{"id":95445,"date":"2020-09-15T09:28:26","date_gmt":"2020-09-15T09:28:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=95445"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:54:14","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:54:14","slug":"lidar-com-a-ex-mulher","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/lidar-com-a-ex-mulher\/","title":{"rendered":"15 dicas para lidar com a ex-mulher do seu namorado"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you’re dating a divorced man, I really feel for you. Dealing with the ex-wife of your boyfriend is never an easy job.<\/p>\n

No entanto, deve ter sempre em mente que o importante \u00e9 que ela \u00e9 uma ex e uma ex \u00e9 uma ex por uma raz\u00e3o. <\/em><\/p>\n

Ela pertence ao seu passado e tu \u00e9s o seu presente e, esperemos, o seu futuro.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que seria melhor para todos v\u00f3s se mantivessem rela\u00e7\u00f5es amig\u00e1veis, especialmente se houver crian\u00e7as envolvidas.<\/em><\/p>\n

Co-parenting isn’t always easy, trust me, and you should help both your partner and his ex-spouse with this, if they have kids together.<\/p>\n

Tenha sempre em mente e fa\u00e7a coisas que sejam do melhor interesse das crian\u00e7as.<\/p>\n

Your husband’s ex<\/a> was a part of your new partner’s past and you have to aceitar o facto de que ela far\u00e1 sempre (infelizmente) parte da vida dele se for a m\u00e3e dos seus filhos.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Seria melhor para os dois, mas sobretudo para as crian\u00e7as, se conseguissem encontrar um ponto em comum e estabelecer rela\u00e7\u00f5es saud\u00e1veis entre os dois.<\/p>\n

How to deal with your boyfriend’s ex-wife?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Penso que esta \u00e9 a pergunta mais frequente feita pelas mulheres que s\u00e3o namorar um homem divorciado com filhos<\/a> and your husband’s ex can really be unbearable sometimes.<\/p>\n

Here’s how to handle her effectively.<\/p>\n

Get to know your partner’s ex<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, deves conhec\u00ea-la.<\/p>\n

I don’t mean that you should only shake hands with her and tell her your name, I mean that you should really spend some time with her and conhec\u00ea-la<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Isto ser\u00e1 mais f\u00e1cil se ela e o seu companheiro se divorciarem amigavelmente e continuarem amigos depois da separa\u00e7\u00e3o, porque a rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre eles tamb\u00e9m ser\u00e1 mais descontra\u00edda.<\/p>\n

Devias dar-lhe uma oportunidade. Podes ficar surpreendido e at\u00e9 te tornares amigo dela, o que seria muito fixe.<\/p>\n

Don’t have any prejudices about her if you haven\u2019t yet even met her.<\/p>\n

If she and your new partner didn’t get along well, that doesn’t mean that you won’t.<\/p>\n

Talvez ela seja um tipo de pessoa totalmente diferente do que imagina e do que os outros disseram sobre ela.<\/p>\n

Talvez esta nova amizade entre voc\u00eas os dois a ajude a aprender e a compreender algumas coisas novas sobre o seu namorado e a sua anterior rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Convid\u00e1-la ou sair com ela para tomar um caf\u00e9<\/h2>\n

\"mulheres<\/p>\n

Why not? This may seem a little bit awkward but it really doesn’t have to be. You can hang out with her and get to know her.<\/p>\n

Trust me, that’s how the kids will accept and like you faster.<\/p>\n

Ask her to hang out more often. Tell her that you want to be a friend to her even if it’s a little bit strange in your circumstances.<\/p>\n

Pergunte-lhe sobre a sua vida pessoal e seja honesto quando responder a perguntas sobre a sua vida pessoal.<\/p>\n

Pergunte-lhe sobre a sua vida amorosa e se ela tamb\u00e9m tem um namorado novo ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Maybe right now it seems really awkward to speak to your husband’s ex about these things but you’ll soon see that there is nothing to worry about.<\/p>\n

You can also ask her some things you would like to know about your significant other or their children too and don\u2019t be ashamed to talk about your new relationship with her ex-husband, especially if she asks you about it.<\/p>\n

D\u00ea-lhe a oportunidade de o conhecer<\/h2>\n

\"duas Deve tamb\u00e9m dar-lhe a oportunidade de conhecer o seu verdadeiro eu.<\/p>\n

She’ll most definitely want to know who the girl is who came after her and who is a possible stepmom to her kids.<\/p>\n

Be honest and direct about everything you talk to her about. Don’t pretend or lie just because you want to get her \u2018approval\u2019 in some way.<\/p>\n

Also, you shouldn’t be a suck-up to her to get her to like you. You don’t need that.<\/p>\n

Once she sees how much you make her ex-husband happy and how great you are with kids, she’ll start seeing you in a different way.<\/p>\n

Se ela estiver zangada ou amargurada com o seu namorado ou consigo, conhecer o seu verdadeiro eu pode ajudar.<\/p>\n

Once she sees that you are a good person and that she doesn’t have anything to worry about, she’ll accept you and try to be friends with you.<\/p>\n

Tentar compreender o que ela sente<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This is very important. You are a woman, too. Maybe she didn’t want the divorce, maybe she still loves him…<\/p>\n

Deve ter tudo isso em conta e tentar compreend\u00ea-la.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s definitely not so easy for her to watch her ex-marido com o seu novo<\/a> namorada todos os dias e ter\u00e1 medo que as crian\u00e7as gostem demasiado de si e comecem a chamar-lhe m\u00e3e.<\/p>\n

If you’re alone at one point and you start talking, you should ask her about her previous marriage, mental health and well-being in general.<\/p>\n

Maybe she doesn’t want to start dating yet because she is afraid of how her kids would react to that.<\/p>\n

Seja como for que ela se sinta, o seu trabalho \u00e9 tentar compreend\u00ea-la e tornar as coisas mais f\u00e1ceis para ela e para as crian\u00e7as, na medida do poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se sempre que ela tamb\u00e9m tem a sua vers\u00e3o da hist\u00f3ria do div\u00f3rcio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There are two sides to every story and it’s like that in this one.<\/p>\n

You’ve heard your partner’s side and it’s only fair for you to listen to his ex’s side of the story.<\/p>\n

It’s up to you who you are going to believe.<\/p>\n

Even though you’ll probably choose to believe in your partner’s side of the story, it still doesn’t have to be a reason not to have a good relationship with his ex-spouse.<\/p>\n

If it’s possible, become friends with her<\/h2>\n

\"mulheres<\/p>\n

As I’ve already said, it’s very important to establish a healthy relationship with your partner’s ex.<\/p>\n

Convide-a para sair e passeie com ela de vez em quando.<\/p>\n

Show her that you don’t see her as the enemy and that neither should she see you that way.<\/p>\n

Partilhe algumas hist\u00f3rias privadas do seu passado e ou\u00e7a com aten\u00e7\u00e3o quando ela fala da sua pr\u00f3pria vida.<\/p>\n

It’s important for both of you to build trust between you two.<\/p>\n

Ask her about their children’s lives and ask her what they like doing.<\/p>\n

If you have noticed that something is bothering them, it’s totally okay to talk to her about it.<\/p>\n

Talk about your jobs, interests and any bad things you’ve encountered in your lives and follow her on social media.<\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m pode perguntar-lhe coisas sobre o seu parceiro (porque provavelmente \u00e9 ela que o conhece melhor).<\/p>\n

If you’re planning a surprise for him, maybe a birthday party or something, she can be very helpful for that.<\/p>\n

Pergunte-lhe quais foram as raz\u00f5es que a levaram a divorciar-se e at\u00e9 que ponto isso afectou a sua vida.<\/p>\n

Mostre-lhe que a sua \u00fanica inten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 estabelecer uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o boa e saud\u00e1vel com ela.<\/em><\/p>\n

But also understand that you’ll never become besties and that’s okay<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Sometimes, no matter how much you try to establish a friendly relationship with your partner’s ex-spouse, it just isn’t possible.<\/p>\n

She may still have some unresolved issues with him or simply doesn’t want to become friends with you, even if you do nothing wrong to her.<\/p>\n

For some reason, most ex-wives think that the new girl is the reason why they lost their ex-husband forever and they are afraid that she might \u2018take\u2019 their kids, too.<\/p>\n

Even if you establish a good relationship with your partner’s ex, you shouldn’t think that she is your true friend and that you can tell her everything.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m diz que tens de te tornar amigo dela.<\/strong><\/em> Na verdade, seria demasiado estranho e um pouco esquisito.<\/p>\n

Nunca se deve confiar nela 100%<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Por muito boa ou amig\u00e1vel que seja a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, nunca se deve confiar totalmente nela, porque nunca se sabe se as suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o realmente t\u00e3o honestas como ela diz.<\/p>\n

You have to be careful with it because sometimes ex-wives pretend that they are friends with their ex-partner’s girl just because they want to get to know bad things about her and separate the two of them.<\/p>\n

Don’t complain to her about your partner because I’m sure she’ll be eager to tell him that.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t think you can gossip with her about him or his family because she’ll tell him about it.<\/p>\n

Don’t allow her to speak badly about your boyfriend<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Mesmo que lhe pe\u00e7a para contar a vers\u00e3o dela da hist\u00f3ria do div\u00f3rcio, nunca deve permitir que ela insulte ou fale mal do seu namorado.<\/p>\n

Deves defend\u00ea-lo, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer.<\/p>\n

Even if you think that he has done a bad thing to her and that she has the right to insult him, you shouldn’t say that in front of her.<\/p>\n

Se notar que ela fala mal dele \u00e0 frente das crian\u00e7as, deve interromp\u00ea-la imediatamente e contar ao seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

She’ll probably want to make the kids choose a side and that’s how she thinks she’ll make them choose hers.<\/p>\n

Se ouvir dizer que ela fala mal do seu parceiro ou se se aperceber disso, deve interromp\u00ea-la imediatamente.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t speak badly about her in front of your significant other<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Even if she treats you badly or doesn’t want to have any communication with you, you shouldn’t gossip about her in front of your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

The most important thing is that the kids are pleased and content and that they have both parents, even if they’re divorced.<\/p>\n

Tudo o resto se h\u00e1-de encaixar um dia.<\/p>\n

And if it doesn’t, that’s not important. You’ll learn to live with the annoying ex-wife of your man.<\/p>\n

O mais importante \u00e9 que estejam juntos, que se amem e que se respeitem.<\/p>\n

There is no reason for you to be jealous of her, so remember that she belongs in the past…<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u2026 and you are now. You are a part of his life now and you’ll be a part of his future; that\u2019s all that matters.<\/p>\n

You don’t have any reasons to be jealous of her. If he thought that she was better than you in any way, he would still be with her, not you.<\/p>\n

Let go of all of those negative feelings and focus on what’s really important.<\/p>\n

Que a inveja e jealousy won’t do you<\/a> s\u00f3 pode perturbar a bela rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica entre si e o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Nunca envolver os filhos nos vossos problemas ou discuss\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Provavelmente, tudo o que diz respeito aos filhos j\u00e1 foi acordado no processo de div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n

O seu companheiro e a ex dele t\u00eam provavelmente um acordo de cust\u00f3dia e o seu companheiro est\u00e1 provavelmente a pagar uma pens\u00e3o de alimentos \u00e0 ex.<\/p>\n

Deviam sentar-se com os filhos deles e explicar-lhes a vossa situa\u00e7\u00e3o atual.<\/p>\n

O seu parceiro deve apresent\u00e1-la como a sua nova namorada, a madrasta, e pedir-lhe que tentem dar-se bem e aceitar-se mutuamente.<\/p>\n

Okay, so they aren’t your own kids but they are now your stepchildren and if you truly love your partner, that would be the same for you; you\u2019ll see them as your own.<\/p>\n

If you don’t have a good relationship with your partner’s ex-wife and if you fight a lot, you have to leave the kids out of it because it leaves huge consequences on their mental health.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, nunca, mas mesmo NUNCA, aproveite a oportunidade para falar mal dela quando estiver sozinho com os mi\u00fados.<\/p>\n

Independentemente do que ela lhe tenha feito ou ainda lhe fa\u00e7a, nunca deve tentar vingar-se. Seja sempre a pessoa mais importante!<\/em><\/p>\n

Discutir com o teu namorado por causa dela est\u00e1 fora de quest\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Constant phone calls then hang-ups every time you answer your partner’s phone, texting, inviting him over to let him have the kids\u2026 these are all some signs of how she wants to make you jealous and get a bad reaction from you.<\/p>\n

She’ll probably try to separate you but you should show her how strong your love is.<\/p>\n

You also have to understand your partner so know that he can’t be a referee between you two.<\/p>\n

If she told you her side of the story and made him look bad, you shouldn’t immediately believe her and confront your boyfriend with your new findings.<\/p>\n

D\u00eaem-lhe uma oportunidade de se defender.<\/p>\n

Things could get even worse between you and your boyfriend’s ex-wife if he asks you to marry him.<\/p>\n

Becoming his fianc\u00e9e may make her even angrier or more obsessed with you.<\/p>\n

Don’t let the relationship between you two affect the relationship with your boyfriend<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Ela pode tentar controlar o ex-marido e tem uma arma poderosa para o fazer: os filhos, claro.<\/p>\n

If she gets them to choose her side (even though it’s so wrong to ask children to pick sides), your partner will suffer for sure and she’ll be in a position to make ultimatums with him.<\/p>\n

It would be better for all of you if you could get along well but you don’t have to try to be friends with her at all costs.<\/p>\n

Seja qual for a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, nunca deve permitir que ela afecte a rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre si e o seu namorado.<\/p>\n

Tente ser justo com ela. Tente ser compreensivo com ela e com o seu parceiro tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

But don’t allow anyone to insult you or speak badly about you.<\/p>\n

Estabelecer alguns limites saud\u00e1veis<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Estabelecer limites \u00e9 crucial para qualquer rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Deve estabelecer alguns limites saud\u00e1veis<\/a> na rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu parceiro e tamb\u00e9m com o ex-c\u00f4njuge dele.<\/p>\n

Don’t let her cross the line or your limits. If you aren’t okay with something she says or does, you have to tell her that.<\/p>\n

Se vir que ela quer estar demasiado perto do seu homem, diga-lhe para se afastar.<\/p>\n

Tell her that even though you asked her to be friends with you that this is something you won’t tolerate.<\/p>\n

Sei que \u00e9 muito dif\u00edcil lidar com a ex-mulher do seu namorado e que isso a deixa muito desconfort\u00e1vel, mas tudo o que tem a fazer \u00e9 encontrar uma forma de fazer com que essa rela\u00e7\u00e3o funcione.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o importa o qu\u00e3o dif\u00edcil se torne, n\u00e3o deve sequer pensar em acabar com o seu parceiro por causa da ex. <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00c9 poss\u00edvel tornar a vida familiar mais feliz mesmo nestas circunst\u00e2ncias, mas s\u00f3 se todas as partes quiserem cooperar para que isso aconte\u00e7a.<\/em><\/p>\n

Think about the kids and their best interests and everything will be, well, not perfect, but it will be the way that\u2019s best for all of you.<\/p>\n

Hang in there, she’ll understand soon that the best thing for everyone would be to get along. Peace and love, that’s all I want for you.<\/p>\n

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