Modern media has made it easy for guys to get what they want, and they certainly don’t give a fuck about the consequences. All they want is to see your hot body and to have enough material to “contemplate”.
Sending nude selfies is, without a doubt, getting more and more popular, but in reality, this is not something most of us are really comfortable with.
After all, you are the one who needs to think rationally and who needs to make a wise decision before uploading and sending your nude picture.
Just because someone else is doing it, or because your boyfriend or some random guy is asking you to do it, doesn’t mean you should.
As a matter of fact, there are many reasons why you actually shouldn’t do it, and here are some of them!
1. You care about your future
Let’s say that you really care about your future and that someday you expect to be a respected and important person in the company in which you might be working.
If your nudes somehow become public, it is really hard to erase them from other people’s minds, so your future might turn into a big battle of regret and moving on.
2. It’s about respect
If you don’t feel comfortable doing it, but he is insisting on you doing so, it means he doesn’t respect you.
And you sure as hell deserve to be appreciated and respected, right? So, why would you go out of your way to do something that you don’t really want to do in the first place?
Why blindly follow trends when you yourself know and can choose what’s best for you?
3. Chances are that you will break up
Let’s say that you’ve sent a couple of nudes to your boyfriend, and now you’re about to break up.
I guess the first thing that would come to your mind is the collection of your nudes on his phone and how to get rid of it.
Well, you could get rid of them only if you stole his phone which is not really reasonable or doable, or is it?
4. You’re worth the wait
Remember that you’re worth the wait (especially if you’re having doubts about doing it).
Any guy who gives you ultimatums regarding this is a douchebag, and you shouldn’t waste your time on him.
You’re worthy of being with someone who will appreciate your choices and who will not have problems waiting to see your body in person instead of on a selfie.
5. One is never enough
If you choose to send a nude selfie, remember that one is never going to be enough.
He will want you to do it in different outfits, different poses and what not.
And he could easily blackmail you with your already sent photos as well if you choose not to do as he asks (hmm).
(But, let’s assume that he’s not a psycho.)
6. You don’t want to
If you don’t want to do it, then you shouldn’t force yourself to believe that you should do it.
You own your body, and no guy has the right to tell you what you should do with it.
So, if your gut is telling you not to do it, you should believe it, and you should only listen to yourself and not what some horny guy wants.
7. You probably aren’t the only one he’s asking
Yup. Chances are that a guy who asked you to send him nudes has done the same to multiple other girls as well.
He’s probably collecting them like Pokemon cards to exchange with his friends and close people.
One thing is for sure—you can never trust people, especially strangers.
8. He might show them to his friends
Regardless whether he’s your boyfriend or someone you just met, you can never trust him that he will keep those pics only for himself and himself only.
And no matter if he’s sworn never to show them to anybody, you still cannot be one hundred percent sure that he will stay true to his promise.
9. He might lose his phone
Oh, no! Even the most responsible people can somehow at some point lose their phone, or even worse, someone could steal it from them.
And you certainly don’t want your naked ass to be the first thing they see or to put your nudes on the Internet and ruin your life forever.
10. The Internet is a dangerous place
Yup. If somehow your nudes end up on the Internet, it is just a matter of time when someone from your close people, friends or family will see them.
And this is probably the last thing to be worried about.
The Internet is really a dangerous place where people can easily find your identity and even threaten to publish your nudes if you don’t do something they want you to do.
11. You could accidentally send them to the wrong person
How many times have you accidentally sent your message to the wrong person? I thought so.
And nothing will change when sending your nudes, so they could easily end up being sent to the wrong person—,your mother, father, brother or someone else you don’t really want to share them with.
12. If you don’t get an immediate response, you’ll freak out
Is there anything more annoying than waiting for someone’s response (especially when you share such sensitive content with them)?
So, if you don’t get an immediate response once you’ve send your nude, chances are you’ll freak out because you will start overthinking about his true intentions and lose your nerve.
But, if you don’t give a shit about it, then go for it!
13. People might look through your phone
People are curious beings, and whenever you show them one picture of yours, they immediately want to see every single one of them.
Pretty much similar to the saying: “Give them a finger and they’ll take an arm.”
And once they see your nudes, you certainly can’t say that these pics appeared out of nowhere.
But, once again, if you really don’t give a fuck about any of this, then you go for it and good luck!