10 dicas sobre como superar o medo de perder alguém

Tem medo de perder o seu parceiro e isso faz com que se entregue mais do que devia. Começa a ver como a sua vida seria miserável sem ele e que precisa dele em todas as condições.

This mindset can become really depressing at times and it makes you forget about how valuable you are as a person and that you’re an individual who can do really well all by herself.

Of course, I’m not trying to tell you to leave him so you can experiment if you could live without him, I’m just giving you ways in which you can prevent yourself from thinking about it so much that even the most simple thought about it makes you cry.

Compreender que o seu medo é normal

First of all, let’s get this clear—your fear is something normal and if you love him, your reaction to the thought of losing him and the sadness you feel are normal reactions.

O problema começa no momento em que começa a consumir-nos. When you can’t be happy while being with your partner because of the constant bug in your head, your relationship can’t progress in the way it should.

You’re stuck with that idea and you simply can’t let go of it. Remember that the fear of losing a loved one is normal and we all experience it, but you don’t need to worry about it to the point where you stop enjoying the present moment!

Colocar o seu parceiro em segundo lugar

You should be your own priority. You should never give up something you love because of him and you shouldn’t be dedicating all of your time and energy into the relationship. You need it for yourself!

With the urge for self-improvement, you will completely forget about your fear because you will be the one who is the most important person in your life. Even if your partner does leave you, you’ll know that you didn’t give up on your dreams for him.

By the way, this doesn’t mean to be selfish and to forget about him or your relationship, to never have time for him, etc, it just means that you will be more aware of the fact that even if he leaves, you will still have a fulfilled life.

Passar algum tempo sozinho

Isto está em sintonia com a dica anterior. Quando passa mais tempo consigo próprio, adquire uma sensação de independência.

You will know that your happiness isn’t in the hands of someone else, but rather in your own. Simply relax and stop running after him.

Escreva-o

Sempre que sentir o medo a instalar-se, pegue num caderno e escreva-o, pois prometo-lhe que, a dada altura, ele começará a parecer-lhe tolo. Ao fazer isto, ficará mais consciente do medo e reconhecê-lo-á quando ele surgir.

Anote-o simplesmente para saber que situação desencadeou esse medo e como evitar essas situações.

For example, if you’re home alone and your toxic thoughts are consuming your mind, you can sit down and write, then after, forget about that topic and set your mind on thinking about a project you have at work and how to deal with it or put on a movie that makes you laugh your heart out. These things helped me a lot.

Falar com o seu parceiro

Because I’m speaking here out of personal experience, I know for sure that communication can poupar-vos a muitas noites de choro.

By talking with your partner, he will know how much the relationship means to you and that you appreciate him. He can even reassure you how something like that won’t happen and it will make you feel at ease.

Realize that you can’t control everything

If someone’s going to leave, they will leave. You can’t keep them by your side if they don’t want to be there. Why would you even want someone like that in your life? There is nothing they can give you anymore.

Deixe-o ir embora. Pode ser difícil e pode deixá-la de coração partido, mas ninguém ficará feliz se o seu parceiro estiver a falar em acabar com a relação e tudo o que fizer for chorar e gritar para o convencer a ficar.

If he doesn’t want to, he probably doesn’t love you, so why bother?

You’re not the only one dealing with this

In this world, there are so many people who were left by their loved ones. It can even happen on a daily basis! This means that you won’t be the first or the last person who is being left by someone who is very important in your life.

I know that this isn’t the advice you were looking for but it’s the truth. There are so many women who are happy with being alone and who don’t need someone to remind them that they’re beautiful.

Faz o que puderes para tirar o melhor partido da situação

Nunca deixe que o medo de o perder a impeça de mostrar o quanto ele significa para si! Passe tempo com ele e diga-lhe tudo o que precisa para o fazer sentir-se amado. Se ele a ama, fará o mesmo por si!

Isto reforçará a vossa relação e, mesmo que esta chegue ao fim, terão recordações maravilhosas para guardar.

Confiar na sua capacidade de ultrapassar o desgosto

You are a strong woman who has dealt with many situations where people would leave you and you’re still alive. You overcame all those times alguém te partiu and you’re still around. You can overcome anything!

If it gets to this point ever again, you need to trust yourself enough to know that you can deal with it and that it’s nothing to be afraid of. Life goes on and you will need time to heal but it’s going to be worth it!

Na verdade, nunca poderão sair totalmente da nossa vida

Even if someone you love does leave you, they still live on in your memory and you had an amazing time with them even if they’re not by your side anymore.

Foram eles que fizeram de si a pessoa que é hoje e deve estar grato por eles terem estado presentes para tornar a sua vida mais rica.