5 frases de separação brutalmente honestas para o deixar de vez

Sometimes when you’re eager romper com someone, the lines are so blurred that you just don’t know if he REALLY got the picture.

De alguma forma, ele acaba sempre por gravitar de volta para si.

You may not want to break up in the first place, but you’re mature enough to know that is simply isn’t working any longer.

Sabes no teu coração que tens de acabar com isto, para bem da tua sanidade mental.

You’re not good for each other anymore.

You’re both clinging to a relationship that’s no longer there, but you’re desperately trying to recreate it into what it used to be.

Only, it’s not working and you’re suffering like hell.

There’s still lots of love there. You still want to see his face each morning.

But it’s become toxic and you can’t do this to yourself anymore.

So how do you break up with the guy you don’t really want to break up with?

How do you convince him that it’s over for GOOD this time and not sound like you’re trying to convince yourself of that?

It’s hard. Breaking up really does take its toll on you.

But sometimes, you just have to put on your grown-up pants and do the thing you’re dreading because you know it’s the best thing in the long run.

In a few weeks, you’ll be halfway on your healing path.

You’ll be able to look back at this moment and be grateful that you had the courage to leave the man who was causing you so much hurt, even though you ainda o amava.

Aqui estão 5 coisas brutalmente honestas linhas de separação que não deixará nada ao acaso.

He will finally understand that you are serious about this and he’ll be on his way.

(And with time, I promise it’s going to be okay for you too.)

1. “I don’t like the person I’ve become when I’m with you.”

This one goes straight to the gut. It’s raw, honest, and it paints a crystal clear picture.

Por muito que ainda o queiras, este amor transformou-te numa pessoa que já não reconheces.

And you don’t like it.

You don’t know how it got to this point and you’re so saddened that it’s come this far, but in order to be that girl you used to be, you need to distance yourself from him.

Don’t be afraid to be brutally honest.

Soon, it’ll end up being your saving grace.

2. “I am doing what I know in my heart is right for me.”

This is it. And don’t sway from this.

Don’t let him convince you that HE is the one who’s adequado para si.

Só tu podes decidir isso!

And if you feel it in your bones that this is not good for you anymore, you’ve got your right to break it off.

It doesn’t mean he’s a bad person.

It doesn’t mean he seeks to do you harm.

Significa simplesmente que a vossa união como casal romântico já não vos serve de nada.

You desperately wish it would, but you don’t want to lie to yourself or to him for one second longer.

It’s over and you’re out.

3. “I’m begging you – don’t call me anymore, we’re done.”

Acabar uma relação é sempre uma chatice porque sabemos que basta uma noite de bebedeira para que o nosso parceiro ache por bem ligar-nos às duas da manhã e implorar que o aceitemos de volta.

Sabe que é muito provável que isto aconteça, e provavelmente já aconteceu no passado.

And by saying this, you are letting him know that you’re not okay with that.

You don’t want to be the bitch who breaks his drunken heart again for a second time over the phone.

Iria magoar-te tanto quanto a ele.

E precisas que ele não te coloque nessa posição nunca mais.

4. “I am not in love with you anymore.”

You don’t want to hurt him, it’s the last thing on your mind.

Mas tu PRECISAS que ele saiba que desta vez estás a falar a sério.

Even if there are some residual feelings there, it’s better to just rip off the band aid and make it clear.

He’ll be hurt and you’ll be suffering in silence, but this is what needs to happen for him to not make this any harder than it has to be.

Precisas que esta relação acabe porque a toxicidade da mesma se tornou demasiado para tratar.

O amor simplesmente não é suficiente e apercebeu-se dolorosamente disso com ele.

5. “I don’t see a future with you by my side.”

Perhaps you’re just on opposite paths? Perhaps your hopes and dreams don’t collide?

And as much as you would love to be compatible with him, you’re just not.

Ele quer concentrar-se no trabalho e viajar para o estrangeiro e tu queres ficar perto da tua família e ser mãe num futuro não muito distante.

É preciso conciliar o trabalho com o facto de ser pai e mãe, e ele tem uma opinião muito forte sobre o facto de a sua mulher ser uma mãe que fica em casa.

Todas estas são questões muito sérias que têm de ser tratadas a tempo.

You can’t just bury them and hope they never resurface.

They will, and it will suck. Show him that you’re only trying to save you both from future pain.

Your ideas for what awaits are completely different and it’s simply not possible to make it work anymore.