you\u2019ve read all of the possible reasons why your ex is hot and cold, rethink your situation for a couple of days and try to figure out what reason you relate to the most.<\/p>\n<p>O mais importante \u00e9 perceber se <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-sinais-alarmantes-de-que-ele-a-esta-a-usar-emocionalmente\/\">you\u2019re being used<\/a> or they\u2019re confused. Are they doing all of this involuntarily, without being aware of the impact their behavior is having on you?<\/p>\n<p>Ou ser\u00e1 que se comportam assim de prop\u00f3sito, com a inten\u00e7\u00e3o de o magoar ainda mais? Est\u00e3o a fazer tudo isto sem se preocuparem com o seu bem-estar?<\/p>\n<p>Sei que responder a esta pergunta pode ser doloroso, mas confie em mim, \u00e9 crucial para si saber a verdade. Seja o mais realista poss\u00edvel e n\u00e3o tenha em conta os seus desejos e esperan\u00e7as.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93285 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de p\u00e9 perto de um lago durante o p\u00f4r do sol\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Naturally, you shouldn\u2019t react the same way if your ex is struggling with their emotions rather than consciously playing mind games with you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>No primeiro caso, deve ser compreensivo. Afinal, essa pessoa ama-o, mas est\u00e1 a ter dificuldade em conciliar o c\u00e9rebro e o cora\u00e7\u00e3o.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you know you\u2019re dealing with a jerk who is playing you, they don\u2019t deserve any sympathy.<\/p>\n<p>Na verdade, o que eles deveriam receber \u00e9 o gosto do seu pr\u00f3prio rem\u00e9dio ou voc\u00ea deveria expuls\u00e1-los imediatamente da sua vida.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Whatever you decide to do and whatever approach you choose, please always put your emotions first. Don\u2019t engage in anything that might end up hurting you even more.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">N\u00e3o sejas pegajoso<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93287 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de casaco vermelho de p\u00e9 numa ponte\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another thing you shouldn\u2019t do is be overly clingy. You see, once you realize that you\u2019re losing someone you love, you may have the impulse to keep them by your side, no matter what.<\/p>\n<p>As soon as someone ignores you, you have an even bigger desire to get their attention. The same is true of you and your ex \u2013 this is just a part of human nature.<\/p>\n<p>Quanto menos respondem \u00e0s suas mensagens de texto, mais voc\u00ea envia mensagens duplas e triplas. Quanto menos respondem aos seus telefonemas, mais desculpas arranja para os contactar.<\/p>\n<p>Quanto mais ignorarem a sua atividade nas redes sociais, mais fotografias e actualiza\u00e7\u00f5es de estado publicar\u00e1.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This actually makes sense at a first glance. You\u2019re subconsciously trying to keep them from leaving you and more importantly \u2013 from forgetting you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Esta \u00e9 a sua tentativa de lembrar essa pessoa de si. Uma tentativa de a manter na sua vida, a todo o custo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93291 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada no ch\u00e3o a olhar para a montanha\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you one thing: you\u2019ll actually only achieve the opposite with your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/5-coisas-em-que-e-extremamente-pegajoso\/\">grande apego<\/a>. By doing this, you\u2019re producing a counterproductive effect.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of pulling this person closer, you\u2019ll only chase them away. You\u2019ll make them feel suffocated and trapped and they\u2019ll want to run for their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Besides, this approach will make your ex lose all their appreciation for you. You\u2019re sending them a message that they can treat you however they want.<\/p>\n<p>No matter what they do, you\u2019ll always be around. In fact, the worse they treat you, the more you\u2019ll love them.<\/p>\n<p>Ent\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 que eles mudariam exatamente o seu comportamento? N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada que ela possa fazer para que deixes de a amar, por isso pode continuar a agir assim durante o tempo que quiser.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mostre-lhes que consegue sobreviver sem eles<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93349 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2.jpg\" alt=\"quatro mulheres sentadas num banco com copos de cerveja\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>O mais importante nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 mostrar ao seu ex que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor-proprio\/girl-power\/date-a-girl-who-wants-you-but-doesnt-need-you\/\">you don\u2019t need them<\/a>. I\u2019m not saying that you need to act like you don\u2019t care about them, though.<\/p>\n<p>However, there is a difference between loving someone and being dependent on them. That is exactly what you need to prove to them: that you want them in your life but you won\u2019t be doomed if you lose them.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you need to show your ex that you can make it without them. So, instead of making phone calls, asking for favors, or asking for their advice, show them that you\u2019re independent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Utilize este tempo para trabalhar a sua auto-confian\u00e7a e para se tornar a melhor vers\u00e3o poss\u00edvel de si pr\u00f3prio. Invista este tempo e toda a sua energia em mimar-se e melhorar.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez de ficar obcecado com o seu ex e com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o falhada,<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/quando-um-velho-amigo-nos-contacta-do-nada\/\"> reencontrar alguns velhos amigos<\/a>. Saia com as pessoas e veja isso como uma oportunidade de conhecer algu\u00e9m novo.<\/p>\n<p>Trabalhe na sua educa\u00e7\u00e3o e carreira. Leia livros, veja filmes e encontre um novo passatempo.<\/p>\n<p>Para al\u00e9m de cuidar da sua mente e do seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, trabalhe tamb\u00e9m a sua apar\u00eancia f\u00edsica. V\u00e1 ao gin\u00e1sio ou pratique algum tipo de atividade f\u00edsica.<\/p>\n<p>Isto ser\u00e1 ben\u00e9fico para a sua sa\u00fade mental e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/romantic-love\/love-advice\/construir-confianca-central-vida-bem-sucedida-namorar\/\">autoconfian\u00e7a<\/a> tamb\u00e9m. Aliviar\u00e1 o stress e a energia negativa, para al\u00e9m de o p\u00f4r em forma.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, you shouldn\u2019t do all of this to spite your ex. Your final goal is not to show them what they lost.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, you\u2019re working on yourself for your own sake. You\u2019re doing it to show yourself that you don\u2019t need anyone and that you\u2019re the creator of your own happiness.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mirror your cold ex&#8217;s behavior<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93350 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a olhar para o mar enquanto est\u00e1 sentada ao ar livre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>According to a lot of relationship advice, the thing you should do is mirror your ex\u2019s behavior when it comes to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/a-psicologia-por-detras-do-jogo-dos-encontros\/\">jogos frios e quentes<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This person\u2019s intention is to confuse you and to bring you into a situation in which you don\u2019t know what to think or where to stand.<\/p>\n<p>Well, why don\u2019t you outsmart them for the first time ever? Turn the tables and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/10-passos-para-vencer-o-jogo-do-jogador\/\">venc\u00ea-los no seu pr\u00f3prio jogo<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>O que deve fazer \u00e9 refletir o seu comportamento. Quando eles o ignorarem, d\u00ea-lhes um tratamento ainda mais frio.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t let them in as soon as they try to reenter the hot stage. Instead, make them work for it.<\/p>\n<p>Ignore them for a little while after they start reaching out to you. Then, start acting like everything is in perfect order and make them believe that you\u2019re crazy over them.<\/p>\n<p>Passado algum tempo, sem mais nem menos, \u00e9 a pessoa que lhes d\u00e1 o tratamento do sil\u00eancio. Sem mais nem menos, reduza a sua comunica\u00e7\u00e3o ao m\u00ednimo indispens\u00e1vel e comece a mostrar desinteresse.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93351 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a segurar uma caneca enquanto est\u00e1 sentada num sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ou pode simplesmente desaparecer, sem lhes dar uma explica\u00e7\u00e3o adequada. Fa\u00e7a isso antes que eles comecem a ignor\u00e1-lo e antecipe as suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p>Believe me \u2013 this is how you\u2019ll turn the situation in your favor. Now, they\u2019ll be the ones wondering what is going on.<\/p>\n<p>Os que est\u00e3o a tentar descodificar o seu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/blogue\/6-maneiras-infaliveis-de-responder-aos-sinais-contraditorios-dele\/\">sinais contradit\u00f3rios<\/a> e os que v\u00e3o passar o tempo todo a pensar nos seus movimentos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, I have to warn you about one thing: by doing this, you\u2019ll play with their head.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll probably even hurt their feelings. Nevertheless, there is also a great chance of hurting yourself as well here.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The point is that you\u2019re ignoring them on purpose, so you end up missing them as well. To put things simply: you\u2019re breaking your own heart just so you can break theirs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Reduzir a sua atividade nas redes sociais<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93352 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com \u00f3culos sentada num espa\u00e7o interior\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Social media is a big part of modern dating. So, even though you\u2019re not actually dating this person anymore, your social profiles can still help you a lot.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When you first break up with someone you still love, you have the same impulse as the rest of us. You stalk your ex\u2019s profiles, you want to find out where and with whom they\u2019re spending their time.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, utiliza os seus perfis para lhes enviar uma mensagem. Publica actualiza\u00e7\u00f5es de estado tristes e cita\u00e7\u00f5es sobre a falta de algu\u00e9m, can\u00e7\u00f5es que possam recordar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Por outro lado, pode utilizar os seus perfis para lhes provocar ci\u00fames. Coloca fotografias suas a divertir-se imenso ou actualiza\u00e7\u00f5es de estado sobre como \u00e9 bom estar solteiro.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you that neither approach works. Even if you post your happy photos, they\u2019ll be aware that you\u2019re doing all of that in spite of them.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93353 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com mochila perto de \u00e1gua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Besides, both approaches are beneficial for your ex. Either way, they know where you\u2019re spending your time and what you\u2019ve been up to.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, a melhor coisa a fazer \u00e9 reduzir a sua atividade nas redes sociais ao m\u00ednimo indispens\u00e1vel. Mantenha-se calado e fa\u00e7a-os pensar.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Do the same with your mutual friends. Don\u2019t reveal your plans or emotions and especially don\u2019t ask about them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Se poss\u00edvel, seria melhor cortar todos os la\u00e7os com qualquer pessoa ligada ao seu ex. Se eles querem saber de si, obrigue-os a contact\u00e1-la.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t let them get the information they need without moving an inch \u2013 through your friends or social media. Force them to make an effort or give you access to their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don\u2019t react when they go cold<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93354 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com casaco de ganga sentada numa cadeira azul\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The most important thing is to stay calm once your ex enters \u201cthe cold\u201d phase. Naturally, your first impulse here is to get angry but this is not how you&#8217;ll get your ex back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Quer chamar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o para os seus actos. Quer gritar com eles e discutir com eles sobre o seu comportamento injusto.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, esta \u00e9 a \u00faltima coisa que deve fazer. Confie em mim: a sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 o que o seu ex-namorado ou namorada quer.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They want to see that they\u2019ve accomplished their goal. They\u2019ve managed to hurt your feelings and to affect you in the worst way possible.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, o que mais os vai magoar \u00e9 se lhes der o tratamento do sil\u00eancio. Eles esperam que os persiga, tanto quanto fogem de si.<\/p>\n<p>Querem que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/nunca-implores-a-um-homem-por-estas-10-coisas-que-mereces\/\">implorar-lhes<\/a> to come back every time they leave. They want you to get angry, even, because that is a sign that you\u2019re not indifferent.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you ignore their cold behavior, you\u2019ll make them lose their mind. They\u2019ll wonder why there is no reaction from you and whether it\u2019s a sign that you don\u2019t care for them at all.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, before you know it, your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend will come knocking on your door. They\u2019ll come crawling back to you, just to check what\u2019s wrong and whether they still have a place in your life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Falar com eles cara a cara<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93355 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher sentados \u00e0 mesa e a conversar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Finally, if you\u2019ve had enough of this situation, it\u2019s time to bring the subject up and talk to them face to face. After all, the two of you are mature human beings and I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;ll be able to find the middle ground.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be emotional and don\u2019t show them your weakness and vulnerable side.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t be arrogant either if you want to get your ex back. Just be as realistic as possible and talk to them about your situation.<\/p>\n<p>Be honest and tell them that you\u2019re not stupid and that they can\u2019t play you for a fool anymore. You won\u2019t put up with this behavior a second longer and you want to know where you stand.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be scared of telling them that you&#8217;ve wanted to get back together this whole time.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t cry or beg them: just tell them that you still have feelings for them and that you would like to give your relationship another shot.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t make them give you the answer right away or the next day.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Instead, give them a certain period of time \u2013 a couple of days or more to make up their mind.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93356 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada no ch\u00e3o perto de uma janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>Aplique a regra de n\u00e3o estabelecer contacto at\u00e9 que ele tome uma decis\u00e3o. Se o seu ex est\u00e1 quente e frio depois de n\u00e3o ter contacto, tudo est\u00e1 claro.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, don\u2019t give them a lot of time. Set a date and be firm about it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If they don\u2019t give you an answer in that period of time, leave them for good. Don\u2019t allow them to keep playing with you or to keep you on hold.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Quando o seu ex est\u00e1 a fazer jogo duro e voc\u00ea decide adotar esta abordagem, tenha a certeza da sua decis\u00e3o e de que \u00e9 capaz de o fazer.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t do all of this if you\u2019re going to fall for them the first time they contact you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There is no point in bringing the subject up if you\u2019ll be too weak to stick to your decision.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t allow them to keep on playing games with you because that way, you\u2019ll just show them that you\u2019re nothing but a fool and that your words mean nothing.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93724 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"\u00c9 por isso que o seu ex \u00e9 quente e frio (e o que fazer sobre isso)\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your relationship ended a while ago. However, even after all this time, still your ex is hot and cold.&nbsp; There are times when they act like they love you and want to get back together with you. Periods when they keep on texting you, when they&#8217;re jealous of your new life, and when they tell&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":93238,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-93235","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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