6 coisas a ter em conta quando se está à espera da resposta dele
Então, enviou-lhe uma mensagem há algumas horas, há alguns dias (ou talvez há um mês), e ele ainda não lhe respondeu.
The longer you’re waiting, the more anxious you’re becoming, and you feel like there’s nothing you can do about it but sentir-se frustrado e confuso como o diabo.
E provavelmente não é a primeira vez que isto lhe acontece.
It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship, if he’s your ex, if you’ve just started dating or you haven’t even met yet (in person), there will always come a moment when you will wait next to your cell phone waiting for his reply.
There will always come a moment when you will think that you’re not good enough or worthy enough of his time, and whenever you start feeling like this, please keep in mind the following 6 things that will help you go through the waiting phase!
1. “Eu sou digno!”
Every time you start feeling like you’re asking for too much and that you’re not worthy of being texted back, delete those thoughts immediately.
Remember that you’re a worthwhile human being and other people’s actions don’t define your worth.
O facto de ele não te responder às mensagens não tem nada a ver com o teu verdadeiro valor.
Não deve levar isto a peito, porque há muitas razões para que ele não lhe tenha enviado uma mensagem de resposta.
Maybe he forgot, maybe he was stuck in a place where he didn’t have a signal or maybe he’s lost his phone.
Or maybe he’s a manipulative asshole only playing hard to get.
Seja o que for, continua a não ter nada a ver consigo.
If he was prevented from texting you back, you will surely be notified about it in the future, and if he’s an asshole, even better.
Nunca mais o verás ou ouvirás falar dele!
2. “Instead of waiting, I choose to live my life now.”
It’s really easy to lose yourself when it comes to à espera que alguém lhe responda a uma mensagem.
Mas, em vez de esperar, deve escolher viver a sua vida agora!
Saia com os seus amigos, beba a(s) sua(s) bebida(s) preferida(s), releia o seu livro preferido, ouça uma música inspiradora, desenhe, dance ou o que mais lhe agradar.
O pior que se pode fazer é esperar ao lado do telemóvel, porque isso é uma receita para perder a cabeça e pensar demais.
Por que razão desperdiçar os seus preciosos segundos à espera que ele lhe responda a uma mensagem quando pode ter as duas coisas?
You can have the time of your life while “imaginarily” waiting for him to text you back. (And you will certainly not miss anything.)
3. “It’s probably a stupid or simple reason, and I’m overthinking it.”
If you think he’s not texting you back because he no longer likes you, because he’s thinking about breaking up with you or perhaps because he’s cheating on youPensa de novo.
Qual é a probabilidade de o que pensa que está a acontecer ser realmente verdade?
There are thousands of possible reasons, and most of the time it’s a stupid or simple reason behind him not texting you back.
Be aware of the fact that you’re probably overthinking it, and there’s no need to torture yourself because, in the end, everything will be alright, and you will probably laugh when you hear why he couldn’t text you back!
4. “He has his own life.”
I understand that you’ve probably said a lot of important things to him, and you’re dying to see his reaction, but you need to understand that he has his own life, too (just like you).
We often forget that the reason why they didn’t text us back is because they have something important going on, that they’re busy, and they simply didn’t have time to deal with texting.
5. “It’s normal to need to wait for text messages sometimes.”
It’s normal to need to wait for text messages sometimes (if it’s a reasonable amount of waiting).
When we impatiently wait for something to happen, seconds turns into hours, and that is why you probably have the feeling that it’s taking him forever to reply.
It’s important to stay patient, and remind yourself that it’s normal to wait for a text message sometimes.
And if he never replies, then screw him! You’re better off without him anyway.
6. “No matter what happens – it’s going to be OK!”
No matter what happens, if he eventually texts you back or not, it’s going to be OK, and there’s nothing to worry about.
As already said, if he texts you back and apologizes for letting you wait too long for his reply – perfect.
If he still hasn’t texted you back and you’re convinced that he won’t, it’s perfect again because you know that he’s an asshole, and he definitely doesn’t deserve you.
Por isso, respire fundo, (pare de olhar para o telemóvel) e viva a sua vida como uma chefe!
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