Seja honesta consigo mesma: Ama-o realmente pelo que ele é?
If I asked you why are you with him, you would probably answer because you love him, right? But the much better question would be – why do you love him, and what made you fall in love with him?
Would you be able to answer that? Would you struggle with the answer or offer me some of those boring, classic explanations…
Because he’s a good man, because he’s good to me, blah, blah, blah?
Podemos gostar e até apaixonarmo-nos por alguém sem razão aparente, mas há sempre certas coisas que nos fazem ficar apaixonados por essa pessoa.
Love has the power to blind us completely. We’re unable to see that person for who they truly are. We idealize them and make a perfect picture of them in our heads.
Unfortunately, we fall in love with that picture of them we’ve made, not with who they really are.
Está apenas a tentar preencher um vazio que tem na sua vida?
Por vezes, todos nós sentimos que existe um grande vazio na nossa vida. Sentimos que falta alguém ou alguma coisa e, infelizmente, isso leva-nos a tomar algumas decisões precipitadas para preencher esse vazio.
One of these decisions is allowing someone to enter your life and becoming infatuated with them. You’re happy because you have someone to spend your time with.
You’re happy because there’s finally another person on the other side of the bed.
Even though you may think you love him, you don’t. You just fell in love with the idea of having someone to finally fill the void in your life and to give you something that was missing for so long.
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Aceita-o como ele realmente é?
If you’ve been dating him for a while, then you’ve had time to acknowledge his flaws. Do you still accept him with all of his flaws and imperfections?
Have you ever tried to change those not so perfect parts of him? If you have, I’m sorry, but I have to be honest and tell you there is no true love there.
Quando amamos honestamente alguém, aceitamo-lo por tudo o que ele é. Aceita e valoriza tudo o que eles trazem para a relação.
Amor verdadeiro tem a ver com a aceitação total de uma pessoa e não com a tentativa de a mudar.
Tem inveja de outros casais felizes?
If you’re a little bit envious of other happy couples around you, then that’s a sign that something is missing in your own relationship.
You can’t be jealous of other couples if you’re satisfied with your relationship. Well, you can, but that would only mean you’re a deeply insecure and unhappy person.
Há demasiado drama na vossa relação?
O amor é por vezes complicado. As relações podem ser um desafio. Concordo plenamente com tudo isso.
Não existe uma relação completamente livre de dramas, mas há sempre um equilíbrio em tudo quando o amor é verdadeiro e honesto.
Se há demasiado drama na vossa relação, isso significa que não há amor suficiente. A sua relação deve dar-lhe energia e não esgotá-la emocionalmente todos os dias.
Sente-se encurralado?
Tem medo de solidão? Don’t be shy to admit it because we all are. God created us as social creatures, and we all crave for someone we’ll be able to walk through life with.
However, don’t allow that fear to control your feelings. Don’t try to convince yourself you love someone just because you’re afraid to leave them, because you’re scared of being alone.
Sooner or later, if you don’t honestly love them, the relationship will fail. If you allow yourself to be stuck with him, you might miss the right one. You might miss true love.
Reduzir as suas expectativas
I’m serious. Forget all those things you want from your relationship and your boyfriend too.
Baixe todas as suas expectativasMesmo as saudáveis e realistas. Depois, espere e veja o que acontece.
It’ll allow you to have a more realistic perspective on your relationship. You’ll know exactly where you stand in your relationship.
You’ll be able to see yourself with that man in the distant future. You’ll finally realize whether you’re in love with him or just the idea you had of him in your mind all this time.
Tenta ouvir o teu instinto
If you can’t get rid of the feeling that something is off, it’s probably because something is indeed wrong in your relationship.
A sua voz interior está apenas a tentar avisá-lo e deve parar de a tentar silenciar. Se tudo estiver bem, deve estar a desfrutar da sua bolha de amor sem nenhum destes sinais de aviso e vozes à sua volta.
Unfortunately, so often, people do mistake infatuation for love. Don’t let your fears stop you from being honest with yourself.
Admite a verdade a ti próprio porque tu e especialmente o teu coração puro e bondoso merecem-na.
