Leaving someone always comes with a roller coaster of emotions. I had been in a long relationship and I had realized it was time to move on, but doing that last step was a painful experience.

I was asking myself: “How can I leave someone I love? How can I escape from all those emotions that are constantly following me? Is there a secret formula to get over a breakup?”

A lot of people would like to know an answer to this question but in the end, there isn’t any clever solution. For me, the only solution was to listen to my heart. I wasn’t satisfied in the relationship and I decided it was better to move on. The worst thing I could do to myself was stay in a toxic relationship. I wouldn’t love my partner and he wouldn’t love me.

So, what’s the point? Is it so hard to say goodbye and try to find your own way?

I was asking myself the same question a year ago. When things weren’t the same anymore. When he stopped caring about me. And then I realized that even if it is difficult to start over, it will pay off eventually. You all probably had some bittersweet experiences in your life and making a right decision at the right time could save you from tears.

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You will probably be broken and your world will fall apart just like mine. You will spend days in your room thinking about all those funny moments you two had. You will think he is calling you everytime you hear your phone ringing. And honestly, that sucks! It is funny how we get addicted to certain people in our life. I know I did.

Spending everyday with them is not just something we do, it becomes our lifestyle, and my dear, it is very difficult to get rid of old habits. But hey, if you look it from the other angle you will see that is better to do something late than never.

People spend a lot of time in bad relationships and it is not because they want to—it is because they don’t have guts to say the game is over. For them, it is easier to go with the flow. Why be with someone you feel like a piece of shit with? There are millions of other opportunities for you and yet you are stuck in the middle and can’t get out.

Well, do something about it. Be energetic about your life. Do things that make you happy. If you know how to please yourself, you will know how to please others as well. Only a fulfilled person is a happy person. Please don’t forget that.

 

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It was bad when I was single but then it came to my mind that sometimes it is better to be alone than in bad company. I knew my heart will tell me who the right person is for me. Maybe I was waiting a little bit longer but I wasn’t worried that I won’t get what I want. I had to wait because I deserved better!

So, if you ever feel that you are not YOU anymore, try to talk with your partner. Go over the problems you have. Talk and listen! Don’t be selfish and don’t think about your feelings only. Try to figure out who is guilty in this relationship.

Who lost interest? Why isn’t there your old spark that was moving things forward? While talking, you will figure out whether the two of you want the same things.

If yes, that is great and if no, it is not the end of the world. Never cry over spilled milk!
The bottom line is that you don’t need to change yourself because of your partner. Make a change in your life when you feel the right moment for that. And never let anyone convince you of the opposite! That’s what I did.

I was honest to myself and to my partner and accepted the fact that we weren’t meant to have our story in this time and place. Just remember that destiny will never close one door until another one gets opened!
(It’s not so bitchy after all!)

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