{"id":97490,"date":"2020-09-17T13:46:35","date_gmt":"2020-09-17T13:46:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=97490"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:01:17","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:01:17","slug":"ser-a-pessoa-mais-importante","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ser-a-pessoa-mais-importante\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 por isso que deves ser sempre a pessoa maior"},"content":{"rendered":"

When your real friends tell you to be the bigger person, they\u2019re saying that you should always find the for\u00e7a no cora\u00e7\u00e3o para perdoar<\/a> aqueles que te fizeram mal, e eleva-te acima de todas as tuas experi\u00eancias negativas.<\/p>\n

Para ser o <\/b>pessoa maior<\/b> significa que, por muito que algu\u00e9m nos magoe, n\u00e3o guardamos ressentimentos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a essa pessoa. <\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll find some kind of justification for those who have broken your heart, made your life miserable, or even abused you in any way. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about your ex, high school friend, coworker, or family member, the bottom line is pretty much the same: You should take the moral high ground and let positivity take over you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re more than someone who wants revenge for all the pain you\u2019ve suffered. You\u2019re above holding grudges or giving someone a taste of their own medicine.<\/b><\/p>\n

Instead, whenever another person does you harm, you should understand them in a way, move on, and get over whatever it is they\u2019ve done to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Um sendo o <\/i>pessoa maior<\/i> quote says: \u201cDon\u2019t treat people as bad as they are. Treat them as good you are.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sounds almost perfect, doesn\u2019t it? However, what happens when the person who hurt you doesn\u2019t deserve you treating them this way?<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que acontece quando o seu agressor v\u00ea o seu perd\u00e3o como uma luz verde para continuar a quebr\u00e1-lo? Quando ele te v\u00ea a aceitar <\/b>a estrada alta<\/b> como uma aprova\u00e7\u00e3o da sua <\/b>comportamento t\u00f3xico<\/b><\/a>?<\/b> <\/p>\n

From one point of view, you behaving like this should have a therapeutic effect on the other party as well. They\u2019re expected to admire your reaction, which will make them ashamed of their own actions.<\/p>\n

Neste cen\u00e1rio, a pessoa que destruiu a sua vida ser\u00e1 devorada pela culpa. Acabar\u00e1 por pedir desculpa pelos seus erros ou, no m\u00ednimo, por se excluir da sua vida. <\/p>\n

No entanto, infelizmente, as coisas podem tomar um rumo completamente diferente.<\/p>\n

Em vez de ter um enorme respeito pela sua capacidade de perdoar, na maioria dos casos, a pessoa t\u00f3xica come\u00e7a a consider\u00e1-lo um idiota a quem pode continuar a fazer coisas m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Eles tom\u00e1-lo por garantido<\/a> e esperam que os perdoes, independentemente do que eles te fa\u00e7am. Afinal de contas, o seu amor incondicional por eles \u00e9 \u00f3bvio. <\/p>\n

Quando se passa por uma experi\u00eancia destas, tamb\u00e9m se come\u00e7a a ver a si pr\u00f3prio como est\u00fapido. <\/p>\n

All this time, you\u2019ve been always the forgiving one \u2013 the one who\u2019s walked away from arguments and tried to understand whoever\u2019s hurt you \u2013 without looking for ways to pay them back. <\/p>\n

However, rarely has anyone appreciated it. Instead, they\u2019ve kept playing and using you. So naturally, you\u2019ve given up.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve decided that the only way to survive this harsh world is to blend in with the masses. You have no other options but to become just like everyone else in your surroundings. <\/p>\n

You simply have no more strength to give away your unlimited forgiveness to those who have never deserved it. You\u2019ve stopped accepting the non-apologies and  praying for your heart to soften up. <\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m here to tell you that you\u2019re making the mistake of your life if you don\u2019t change your ways. In fact I\u2019m begging you: Be the <\/b>pessoa maior<\/b>, no matter who or what you\u2019re dealing with.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

At first, you may think you\u2019re doing all of this for the sake of the other party with a toxic vibe.<\/p>\n

You want to show them that you\u2019re above them and would never stoop to their level, despite the fact that you\u2019re the damaged one. <\/p>\n

Naturally, you think to yourself that your positivity and forgiveness are the last things they deserve. After everything this person has put you through, no one\u2019s expecting you to wipe their slate clean.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 que \u00e9 exatamente isso que se deve fazer. Claro que perdoar \u00e9 uma coisa e esquecer \u00e9 outra.<\/p>\n

Nobody is telling you that you have to welcome them back in your life and pretend that everything is in perfect order. Instead, just be the better person and don\u2019t play their game. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me. I\u2019m not giving you this advice because the pessoas t\u00f3xicas na sua vida<\/a> deserve it. Don\u2019t be the bigger man to make things easier for them.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t behave like this because it\u2019s the right thing to do either. Don\u2019t do it because it\u2019s expected of you or just because you want to prove a point to someone else, including the one who hurt you.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, fa\u00e7a-o por si, pois \u00e9 uma das raras coisas que diferenciam as pessoas m\u00e1s das boas. <\/p>\n

Do it because it will serve as proof that you never had the same vibe as them and that they didn\u2019t manage to pollute you with their evil.<\/b><\/p>\n

Como prova de que nunca conseguir\u00e3o alcan\u00e7ar o vosso <\/b>moral elevada<\/b>. <\/b><\/p>\n

Most importantly, be the better person because, at the end of the day, it\u2019s the only way to free yourself from their chains \u2013 the only way for you to finally start your process of deixar ir<\/a> e seguir em frente sem qualquer bagagem a pesar.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the best thing you could ever do for your self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7am-no porque vos libertar\u00e1 da sua toxicidade. Porque vos purificar\u00e1 e vos trar\u00e1 paz.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 que, sendo o <\/b>pessoa maior<\/b> doesn\u2019t mean becoming someone\u2019s <\/b>capacho<\/b>. Instead, it\u2019s about not allowing anger, resentment, and other negative emotions to take the best of you.<\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean being blind or stupid. In fact, it means being smart enough to choose your battles wisely and know how to get rid of pettiness.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t make you a coward who backs out. On the contrary, it makes you a hero. It makes you emotionally intelligent to the point where you can redirect your energy in the right direction. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s about not allowing the bitterness to turn you into someone you essentially aren\u2019t. About not giving this person even more importance by allowing them to change the core of your personality. <\/p>\n

Confia em mim. Este \u00e9 o caminho a seguir. No <\/b>fim do dia<\/b>, tomando <\/b>a estrada alta<\/b> \u00e9 a \u00fanica forma de a vossa consci\u00eancia ser cristalina. <\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s the only way for you to leave this painful situation being proud of yourself and of the fruits of your <\/b>trabalho pr\u00f3prio<\/b>. <\/b>A \u00fanica forma de se sentir melhor e de refor\u00e7ar a sua autoestima. <\/p>\n

That said, your real friends will never blame you if you don\u2019t have the strength to be the bigger person just yet. After all, you\u2019re just a human being and it\u2019s perfectly normal to have a vengeful part of yourself. <\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m o julgar\u00e1 por n\u00e3o ser capaz de controlar os seus impulsos e emo\u00e7\u00f5es em todos os momentos. No entanto, deve esfor\u00e7ar-se por ser o melhor homem.<\/b><\/p>\n

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