10 sinais de que ele não quer um relacionamento

Em a era do namoro moderno e quase todas as relações, saber qual é a nossa posição em relação ao nosso homem é quase impossível.

Com ele a fugir ao compromisso e a fingir ter uma doença mortal só para evitar a conversa, a única forma de saber em que pé estamos é procurar sinais.

And, well, they’re more than obvious. Your rose-tinted shades may blind you from seeing them clearly, but they’re still there.

Ele acabou de terminar com outra pessoa

There’s a great chance you might end up as a rebound girl.

Dating someone who just got out of a relationship and hasn’t had time to move on is a one-way ticket to getting your heartbroken.

And it’s no wonder he refuses to talk about you two moving on from casually hooking up, because he’s simply not ready to enter another relationship.

Ele pode até ainda estar apaixonado pela ex.

He doesn’t take you on serious dates

Se os vossos encontros se baseiam apenas no engate, no Netflix e no relaxamento e em passar tempo juntos em sua casa ou na dele, sem nunca saírem juntos em público ou convidarem outras pessoas, pode ser que seja apenas o seu engate.

It’s okay if you’re down with this kind of a relationship, but if you’re hoping to have a real one, maybe he’s not the guy to have it with.

If he’s not ready to take you out properly and show you off, he won’t be ready to commit to you.

Mereces alguém que namore contigo para o resto da tua vida, não que te esconda desde o primeiro dia.

He disappears for days and pretends it’s not a big deal

Se um homem gosta mesmo de si, vai garantir que arranja tempo e espaço para si na vida dele.

Even if he has no time to spend with you, he will text you and let you know that he’s thinking of you.

But if he takes vacations from your relationship without even getting in touch with you before or during it, he’s simply not worried about losing you.

If he knows that you’ll be waiting for him no matter how shitty his behavior is, there’s no reason for him to commit to you or change for you.

Porque é que o faria? Ele tem todos os os benefícios de uma relação sem estar num.

Ele abandona-a no último minuto

He knew he had other plans on your date night, he just didn’t bother to let you know about them before it was too late.

Ele mantém-na como uma rede de segurança, para que se os seus outros planos falharem, ele tenha alguém a quem recorrer.

Or simply he doesn’t feel like going out in public with you.

There’s no reason you should put up with this behavior, so put yourself first for once and ditch his lying ass.

Ele mantém-te separada dos amigos dele

You never got to meet them and he keeps telling you, “You’d be bored, you won’t like them.”

But the thing is, when you’re dating someone, you want everyone to meet that special someone.

You want to make sure your friends behave properly so your significant other will like them, you want to make sure to involve that person in every single part of your life, because they’re already a big part of it anyway.

If he keeps you away from his friends and family, he just doesn’t plan on moving forward with you.

Ele nunca se compromete

It’s either his way or no way. If you want to go out to the movies or grab some dinner, he insists you stay home. And you stay home.

If you feel like clubbing and he feels like going to a game, he goes to the game. He doesn’t have the word compromise in his vocabulary.

It’s simple—he doesn’t care about you or your feelings. Ele só se preocupa com ele, o que não deixa lugar para ti no seu coração.

Vale mesmo a pena perder o sono por causa dele?

He’s only affectionate in private—never in public

When you’re alone, he can’t keep his hands off of you. He kisses you, touches you and drives you crazy with desire.

But the moment you step outside, he turns all ‘coworker’ mode.

He won’t even hold your hand and if he sees someone he knows, he only introduces you by your name, without labeling what you are to him.

If he decides to put on a label, it’s ‘friend’. His excuse: There’s no reason for anyone to know about my private life.

Nunca fala sobre o futuro e evita fazer planos para o futuro

He never talks about the future, simply because he doesn’t plan on having one with you.

Se tentar falar de planos para o futuro, ele muda de assunto e avança rapidamente, sem sequer lhe dar qualquer informação.

And if you try to have ‘the talk’ with him, he says he’s not ready, he’s too tired, etc. He avoids anything that has any connection with commitment and labeling your relationship.

He says he’s bad at dating

Poor little thing, and now I’m supposed to make you better at it? No.

This is an attention seeking excuse, where in case anything shitty happens, he can say, “I warned you.”

No, you didn’t. You just never felt like putting any effort into this relationship, into us.

Desde quando é que ser mau em alguma coisa é uma desculpa para não tentar melhorá-la?

I’m bad at cooking, and still I’m regularly burning my pans and smoking up my kitchen. O importante é nunca desistir.

He says he doesn’t want a relationship

This seems quite self-explanatory, but the thing is, almost-relationships are everywhere now. It’s when you’re practically boyfriend and girlfriend, although you’re NOT.

When he says that he doesn’t want a relationship or is not ready for one, what he really means is that he doesn’t want one with you.

We all want to believe that we’re the one who can change his mind, the one he will finally commit to. But we’re not.

I’ve been there; I fell in love with a man who made me his almost, but he never made me his choice. He never showed any will to do so, no matter how hard I tried and hoped.

Independentemente do que eu fizesse, de ser boa ou má, ele nunca me viu como sua namorada.

It’s not because there’s something wrong with me, it’s not because I didn’t try enough (trust me, I did), it’s simply because he never wanted a relationship in the first place.

Ele só queria os benefícios de ter um.