When you pump your brakes and consider all the factors that affect your relationship with someone, you will see that you are risking too much.

Especially, when we are talking about love relationships.

So the question is: “Why do people always attract that negative person who will make a living hell out of their life?”
“Why can’t we just be happy and enjoy life?”

Frankly speaking, I have been through so many shitty relationships so far and the last thing I want to do now is to go through all that pain again.
And with my heart on my sleeve, I am saying proudly that I am not afraid of being single, I am afraid of dating.

I have my own reasons for that so let me share them with you.

1. I am not afraid of sleeping alone—I am afraid of sleeping with the wrong guy

It’s not a big deal if I am going to bed alone. Maybe at some stages of my life things like that will make me sad, but I am totally cool with this currently.

In the end, I don’t want to regret being awake all night with someone who doesn’t give a damn about me.

2. I am not afraid of eating alone—I am afraid of wasting my time with the wrong person

I know it is not polite to eat and talk but if I am going to lunch with you, I expect some small chat. On the contrary, I could just put my earphones on and enjoy my meal along with my favorite song.

And yes, my bill won’t be so high in the end.

3. I am not afraid of making love—I am afraid of bad sex

I don’t want to end up with a guy who doesn’t give a damn about me. I don’t want to be a ‘doll’ to satisfy his needs. If I am going to make love with someone, then it has to be perfect.

My happiness is more important than my orgasm.

4. I am not afraid of going to weddings alone—I am afraid of having an awful one


You know, that feeling when you are invited to a wedding but you don’t have an escort? Well, I used to think about it in a negative way but now I overcame that problem.

At least, I will enjoy the music, dancing, and flirting—and there won’t be a narcissistic guy next to me who will make me feel like a piece of shit.

5. I am not afraid of being myself—I am afraid of being with someone who makes me feel like I can’t be myself

I really have to have my heart on my sleeve every time when I am being in a relationship. If a guy will cut my words every time I speak, I don’t think we will have a bright future together.

It’s definitely better to be alone than in bad company!

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6. I am not afraid of being cold—I am afraid of being vulnerable

It is better to act as a ‘drama queen’ all the time than to just go with the flow and let your heart be broken.

People who have felt the pain of being brutally dumped will have no choice but to agree.

7. I am not afraid of being alone—I am afraid of dating

All of you who suffered an agony of first dates know what I am talking about. I don’t want to bite my nails waiting for you to come. I don’t want to change my clothes 10 times for someone who actually doesn’t give a damn about my looks.

I don’t want to stay awake all night long waiting for you to call me back. I don’t want to ruin my life for someone who doesn’t deserve even the smallest piece of me.

I would rather spend all my life single than with someone who doesn’t fulfill me the way I need. What’s the point of living in this case?

I am happy with myself.
I don’t feel bad in a crowded room with people I don’t know.

I feel good in my shoes and I will stay like this until there comes the ‘one’ who actually gives a damn about me!

See also: Why You Should Never Settle For Less In Life

7 Reasons Why I Am Not Afraid Of Being Single, I Am Afraid Of Dating