Love Coach explica a razão pela qual os homens te abandonam

It’s frustrating to invest yourself in someone only for them to disappear like nothing happened. You think you have this amazing energy going on, everything seems great, and then…poof! It’s all gone!

We’ve all been there, perguntando-se se dissemos ou fizemos algo que os assustou.

Uma vez saí com um rapaz, continuámos a enviar mensagens depois do encontro e ele até disse que estava entusiasmado por voltar a sair comigo. A química era louca!

Isto durou alguns dias e, uma noite, de repente, deixou-me pendurada. Pensei que talvez tivesse adormecido, mas não, recebi a sua resposta três dias depois. Três dias depois!!! Consegues imaginar?

Uma vez que muitas mulheres lidam com esta situação, um treinador amoroso decidiu finalmente tranquilizar as nossas mentes e explicar a razão por detrás desta situação. 

Ultimate test of women’s reaction

O treinador do amor, Brody Boyd, publicou um TikTok sobre porque é que os homens desaparecem de repente durante a fase de namoro. Aparentemente, eles fantasma para ver a nossa reação.

Brody diz:

“He won’t text you back or he’ll disappear or go missing to see how you respond. I’m not saying this is great and in fact he could be doing this unconsciously or he could be doing it consciously, but when a guy ‘goes missing’ or pulls away in that way often it is a test.”

Explica ainda que o fazem porque they want to find out what’s your personality like. If you get pissed off immediately and send him a bunch of texts, he’ll think you’re desperate. 

O objetivo é men don’t want a woman who’s needy so by attacking him you can only push him further away and lose him forever. On the other hand, if you keep your cool, don’t bother asking him why he’s not responding, that’s a plus. 

Brody says if you continue with your life, this will send a strong message that you know your value and won’t accept this behavior. So he’ll think you have standards and want someone more available. 

Women didn’t like what this love coach had to say and didn’t hesitate to write that in the comments. Many said that this is not a test but a huge red flag, and some wrote that acting this way is childish and women don’t have time for playing games. 

Uma mulher escreveu:

“Why do people feel the need to play games anyway! Too old for the BS! Life is already difficult enough to try work out what’s really going on.”

Outro acrescentou:

“He can do that for sure. But once my text or call goes unanswered he won’t receive a reply when he decides to come back.

Honestly, I agree and love this energy in the comments. But if you really like him, it can be hard to simply move on with your life. So, what do you do when you just can’t let it go?

Do this when he doesn’t text you back

O treinador do amor continuou com outro vídeo para dar dicas sobre como atuar se se encontrar nesta situação.

Ele disse que o melhor que tens a fazer é esquecê-lo e faz o que for preciso para não responderes. Como diz o Brody:

“Make sure to give him the space and realize that most likely he’s probably not gonna reach back out and the only thing that will probably cause him to reach back out is you not acting needy, not acting desperate, not sending something that you’ll later regret.”

Explicou também que isto encorajá-lo-ia a não se apegar facilmente e aborrecer-se sem razão, para se poder concentrar noutras coisas.

Then if he eventually texts you back it will only be a pleasant surprise because you weren’t expecting it in the first place. So basically, sem compromisso!

Trust me, I know how hard following this advice can be! It’s like you’re waiting for someone that might never come. However, redirecionar a sua energia e concentrar-se noutra coisa é realmente útil.

Whenever I had the urge to take my phone and text him I would tell myself that I shouldn’t chase anyone, and neither should you, girl! Doing something to take my mind off him always does wonders.

Just don’t overthink it! Go out with your girls, and even start dating other people if you want. In that way, you’ll focus on something else that can also bring you joy and satisfaction. Maybe you even find someone who’s more available and ready to give you the attention you need. 

De qualquer forma, faz o que te faz feliz, e if you’re not in the mood for games, move on and don’t waste your time!