10 sinais de que o seu namorado planeia continuar a ser um fedelho imaturo

Ser emocionalmente imaturo não tem de durar para sempre. Talvez seja apenas uma fase que durará apenas um curto período de tempo.

Maybe he’s survived some kind of a trauma, and he doesn’t know how to deal with it.

Whatever is at stake, you don’t have to judge him right away. First, you have to find a way to help him. Try to be there for him because he really won’t ask you to.

Try to let him know that you are there, but don’t be too pushy because you’ll only push him away.

Este é o primeiro cenário, mas o segundo é que ele é mesmo assim e que não tenciona mudar. Ele gosta que façam tudo por ele. Gosta desse tipo de atenção e, por isso, não tem necessidade de mudar as coisas.

If you don’t want to spend the rest of your life living with a spoiled brat that wants everything done his way, pay attention to these signs that he is not planning on changing.

Ele sabe mesmo como ser mau às vezes

His jokes sometimes really hurt. This only shows that he doesn’t care, and he is not planning on changing.

He doesn’t care about your feelings, and he feels it’s funny to make jokes which are simply not appropriate. Either he is doing it on purpose or he has no idea he’s a magoar-vos.

If you take it either way, it’s bad.

Ele guarda os seus sentimentos para si próprio

É suposto as relações serem sobre a partilha de sentimentos e não ter medo de ser vulnerável em frente da pessoa que se ama.

You have nothing to hide from that person, and you’re supposed to be completely open with them. But, he doesn’t seem to act that way.

He keeps things to himself, and he deals with his problems all by himself. Don’t get me wrong, that is great for a single guy, but a man in a relationship has to understand that he is not alone anymore.

There is no longer “I”—it’s “us” now.

He doesn’t keep his promises

He’ll promise you so many things. And maybe even in that moment, he really means it, but as the moment goes by, he forgets it. You’re no longer important to him. Well, at least not as important as he himself.

That is real emotional immaturity. He says a lot of things to keep you calm and satisfied, but he doesn’t do anything about it. He is too selfish for that. He only cares about himself.

Ele não é bom com o dinheiro

He doesn’t know how to manage money. He doesn’t know how to save it. It’s not so much that he doesn’t know as he doesn’t really want to learn how to. He never had to take care of the finances.

He spends as much money as he has. It’s pure irresponsibility. Today, he is being irresponsible regarding money. The next day, it’ll be something even more serious.

You just can’t trust such a man.

Ele aborrece-se muito rapidamente

Nothing can hold his attention for that long because once again, he doesn’t care about anything but himself. He needs constant entertainment in order to stay in contact with you.

Don’t you just hate when you talk to someone and they keep scrolling through their phones? That is a classic sign of emotional immaturity.

You won’t be able to have serious conversations with him because that is extremely boring for him. He’ll just try to find a way to loosen things up by cracking a joke.

Now, isn’t it frustrating if you have a problem, and you want him to listen to you and give you advice, and he does completely the opposite? He wants to get off the topic instead of staying on it.

He doesn’t care about your feelings

If you’re sad and a bit under the weather, of course he’ll see it. But he won’t care. He has his own plans, and he doesn’t want to change or cancel them because you’re feeling down.

He’s just self-centered, and he doesn’t want to be bothered with the feelings you’re experiencing as long as he is fine.

Mas quando ele tem um problema, então o mundo inteiro tem de parar porque ele precisa de ajuda.

He’s never the one to blame

Mature people don’t pretend to forget something they’ve done or said. Mature people know when and how to say they’re sorry. But immature brats, mama’s boys will never admit they’ve done something wrong.

They will never apologize because they think they are always right, and that is just impossible. Even if you are as smart as hell, you can’t be right all the time.

Ele recusa-se a assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos e isso significa que tens de ser tu a culpada. Queres mesmo dar-lhe cobertura e aturar as merdas dele para o resto da tua vida?

He’e emotionally dependent

Isto significa que ele pede muito e não dá nada em troca. Ele é capaz de a esgotar emocionalmente e não lhe dar absolutamente nada em troca.

He’s sucking your energy dry, leaving you empty, and becoming cheerful and full of life himself. That makes you feel like an hollow shell all the time. And when you recharge, he does the same thing again.

He’s too close to his mom

It really doesn’t look like a healthy relationship. It’s a one thing to love your mother and talk to her, visit her, but it’s completely another thing when you are an adult who is incapable of living without your mother meddling in your life.

He has no problem with borrowing money from his mother and never paying her back because he knows he doesn’t have to, or canceling on you to go and spend time with her. Theses mean that he is still so dependent on his mother.

And at his age, that is just not healthy. It means he’s emotionally immature and probably will never grow up.

Ele tem medo de compromissos

He’ll start panicking instantly if you just mention children or commitment. Why? Because he knows that if he commits, he is in it for real. There is no more time or space to be selfish and self-centered.

E isso é algo de que ele não está disposto a abdicar. Ainda não. Esta é definitivamente uma enorme bandeira vermelha de que ele não está a planear mudar, e que você deve definitivamente deixá-lo e seguir em frente com a sua vida.