10 boas razões para perdoar a pessoa que mais odeia

Se queres perdoar alguém, lembra-te do ditado: "Como fazes a tua cama, assim deves deitar-te nela! "

You must bear in mind that we are all human beings, and we have all done something ‘unforgivable’ at some point in our lives. And deep down, we all crave forgiveness.

Quando encontrar a forma de perdoar os outrosSe não formos capazes de perdoar as nossas acções imprudentes, criaremos um espaço seguro onde elas também possam ser perdoadas.

Try and forgive the ones you hate the most. It’s not easy, but if you do it, your ego will fall apart and get this—it’s a good thing.

If you really try, you won’t have any excuses left for not forgiving the one who broke you. And the reasons which can inspire you to do exactly that, are the following:

O perdão torna-nos responsáveis pela nossa própria felicidade

The larger part of what we are and what we attract into our lives is only a reflection of what is actually within us. Our thoughts and actions create the world we’re living in. Our lives teach us that opposites do not attract and that we’ll never have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.

But, if we stick to anger and rage, we are already making our journey filled with these negative thoughts—we’re inviting negative things to our lives. The way we feel and emotions we keep inside are our tools for creating our own happiness.

O perdão faz-nos ver a nossa vida como um professor

Our family members, spouses and friends—they all came into our lives and they all played an important role in our discovering our true selves. We have to be grateful they are part of our lives and that they have taught us important life lessons which are responsible for broadening our consciousness.

The same goes for all the negative relationships we’ve had. Once you’ve learned your lesson from a negative relationship, you will no longer attract negative situations and future relations that try to teach you the same lesson.

O poder do perdão ajuda-nos a deixar de nos fazermos de vítimas

By being able to forgive and being grateful for all good that is happening to you, life won’t let you play the role of a victim. Most of the time, you’re not a victim of anything else other than your own actions and your own self.

As long as you continue putting the blame on someone else, you’re automatically giving control of your life to others. In that way, you’re making yourself a victim of your life for good.

A maioria das pessoas está a dar o seu melhor

Mostre compaixão pelas outras pessoas e tente compreender em que ponto da sua vida se encontram. Ponha-se na pele delas.

They don’t have to have the same life perspectives as you do. Remember that most people are doing their best, depending on their level of consciousness and understanding.

Assim como fazes a tua cama, deves deitar-te nela

Todos nós já experimentámos essa ânsia de perdão. Basta lembrar-se de como se sentia e lembrar-se de que lamentava o que tinha feito.

Put yourself into their shoes and look for the right answer—and that is to forgive.

Ser capaz de perdoar faz-nos crescer

We grow constantly—throughout our entire lives. But the moment we stop learning and seeking life lessons, our false ego appears and takes matters into its own hands.

Lembre-se que estamos sempre a caminhar para algo maior e mais grandioso, e o perdão ajuda-nos a chegar lá mais cedo. Ajuda-nos a enterrar o passado e a viver para o futuro.

O perdão ensina-nos a ser realistas

We should know that we don’t have to expect anything from anyone.

Somos os únicos criadores dos nossos destinos e felicidades. Somos nós que estamos ligados às nossas almas e ao nosso eu interior, e isso deve ser tudo o que precisamos.

On the other hand, it is nice to get stuff from people, but we mustn’t rely on those things to be able to move forward in life. We mustn’t expect anything. We have to have faith only in ourselves.

O perdão destrói os nossos mecanismos de auto-defesa

We are hurting each other too often, only because we are trying to protect ourselves. We’ve all been there and we’ve all done that.

A tomada de consciência deste padrão de comportamento permite-nos pôr termo a toda a dor desnecessária que estamos a causar aos outros para ganharmos algo para nós próprios.

But, as you already know—as you make your bed, so you will lie in it…

O perdão torna-nos capazes de deixar as pessoas irem embora

It makes us able to let go of those who aren’t supposed to stick around any longer. Not every person and every situation is meant to be a part of our lives. Sometimes, they are here only to help us to start a new chapter of our lives.

O perdão é a melhor vingança

It may be a bit sarcastic, but it’s true. A positive way of getting even with someone is to simply move on and create a better future for yourself.

Nothing will annoy and piss off your opponent more than seeing a big smile on your face after you’ve truly forgiven them and moved on with your life.

But remember, revenge shouldn’t be a motive for forgiveness.

Perdoaste mesmo alguém?

It’s easy to say: “I forgive you…” But still, deep inside our minds, anger and rage are still present. And their presence will affect our future lives and our future experiences.

But, once you truly and sincerely forgive someone, you will feel free and light as a feather—released from captivity.

Think of someone who is waiting for your forgiveness. Is there anybody out there whom you want to forgive so you don’t leave this world with any regrets?