10 consejos para superar el miedo a perder a alguien

Tienes miedo de perder a tu pareja y eso hace que te entregues más de lo que deberías. Empiezas a ver cómo tu vida sería miserable sin él y que le necesitas bajo cualquier condición.

This mindset can become really depressing at times and it makes you forget about how valuable you are as a person and that you’re an individual who can do really well all by herself.

Of course, I’m not trying to tell you to leave him so you can experiment if you could live without him, I’m just giving you ways in which you can prevent yourself from thinking about it so much that even the most simple thought about it makes you cry.

Date cuenta de que tu miedo es bastante normal

First of all, let’s get this clear—your fear is something normal and if you love him, your reaction to the thought of losing him and the sadness you feel are normal reactions.

El problema empieza en el momento en que empieza a consumirte. When you can’t be happy while being with your partner because of the constant bug in your head, your relationship can’t progress in the way it should.

You’re stuck with that idea and you simply can’t let go of it. Remember that the fear of losing a loved one is normal and we all experience it, but you don’t need to worry about it to the point where you stop enjoying the present moment!

Pon a tu pareja en segundo lugar

You should be your own priority. You should never give up something you love because of him and you shouldn’t be dedicating all of your time and energy into the relationship. You need it for yourself!

With the urge for self-improvement, you will completely forget about your fear because you will be the one who is the most important person in your life. Even if your partner does leave you, you’ll know that you didn’t give up on your dreams for him.

By the way, this doesn’t mean to be selfish and to forget about him or your relationship, to never have time for him, etc, it just means that you will be more aware of the fact that even if he leaves, you will still have a fulfilled life.

Pasar tiempo a solas

Esto va unido al consejo anterior. Cuando pases más tiempo contigo mismo, te sentirás más independiente.

You will know that your happiness isn’t in the hands of someone else, but rather in your own. Simply relax and stop running after him.

Anótelo

Cada vez que sientas que el miedo se acerca sigilosamente, coge un cuaderno y escríbelo, ya que te prometo que en algún momento empezará a parecerte una tontería. Así serás más consciente del miedo y lo reconocerás cuando aparezca.

Escríbelo simplemente para saber qué situación desencadenó ese miedo y cómo evitar esas situaciones.

For example, if you’re home alone and your toxic thoughts are consuming your mind, you can sit down and write, then after, forget about that topic and set your mind on thinking about a project you have at work and how to deal with it or put on a movie that makes you laugh your heart out. These things helped me a lot.

Hable con su pareja

Because I’m speaking here out of personal experience, I know for sure that communication can te ahorrará muchas noches de llanto.

By talking with your partner, he will know how much the relationship means to you and that you appreciate him. He can even reassure you how something like that won’t happen and it will make you feel at ease.

Realize that you can’t control everything

If someone’s going to leave, they will leave. You can’t keep them by your side if they don’t want to be there. Why would you even want someone like that in your life? There is nothing they can give you anymore.

Deja que se vayan. Puede que sea duro y te deje el corazón roto, pero nadie estará contento si tu pareja habla de romper y lo único que haces es llorar y gritar para convencerle de que se quede.

If he doesn’t want to, he probably doesn’t love you, so why bother?

You’re not the only one dealing with this

In this world, there are so many people who were left by their loved ones. It can even happen on a daily basis! This means that you won’t be the first or the last person who is being left by someone who is very important in your life.

I know that this isn’t the advice you were looking for but it’s the truth. There are so many women who are happy with being alone and who don’t need someone to remind them that they’re beautiful.

Haz lo que puedas para aprovecharlo al máximo

No dejes que el miedo a perderle te impida demostrarle lo mucho que significa para ti. Pasa tiempo con él y dile todo lo que necesites para que se sienta querido. Si te quiere, hará lo mismo por ti.

Esto fortalecerá vuestra relación y, aunque llegue a su fin, tendréis recuerdos maravillosos a los que aferraros.

Confía en tu capacidad para superar el desamor

You are a strong woman who has dealt with many situations where people would leave you and you’re still alive. You overcame all those times alguien te rompió and you’re still around. You can overcome anything!

If it gets to this point ever again, you need to trust yourself enough to know that you can deal with it and that it’s nothing to be afraid of. Life goes on and you will need time to heal but it’s going to be worth it!

Nunca pueden salir totalmente de tu vida

Even if someone you love does leave you, they still live on in your memory and you had an amazing time with them even if they’re not by your side anymore.

Son los que te han convertido en la persona que eres hoy y tienes que agradecerles que estuvieran ahí para enriquecer tu vida.