15 promessas que deves fazer a ti próprio e honrar para sempre

You’re very careful not to let down others, especially when you give them your word about something. You are ready to do the impossible just to fulfill your promises and to stand behind what you say. 

Well, it’s time to start behaving in the same manner towards yourself as well. Time to make some crucial promises to yourself and stick to them for as long as you breathe. 

Aqui estão eles. 

To accept yourself…

First and foremost, you have to promise yourself that you’ll always accept your true self, without allowing others to change you. No, you’re not perfect and you shouldn’t even try to be – you have your own flaws. 

No entanto, é necessário aceitar o imperfeições too. Be aware that even those things you don’t like about yourself have built you into the person you’re today, so please don’t dishonor them. 

Don’t change the essence of your personality for the sake of some guy you think would love you more if you were different.

Don’t do it to impress your boss or best friend, or because your family asks you to. And don’t do it just to fit in. You are you, whether others like it or not. 

…but constantly work on self-improvement

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t aspire to always be better.

É que há uma grande diferença entre modificar-se para agradar a outra pessoa e reparar em algumas coisas que gostaria de melhorar em si próprio. 

Promise to yourself that you’ll never allow yourself to be trapped in your comfort zone, just because you’re too scared to step out of it and try some new things.

Promise to yourself that you’ll always believe in your own abilities, that you’ll always be ambitious and put all possible effort into making your dreams turn into reality. 

Para se colocar em primeiro lugar

You know how your entire life you’ve been taught that selfishness is an awful quality? That the worst thing you can do is be egocentric who doesn’t care about other people. 

And that is something I couldn’t agree more on. However, what you obviously forgot is that dar prioridade a si próprio sobre os outros é tudo menos egoísta e mau.

In fact, it’s exactly what you should be doing. 

Isto pode parecer duro, mas todos na sua vida, exceto você, são substituíveis. Sim, deve valorizar as suas relações com os outros, mas, por favor, nunca se esqueça de que a sua relação consigo mesmo vem antes de tudo. 

Para escolher as suas batalhas

You’re a fighter and that is something to be proud of. That said, please promise yourself that from now on, you’ll choose your battles a little bit wiser.

Nem tudo e todos merecem cem por cento do seu esforço. Pára de perder a coragem por causa de cada pequena coisa e, para variar, às vezes deixa andar. 

Most importantly, promise yourself that you’ll stop fighting other people’s battles.

Yes, helping out a friend or a family member is great, but ultimately, it’s not your job to save anyone or resolve all of their problems. 

Preserve your inner peace and mental health above everything else because if you lose it, you’ll have to invest incredible amounts of energy and time to get it back. 

To leave the past in the past…

Bagagem emocional pode causar-nos mais problemas do que pensamos. No entanto, infelizmente, a maioria de nós, incluindo você, carrega esse fardo nos ombros. 

Well, please promise yourself that from now on, you’ll be leaving the past behind you, where it belongs.

Aceitar que algumas coisas e alguns acontecimentos aconteceram como aconteceram e que não há nada que se possa fazer.

You can’t change your past by thinking about it or by wishing it turned out differently. In fact, the only thing that’ll get you is you allowing it to destroy your present and future. 

…but to learn from it

However, that doesn’t mean that you should forget everything that went on before this given moment. Instead, vow to learn from the past and never repeat your mistakes. 

Assuma-os, assuma a responsabilidade e analise-os ao ponto de saber o que fez de errado e como pode garantir que isso não volta a acontecer.

Take everything that’s been going on in your life as a valuable lesson. 

Don’t forget that even the bad things happen for a reason. They’re there to teach you and help you become the person you’re destined to be. 

Nunca se contentar com menos

Uma das promessas mais importantes que todos nós temos de fazer a nós próprios é lembrarmo-nos do quanto merecemos e nunca contentar-se com menos do que isso.

Isto aplica-se aos seus relacionamentos românticos, amigos, família, trabalho e todos os outros segmentos da sua vida. 

Deixem de aturar as tretas dos outros só porque esperam que eles mudem ou só porque os amam.

From now on, stop giving more than you receive and only let in the people who give you exactly the same amount of effort they’re receiving from you. 

Remember your worth and don’t let anyone try to convince you that you’re not enough. No, you’re not asking for too much and you’re not too picky – you just have standards and dealbreakers. 

Ser gentil consigo mesmo

You know how you’re full of understanding toward everyone around you?

Como é que nunca os julgamos, esquecemos os seus erros, encontramos uma justificação para o seu mau comportamento e, de alguma forma, conseguimos perdoá-los, independentemente do que fazemos? 

Sabes como encontras sempre uma forma de confortar os seus amigos and put a smile back on their face, even when they’re at their lowest?

Como é que os ouve quando precisam e se certifica de que nunca se sentem mal?

Well, why shouldn’t you start treating yourself in the same manner? Why shouldn’t you make a vow to be caring and kind toward yourself more than you are toward others?

Não esconder as emoções

In today’s society, showing feelings has become a sign of weakness. Well, let me tell you that it is actually one of the biggest proofs of your inner strength.

It means that you have what it takes to face your emotions, including the ones you don’t like and would prefer not having.

É suficientemente corajoso para as olhar diretamente nos olhos e lidar com elas da forma mais saudável possível. 

That’s why I’m asking you to make a promise that you’ll never try reprimir as emoções nunca mais.

I’m not saying that you should allow them to get the best of you or overwhelm you, but please, don’t think they’ll go away if you pretend they don’t exist. 

Para deixar de lado a toxicidade e a negatividade

Outra promessa importante a fazer é cortar com todas as pessoas que o fazem sentir-se mal.

É parar com os hábitos e as coisas que trazem negatividade à sua vida, e afastar-se de tudo e de todos os tóxicos.

I don’t care how long you have known that friend or whether this is your sibling we’re talking about – if someone brings pessimism and darkness in your life, you have to kick them out of it, or at least reduce your contact to the bare minimum.

You don’t need emotional vampires, liars, cheaters, manipulators, narcissists, and other types of toxic people who are only making you miserable. 

Para ouvir o vosso coração

I won’t lie to you – going after your heart will probably bring you more than one trouble.

So, you definitely shouldn’t blindly follow it without even taking what your brain has to say into consideration. 

However, please, promise me that you’ll at least listen to its desires and that once in a while, you’ll do exactly what it tells you.

Yes, you might fail, but you’ll know you did exactly what you wanted and that satisfaction will be more than enough. 

Pay more attention to the signals your intuition sends you and be aware that it is rarely mistaken. You don’t always have to do the right thing!

Not to live by other people’s standards

Remember: You don’t depend on anyone, so why should you listen to other people’s opinions?

Hearing out a piece of advice is one thing, but living your own life on someone else’s terms and being a people pleaser is completely different. 

Promise yourself that you’ll stop doing things just because they’re expected of you. That you won’t be worried about fitting in and following some imaginary social standards that serve you no good. 

Don’t you ever forget that you’re the only one who makes the rules – the only one who is responsible for your own life. 

Para celebrar a vida

Por favor, começa a apreciar cada respiração que fazes.

No, you don’t necessarily have to spend each day like it’s your last and like there is no tomorrow, but at least sometimes, live in the moment and appreciate all of your blessings. 

Ser grato for the fact that you’re alive, healthy, and sane. For the fact that you’re loved and that you have more than enough for a decent life. 

Seja um pouco mais otimista e concentre-se nas coisas boas que lhe estão a acontecer, em vez de se martirizar constantemente com as coisas más. Celebre a vida e celebre-se a si próprio!

Respeitar-se e valorizar-se

In theory, we all demand respect and you’re no exception. However, how can you expect others to give it to you, unless you start respecting yourself first?

That is exactly why I’m here to ask you to promise that you’ll start respecting your time, space, thoughts, desires, and dreams a little more.

That you’ll start respecting yourself as a daughter, sister, friend, woman, and individual.

Promete aprender a valorizar mais os teus sacrifícios. Deixar de permitir que as pessoas o tomem por garantido ou se aproveitem de si. 

Respeita e aprecia o teu corpo e o teu coração. Respeita e aprecia-te a ti próprio!

Para ser feliz

Finally, promise yourself that you’ll do everything in your power to make yourself as happy as possible. Because that’s all of our final goal. 

A felicidade pode significar muitas coisas, mas o que importa é que a sintamos profundamente dentro de nós, aconteça o que acontecer.

Be aware that you’re the only creator of your life and the only one who can make herself truly happy, before expecting someone else to do it. 

Make a promise that you’ll never do anything to break your own heart and that you’ll forever remain in pursuit of felicidade and inner peace. Because at the end of the day, that’s what counts.