{"id":99143,"date":"2020-09-21T12:56:41","date_gmt":"2020-09-21T12:56:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=99143"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:12:46","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:12:46","slug":"coisas-a-ter-em-conta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/coisas-a-ter-em-conta\/","title":{"rendered":"22 coisas a ter em conta quando algo n\u00e3o est\u00e1 bem"},"content":{"rendered":"

We’re all familiar with the nagging feeling that something doesn’t feel right. That\u2019s your gut instinct trying to warn you of something.<\/p>\n

Bad things happen all the time but when your inner voice keeps telling you that your current situation leaves a lot to be desired, it’s time for some big decisions.<\/p>\n

Whether it’s regarding your <\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/b> <\/a>ou a vida em geral, ouvindo atentamente o seu <\/b>intui\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b> \u00e9 sempre uma atitude sensata.<\/b><\/p>\n

That little voice inside your head knows what it’s talking about. While pinpointing your issues and taking follow-up action is a lot of work, it beats waiting for an impending meltdown.<\/p>\n

Let’s carefully examine what’s causing you this uneasiness in order to help you find the best solution for yourself.<\/p>\n

If Something Doesn\u2019t Feel Right In Your Relationship, Never Ignore These 10 <\/b>Grandes sinais de alerta<\/b> <\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

O seu parceiro come\u00e7ou a afastar-se de si<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 ao ano passado, mantinha uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel que os seus amigos iam sempre pedir-lhe conselhos. Mas isso mudou.<\/p>\n

Now, your partner has started to distance themselves from you. There’s a palpable physical sensation of discord between you two. Something doesn’t feel right.<\/p>\n

Quer viva numa pequena zona rural ou numa grande cidade, toda a gente se apercebeu e a sua autoestima est\u00e1 em baixo. <\/p>\n

You keep wondering if it’s something you did or if you simply found a pessoa errada<\/a> and now, it’s all coming down on you.<\/p>\n

Padr\u00f5es de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o pouco saud\u00e1veis e ineficazes<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel \u00e9 vital para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel. Nesta altura, toda a gente deve saber isto. E costumava ser assim para voc\u00eas os dois.<\/p>\n

No entanto, agora, o seu parceiro \u00e9 impetuoso e curto consigo. N\u00e3o conseguem encontrar um meio-termo em nenhuma quest\u00e3o. Est\u00e3o sempre a explodir um com o outro, pois tudo parece um ataque.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se lembra da \u00faltima vez que comunicaram como adultos. O(a) seu(sua) namorado(a) passa mais tempo nas redes sociais a conversar com amigos do que consigo, a tentar resolver as coisas.<\/p>\n

Should you keep pushing to salvage things or have you reached the final stop? The answer is within you. It’s time to start listening.<\/p>\n

Notable changes in your significant other’s behavior<\/h2>\n

\"quatro<\/p>\n

They’ve changed and a lot. Nobody can tell you otherwise. Their habits are no longer characteristic of them. They even hang out with new people.<\/p>\n

Mal reconhece essa pessoa e as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es. As coisas que costumavam fazer juntos ca\u00edram no esquecimento.<\/p>\n

The way they took care of you is long gone. Now, they’re someone new and you can’t figure out how or when this happened.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 15 mudan\u00e7as no corpo e na mente depois do casamento que ningu\u00e9m lhe conta<\/a><\/p>\n

Comportamento de controlo excessivo<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O seu parceiro come\u00e7ou a manifestar um comportamento controlador. \u00c9 extremamente pegajoso e quer saber o seu paradeiro a todo o momento.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o pode sair com os seus amigos sem ser bombardeado com um milh\u00e3o de mensagens de texto ou chamadas. Onde \u00e9 que est\u00e1s? Quando voltas para casa? O (nome de um amigo) est\u00e1 contigo neste momento?<\/i><\/p>\n

I could go on and on. It’s like they’re trying to take your freedom from you. Every decision you make you have to run by them.<\/p>\n

When did they become this way? Why can’t they let you live your life the way you always have?<\/p>\n

Discuss\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas frequentes<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

At this point, it feels like you’re fighting for the sake of fighting. There’s nothing you can do that your partner approves of.<\/p>\n

If you’re being honest, something doesn’t feel right on your part either. You keep wanting to yell at them for no reason. <\/p>\n

It has gotten to the point where you have to stop yourself from reacting impulsively or else… <\/p>\n

Couples fight, you know that but this is different. It’s toxic, unhealthy and there is never any resolution in sight; just two people biting each other\u2019s head off.<\/p>\n

Uma s\u00fabita falta de empatia da vossa parte<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Just like that, you stopped caring. You don’t know how and you don’t know why. It feels wrong and you’re ashamed but you can’t lie to yourself anymore. <\/p>\n

Your gut feeling has been telling you for a while now to break it off but you’re not sure anymore.<\/p>\n

Have you become ice-cold? Is it actually you or has your partner brought this on themselves? It’s definitely something to ponder.<\/p>\n

Comportamento emocional ou fisicamente abusivo<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

O abuso, independentemente da sua natureza, NUNCA \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel. Nem emocional, nem verbal e especialmente n\u00e3o abuso f\u00edsico<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The moment your relationship starts being disruptive in an abusive manner, call it quits. You don’t need your gut instinct to tell you this.<\/p>\n

Mereces cuidado, devo\u00e7\u00e3o e apre\u00e7o. Se temes que n\u00e3o possas continuar a ser tu pr\u00f3prio, vai-te embora antes que comecem a acontecer coisas m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

A confian\u00e7a j\u00e1 desapareceu h\u00e1 muito tempo<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You used to trust your partner with your life but now, you’re not sure you’d let them watch your dog for an hour.<\/p>\n

You simply sense that something doesn’t feel right and you can’t shake it off. It’s as if there is doom and gloom awaiting you if you stay with this person.<\/p>\n

You cannot pinpoint exactly what it is but you’ve lost your confidence in them. There’s a clear wedge that has become insurmountable.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: \u00c9 por isso que tens de confiar no timing da tua vida<\/a><\/p>\n

Fazer planos sem o outro<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

And the worst thing is, you don’t even mind! You couldn’t care less if your partner makes plans and doesn’t invite you. <\/p>\n

Isto significa que pode receber a sua pr\u00f3pria equipa e divertir-se sem eles. <\/p>\n

Your need for their company has vanished. While this does worry you, it’s not enough to do something about it.<\/p>\n

Perhaps the relationship has come to its natural end and one of you simply needs to say it out loud. It’s okay if you’ve grown apart. That’s how life goes sometimes.<\/p>\n

A din\u00e2mica do vosso quarto est\u00e1 enfraquecida<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You used to be a beast in the sack and your partner knew exactly how to stay in tune with your body. But now, you can’t force yourself if your life depended on it.<\/p>\n

You used to be extremely adventurous as a couple and did it basically anywhere but that has since gone and you don’t even care.<\/p>\n

When something doesn’t feel right, it’s best to address it ASAP. There’s no point in staying with someone who just doesn’t do it for you anymore.<\/p>\n

7 sinais de alerta de que a sua vida est\u00e1 desequilibrada<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

A sua mente est\u00e1 inquieta e impede-o de estar presente<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Faz um esfor\u00e7o para se encontrar com os amigos e p\u00f4r a conversa em dia, mas a sua mente torna dif\u00edcil estar presente.<\/p>\n

It’s like they are out there living their best life and trying to reconnect with you and you cannot bring yourself to actually listen and communicate with them.<\/p>\n

A sua mente est\u00e1 constantemente a 200 mph, o que afecta seriamente as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es com as outras pessoas. <\/p>\n

A sua incapacidade de estar presente come\u00e7ou a criar um fosso entre si e os seus amigos. Quer realmente mudar, mas h\u00e1 algo que o impede de o fazer.<\/p>\n

You’ve been neglecting to take care of your mind, body and soul<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Even though you’ve always attempted to find the time to stay active, hit the gym and be conscious of your health, you’re finding it harder and harder to do so.<\/p>\n

There’s always something more important that you need to do and you keep postponing gym time. You promise yourself that you’ll make up for it the following week but you don’t.<\/p>\n

You can’t understand how you’ve become this way. You do care about yourself, you want to be proactive, so what gives?<\/p>\n

Tem h\u00e1bitos de despesa invulgarmente excessivos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You’ve never been much of a spender but boy, has that changed. Your online shopping has started to become worrisome.<\/p>\n

Your credit card balance is also a clear sign that you should hit the brakes but you can’t. <\/p>\n

You see something and you have to have it. Your sound mind has gone out the window and there’s a new girl (ou gu<\/i>y) in town and they’re trying to bankrupt you.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Pessoa certa, hora errada: porque \u00e9 que nos acontece sempre o mesmo?<\/a><\/p>\n

You haven’t got in touch with anyone in your life for too long<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Os seus amigos<\/a> est\u00e3o em suspenso. A sua vida social est\u00e1 em suspenso. Est\u00e1 sempre a tentar gerir o seu tempo e encontrar uma janela para voltar a falar com as pessoas, mas sem sucesso.<\/p>\n

You can’t recall the last time you had a proper conversation with your friends. You’ve got dozens of texts and DMs waiting to be seen but they\u2019re at the bottom of your list.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the deal. Your work should never trump your personal relationships. At the end of the day, your people are the only ones who’ll stick by you when things get rough. N\u00e3o<\/i> trabalho.<\/p>\n

So, it’s time to reevaluate your time and how you spend it. Nurture those relationships and stop neglecting those who matter most.<\/p>\n

You haven’t had a vacation in ages<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You’re long overdue for a vacation. You know this but you can’t seem to do anything about it. Your life feels all sorts of messed up as you keep neglecting to take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

You haven’t had a proper break for ages. You’ve been feeling the negative effects a lot lately. Your mind needs a break.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe biggest wall you have to climb is the one you build in your mind: Never let your mind talk you out of your dreams, trick you into giving up. Never let your mind become the greatest obstacle to success. To get your mind on the right track, the rest will follow.\u201d <\/i>– Roy. T. Bennett<\/p>\n

Your \u2018go-go-go\u2019 mode makes you think of everyone else as lazy<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 constantemente em movimento. N\u00e3o consegue parar de trabalhar e de ser demasiado ambicioso, o que come\u00e7ou a afetar a sua vida. sua mente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Quando socializa com os seus amigos e os ouve falar sobre sair, divertir-se e simplesmente descontrair, a sua mente classifica-os como pregui\u00e7osos.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the 411. It’s OK to nurture your \u2018go-go-go\u2019 mode as long as it doesn’t reflect on the quality of your life and most importantly, how you perceive your friends.<\/p>\n

People are entitled to have fun and relax after a long, hard day. And the reason why something doesn’t feel right is that you keep denying yourself a much-needed break.<\/p>\n

You’re not eating well<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You’ve stopped keeping up with your body’s demands. Your diet has become extremely unhealthy and you merely throw stuff in your mouth during your five-minute breaks.<\/p>\n

O seu trabalho (ou o que quer que esteja a preocupar a sua mente) ocupou tanto do seu tempo que os seus h\u00e1bitos alimentares se tornaram preocupantes.<\/p>\n

You used to pay great attention to what you put in your body but now, you\u2019re feeling anxious, uneasy and constantly on-the-go that you simply don’t have time anymore.<\/p>\n

It’s time to start prioritizing yourself and your health. Your energy levels will decrease if you keep acting in this self-destructive manner.<\/p>\n

If something feels off in your life, address it. Don’t take it out on your health.<\/p>\n

5 perguntas para fazer a si mesmo quando nada parece certo<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que VERDADEIRAMENTE o incomoda?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s passamos por grandes epis\u00f3dios de stress num momento ou noutro, mas para chegar ao fundo dos seus problemas, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio compreender as causas subjacentes.<\/p>\n

Qual \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que o tem atormentado nas \u00faltimas semanas ou meses? Foi o seu parceiro t\u00f3xico que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o o faz sentir feliz? <\/p>\n

\u00c9 o ambiente do escrit\u00f3rio e a forma como os seus colegas de trabalho o tratam? Os seus filhos (se os tiver) d\u00e3o-lhe por vezes vontade de desaparecer?<\/p>\n

Figure this one out and you’ll be closer to your answer.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que essa coisa o faz sentir e como \u00e9 que a pode afetar?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I know that this sounds like such a clich\u00e9 but it’s the natural next step in helping you cope during stressful times.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que esta coisa o faz sentir? Tem-lhe dado demasiado espa\u00e7o na sua cabe\u00e7a? Consegue influenciar a forma como a deixa afect\u00e1-lo?<\/p>\n

It’s all about understanding the external factors so that you can influence how they affect you internally. You’d be flabbergasted at how easy it is to simply turn this little voice off.<\/p>\n

As coisas quase nunca s\u00e3o t\u00e3o graves como se pensa e, em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, VOC\u00ca escolhe como se sente no final de tudo. Experimente e veja as mudan\u00e7as.<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as melhores formas de lidar com esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Quando se encontrar numa encruzilhada e n\u00e3o tiver a certeza da escolha a fazer, pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio que solu\u00e7\u00e3o aumentaria a qualidade da sua vida.<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que cada escolha o afectaria a longo prazo? Isto \u00e9 algo que s\u00f3 tu sabes e vais fazer uma boa escolha.<\/p>\n

Just don’t let yourself react impulsively. Always consider the bottom line and go in whichever direction leads you toward it.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Desafio de 30 dias para o amor-pr\u00f3prio: torne-se a melhor vers\u00e3o de si mesmo<\/a><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as vantagens e desvantagens da sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Listing the pros and cons has always been my favorite thing whenever I’m facing a dilemma. It’s all organized neatly and making the decision is so much easier.<\/p>\n

Os pr\u00f3s superam os contras? \u00c9 poss\u00edvel alter\u00e1-lo de alguma forma? Tem querer <\/i>para o mudar?<\/p>\n

Once you’ve gone through the list and fully understand the position you find yourself in, then you can make changes. Why? Because you’ve educated yourself enough to do so.<\/p>\n

Nunca tome grandes decis\u00f5es durante acessos de raiva. Relaxe, espere, fa\u00e7a a sua lista e considere racionalmente as suas op\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 a perseguir o imposs\u00edvel?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When something doesn’t feel right, we immediately feel like giant changes are needed. But are they really?<\/p>\n

Listen, sometimes you’re just doing the best with what you’ve got. Sure, there are always ways in which you can improve, as listed above but sometimes, we tend to chase the impossible.<\/p>\n

You’re probably wondering what the hell I’m talking about. It’s simple. Perfection isn’t real. Nobody has it all figured out and nobody’s exempt from feeling overstretched at times.<\/b><\/p>\n

But that doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong. It just means that your current situation isn’t ideal. But this too shall pass.<\/p>\n

If you’ve reflected on a sua vida<\/a> and realized that there isn’t much you’d do differently, then just don’t! Your distress will pass and things will start normalizing again.<\/p>\n

When you find yourself chasing after something elusive, hit the brakes. You’re not superhuman, so stop putting unrealistic expectations on yourself.<\/p>\n

And remember…<\/p>\n

“Eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.” – <\/i>Albert Schweitzer<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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