{"id":9412,"date":"2020-12-21T14:20:51","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T14:20:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=9412"},"modified":"2022-10-21T08:52:21","modified_gmt":"2022-10-21T08:52:21","slug":"2020-ensinou-me-o-que-nao-e-o-verdadeiro-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/2020-ensinou-me-o-que-nao-e-o-verdadeiro-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"2022 Ensinou-me o que n\u00e3o \u00e9 o verdadeiro amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Este ano come\u00e7ou com eu a pensar que devia ser a mulher mais feliz do mundo porque o tinha. Ele era um daqueles raros tipos de homens que se aproximavam de ser o namorado perfeito. Era atencioso, carinhoso, f\u00e1cil de falar, masculino, motivado e apaixonado. Da forma como eu o via, ele tinha tudo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sentia que a sua miss\u00e3o na vida era fazer-me feliz. Ele enchia-me de aten\u00e7\u00e3o. Pensava nas formas mais divertidas de me surpreender. Arranjava sempre tempo para mim, por muito ocupado que estivesse.<\/span> Eu estava muito apaixonada por ele e pensei que estava numa esp\u00e9cie de sonho, esperando nunca mais acordar. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Tudo parecia perfeito. Mas, passado algum tempo, comecei a v\u00ea-lo como ele realmente era. Era como se ele tivesse mudado de repente. Tornou-se uma pessoa que eu j\u00e1 n\u00e3o reconhecia. Toda a aten\u00e7\u00e3o que ele me dava parecia um fardo. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was constantly on my case for this and that. He didn\u2019t like my behavior. He resented anything I had to say or he wouldn\u2019t approve of the way I was saying it. One day I was the most perfect girl alive and the next he couldn\u2019t stand to see me. He treated me like I was flawed from top to bottom.<\/span><\/p>\n

O pior \u00e9 que eu acreditei nele. Pensei que era eu. Que eu n\u00e3o era suficientemente boa para ele e que tinha de mudar. Ele fez-me duvidar de mim em todos os aspectos. <\/b><\/p>\n

It affected my life, it affected my work and my relationships with other people, not to mention the relationship I had with myself. I was unable to make a decision because I didn\u2019t know if I was competent enough to make one. I used to run to him for advice for everything because he had me believe that he had all the answers.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Ele fez-me sentir completamente miser\u00e1vel. I couldn\u2019t be happy anymore.<\/a> Claro, ria-me de vez em quando, mas n\u00e3o havia felicidade naquele sorriso.<\/span> Parecia que eu tinha de pagar por todos aqueles momentos de felicidade que partilh\u00e1mos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ele disse que me amava tantas vezes. Jurava que eu era o amor da sua vida. Afirmava que n\u00e3o havia neste mundo amor maior do que o nosso. Agora sei que isso era tudo menos amor, porque o amor nunca deveria doer tanto. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he never would have given me all those happy moments just so he could ruin them with all those crappy ones.<\/b> He wouldn\u2019t have said I was pretty one minute and then call me all sorts of ugly names the next. He wouldn\u2019t even just say nice things when he saw that I was completely down. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have brought me down. He would have looked at me like I was his equal.<\/b> Ele n\u00e3o teria tido qualquer prazer em fazer-me sentir mal comigo pr\u00f3prio. Nunca me teria feito questionar a minha intelig\u00eancia ou a minha compet\u00eancia. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have made me feel like I was not enough.<\/b> And that\u2019s all that he did\u2014made me doubt myself, made me think I was not pretty enough, smart enough, good enough or anything enough to be with him. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have stood to see me cry. <\/b>Ele nunca teria permitido que todas aquelas l\u00e1grimas corressem pela minha cara por causa dele. Ele nunca me teria magoado de prop\u00f3sito. Ele nunca teria sido a pessoa que causou aquelas l\u00e1grimas em primeiro lugar. <\/span><\/p>\n

No final, tudo o que posso fazer \u00e9 dizer obrigado por me mostrares o que o amor n\u00e3o \u00e9.<\/a> Thanks to you, I am entering 2023 as a completely different person. The one who doesn\u2019t allow herself to be put down. The one who knows she is good enough and would never allow anybody else to tell her otherwise. The one who is stronger from all the tears. The one who is learning to love herself again. <\/span><\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This year began with me thinking I must have been the happiest woman alive because I had him. He was one of those rare types of men who came close to being a perfect boyfriend. He was thoughtful, caring, easy to talk to, masculine, driven and passionate. From the way I saw him, he had…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":9414,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/roberto-nickson-366181.jpg",800,574,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9412","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9412"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9412\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9414"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}