Como fazer com que ele se comprometa e queira apenas você

Given that you’re here, I suppose you’re in a situation where you’ve met a great guy but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship even though he’s regularly been taking you on fun dates and he really seems interested, right?

He’s been sending you mixed signals for what seems like a decade now and you have no idea what is really going on.

A única coisa em que consegue pensar é naquela famosa pergunta que incomoda muitas mulheres em todo o mundo: Como fazer com que ele se comprometa?

You can really see a future together with him but every time you bring up the idea of you two taking it to the next level (officially being boyfriend and girlfriend), he ends up hiding in his ‘man cave’ and he doesn’t want to hear anything about it.

Ele não pára de repetir que gosta das coisas como estão e que he doesn’t want to commit to something serious because he’s not ready yet or because he doesn’t even know whether he’s ready or not and he wants to play safe and preserve your current ‘pending status’.

Compreendo como é cansativo para si lidar com estes disparates e com a quantidade tóxica de indecisão que paira no ar, quando tudo o que quer é que ele abra os olhos e veja o quanto gosta dele e que têm uma grande relação.

Tudo o que quer é um verdadeiro estatuto de relação, ou seja, uma relação exclusiva em que ele se esforce por responder a todos os seus telefonemas e faça todas aquelas coisas giras e pequenas que os casais fazem um pelo outro, porque isso tem muito valor para si, certo?

E pode ficar com ele! Sim, pode transformar o seu homem com fobia ao compromisso num homem novo, cheio de auto-confiança e sem qualquer tipo de problemas de compromisso.

Trust me, there is a way you can escape from the gray zone you’ve been stuck in for too long.

Basta seguir estas dicas e truques e conseguirá que ele se comprometa consigo num piscar de olhos!

Deixar de falar de compromissos

Antes de mais, se quer que um homem se comprometa com uma relação séria, tem de parar de falar sobre isso.

Why? Because you’re putting pressure on him and no man wants to be pressured or forced to do something, let alone enter a long-term relationship.

Para ser exato, ninguém gosta de pressão porque a pressão leva ao stress e quem é que quer estar com uma pessoa que o stressa?

Por isso, falar de compromisso é um grande erro se quiser aprender a fazê-lo comprometer-se sem pressão e em tempo recorde.

You see, once you stop talking about it, he will think that you got over the whole idea of commitment, so he’ll ask himself eventually why that is so and he’ll be thinking about commitment even more. And that’s exactly what we need, right?

Colocar as suas necessidades em primeiro lugar

Don’t invest too much of yourself in him. Instead of waiting for him to change and finally decide to commit, make plans by yourself and stay a whole day in your room reading or watching movies or having fun with your girls.

Faça o que o faz feliz e a sua autoestima, o seu valor próprio e a sua paixão atingirão o seu auge.

What I’m about to tell you is the greatest relationship advice I’ve ever received: When you stop making him your number one priority, he’ll crave your presence!

Ele verá como é dedicada a si própria e quererá fazer parte desse mundo também.

Miúda, quando deixares de fazer tudo por ele, ele não só vai querer ter uma boa relação contigo, como vai querer casar contigo!

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Mencionar o seu ex (subtilmente)

Don’t do this a huge amount because you don’t want to be the type of woman who primarily uses jealousy in order to improve her love life and make a guy commit.

Mas se o fizer de uma forma subtil e decente, o seu homem vai começar a pensar no seu ex e você vai motivá-lo a querer ser melhor do que ele!

You can casually say that your ex has been texting you but that it’s nothing important and that he shouldn’t worry about it.

Even if you have blocked your ex on all social media, it doesn’t hurt to play a mind game because it’ll make your man wants to be better than your ex!

He’ll invest more energy into your relationship and he’ll want to be your boyfriend before you get back with your ex, just to show you how much of a better catch he is.

Manter a distância

Relationship experts claim that when we like someone, it’s really easy to get carried away and constantly be in their presence.

And that’s exactly what you shouldn’t do if you want to learn how to get him to commit!

Em vez de passar todo o seu tempo livre com ele ou sonhar em passar todo o seu tempo com ele, precisa de manter uma distância saudável dele e deixá-lo sentir a sua falta como o diabo!

Deixe-o perguntar a si próprio onde está e com quem. Faça-o comprometer-se, afastando-se.

Let him think that you’re dating other men or your ex even though you’re lying in your bed watching your favorite TV shows or having the time of your life with your girls.

Let him walk on eggshells and you’ll get an answer on how to get him to commit to dating you exclusively.

He’ll realize how much he misses you and that he doesn’t want another guy to slip into your life.

Trust me, he wouldn’t want to miss his chance to win you and make you his official girlfriend!

Be ‘the woman’ in his life

Se isto for feito incorretamente, pode afugentá-lo de si, por isso ouça com atenção.

By being ‘the woman’ in his life, I don’t mean you being constantly in his face and replacing his mother—NO!

The best way to be ‘the woman’ in his life is by sending him textos de bom dia e textos de boa noiteTalvez até à mesma hora todos os dias e todas as noites, para que ele se lembre disso como uma rotina.

And the next step is ‘aborting the mission’ and stopping doing any of it.

Stop for a couple of days and see what happens. He’s the one sending the messages every day now, right? It’ll be a part of his routine he doesn’t want to miss.

Que melhor maneira de o tornar consistente do que estar numa relação consigo, certo?

Recompensa-o

Os homens gostam de ser recompensados pelas suas mulheres pelos seus esforços, porque isso fá-los sentir como verdadeiros homens, capazes de cuidar das suas mulheres e de as fazer felizes.

Os homens gostam de ser notados e apreciados pelas suas boas acções e gestos.

Por isso, se ele fizer algo querido por si, algo que a faça sentir especial, lembre-se sempre de o recompensar e de lhe mostrar o quanto isso significa para si.

Remember to acknowledge that his efforts are appreciated and he’ll keep trying hard for you.

The more you reward him, the more he’ll be invested in making you feel special and loved!

And don’t you worry. These rewards don’t need to be some expensive gifts; a simple ‘thank you’ and a kiss on the cheek can do the job.

You can hug him or make him pancakes, it’s really up to you. Just be invested and consistent!

Ser simpático para os seus amigos

Um dos maiores atalhos para fazer com que o seu homem se comprometa totalmente consigo é dar-se bem com os amigos íntimos dele.

I’m sure you already know that men put a lot of effort into their friendships and if you don’t get along with his friends, your chances of becoming his girlfriend are not that good or non-existent.

If his best friends like you, they’ll put in a good word about you and he’ll see how much they want you two to be together.

He’ll see that they are really fond of you, which will automatically trigger him to consider you becoming his official girlfriend and making you a part of their crew!

Ser misterioso

O mistério é a maior excitação e a maior motivação para qualquer homem e, de facto, ser misteriosa é uma das melhores coisas que pode fazer para que ele se comprometa consigo.

But remember to keep this only to a certain extent as well because if you become overly mysterious, he might just think that you’re hiding something serious from him, which will make him walk away from you (especially if you ignore him for a serious amount of time).

So, sometimes when he’s looking at you, take out your phone and smile for no reason, just to make him ask himself what is going on and why you aren’t running around to win him over and make him yours.

Esta é a melhor receita para uma dose saudável de mistério que o fará pensar em si mais do que nunca.

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Torná-lo divertido

If you want to learn how to get him to commit to you in no time, then don’t make him think that commitment is something overly serious and that once he enters into a relationship, his life and time spent with his friends will come to an end. Don’t do it.

Em vez disso, faça-o de forma leve e despreocupada e ele apaixonar-se-á, não só por si, mas por toda a ideia de compromisso.

Bowling games and little road trips with a lot of laughter will make it all look easy-going and he won’t have a problem with being in a committed relationship with you.

As a matter of fact, HE WILL DESIRE to be in a committed relationship with you, not because he needs to but because it’s so much fun and he really, really wants to.

Continuem o bom trabalho

Lastly, if he asks you to be his girlfriend and you start a wonderful relationship together, don’t start nagging him or pushing him just days after you’ve achieved your goal.

Why? Because you’ll make him regret his decision if you start controlling him and if you demand to be constantly around him.

You need to continue having your own life instead of being too attached to his because otherwise, it’ll just scare him even more than it did before.

Tem de continuar a dar-lhe espaço para si próprio, para as suas noites de convívio com muita cerveja e outras actividades que significam muito para ele.

Por muito que queira fazer algumas coisas, tenha sempre cuidado para não o sobrecarregar com as suas emoções, porque se o fizer, ele pode voltar à sua fase inicial de fobia ao compromisso, que é exatamente o que quer evitar que aconteça.

Considerações finais

Getting him to commit to you is not an easy task. It is a process that demands lots of patience, dedication and understanding, even after he’s finally yours.

Mas quando apanhar o jeito, tornar-se-á uma mestre do compromisso e fará com que ele a queira e deseje a si e só a si!

Just remember to continue subtly reminding him that it was his decision to commit to you and that it was the best decision he’s ever made in his life!

And don’t forget to enjoy every second of your new journey—called a happy, committed relationship!

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