15 promesse che dovreste farvi e onorare per sempre

You’re very careful not to let down others, especially when you give them your word about something. You are ready to do the impossible just to fulfill your promises and to stand behind what you say. 

Well, it’s time to start behaving in the same manner towards yourself as well. Time to make some crucial promises to yourself and stick to them for as long as you breathe. 

Eccoli. 

To accept yourself…

First and foremost, you have to promise yourself that you’ll always accept your true self, without allowing others to change you. No, you’re not perfect and you shouldn’t even try to be – you have your own flaws. 

Tuttavia, è necessario accettare il imperfezioni too. Be aware that even those things you don’t like about yourself have built you into the person you’re today, so please don’t dishonor them. 

Don’t change the essence of your personality for the sake of some guy you think would love you more if you were different.

Don’t do it to impress your boss or best friend, or because your family asks you to. And don’t do it just to fit in. You are you, whether others like it or not. 

…but constantly work on self-improvement

Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t aspire to always be better.

C'è un'enorme differenza tra il modificare se stessi per compiacere qualcun altro e il notare alcune delle cose che si vorrebbero migliorare di se stessi. 

Promise to yourself that you’ll never allow yourself to be trapped in your comfort zone, just because you’re too scared to step out of it and try some new things.

Promise to yourself that you’ll always believe in your own abilities, that you’ll always be ambitious and put all possible effort into making your dreams turn into reality. 

Mettere se stessi al primo posto

You know how your entire life you’ve been taught that selfishness is an awful quality? That the worst thing you can do is be egocentric who doesn’t care about other people. 

And that is something I couldn’t agree more on. However, what you obviously forgot is that dare priorità a se stessi sugli altri è tutto tranne che egoista e malvagio.

In fact, it’s exactly what you should be doing. 

Potrà sembrare duro, ma tutti nella vostra vita, tranne voi, sono sostituibili. Sì, dovete assolutamente curare i rapporti con gli altri, ma non dimenticate mai che il rapporto con voi stessi viene prima di ogni altra cosa. 

Scegliere le proprie battaglie

You’re a fighter and that is something to be proud of. That said, please promise yourself that from now on, you’ll choose your battles a little bit wiser.

Non tutto e non tutti meritano il cento per cento del vostro impegno. Smettetela di perdere la testa per ogni piccola cosa e, tanto per cambiare, a volte lasciatevi andare. 

Most importantly, promise yourself that you’ll stop fighting other people’s battles.

Yes, helping out a friend or a family member is great, but ultimately, it’s not your job to save anyone or resolve all of their problems. 

Preserve your inner peace and mental health above everything else because if you lose it, you’ll have to invest incredible amounts of energy and time to get it back. 

To leave the past in the past…

Bagaglio emotivo può causare più problemi di quanto si possa pensare. Tuttavia, purtroppo, la maggior parte di noi, voi compresi, porta questo carico sulle spalle. 

Well, please promise yourself that from now on, you’ll be leaving the past behind you, where it belongs.

Accettare che alcune cose e alcuni eventi sono accaduti nel modo in cui sono accaduti e che non si può fare nulla al riguardo.

You can’t change your past by thinking about it or by wishing it turned out differently. In fact, the only thing that’ll get you is you allowing it to destroy your present and future. 

…but to learn from it

However, that doesn’t mean that you should forget everything that went on before this given moment. Instead, vow to learn from the past and never repeat your mistakes. 

Ammettetelo, assumetevi le vostre responsabilità e analizzate fino a capire cosa avete fatto di sbagliato e come potete fare in modo che non accada mai più.

Take everything that’s been going on in your life as a valuable lesson. 

Don’t forget that even the bad things happen for a reason. They’re there to teach you and help you become the person you’re destined to be. 

Non accontentarsi mai di poco

Una delle promesse più importanti che tutti noi dobbiamo fare a noi stessi è quella di ricordare quanto ci meritiamo e di non accontentarsi di qualcosa di meno.

Questo vale per le relazioni sentimentali, gli amici, la famiglia, il lavoro e tutti gli altri segmenti della vita. 

Smettete di sopportare le stronzate degli altri solo perché vi aspettate che cambino o solo perché li amate.

From now on, stop giving more than you receive and only let in the people who give you exactly the same amount of effort they’re receiving from you. 

Remember your worth and don’t let anyone try to convince you that you’re not enough. No, you’re not asking for too much and you’re not too picky – you just have standards and dealbreakers. 

Essere gentili con se stessi

You know how you’re full of understanding toward everyone around you?

Come fate a non giudicarli mai, a dimenticare le loro malefatte, a trovare una giustificazione per il loro cattivo comportamento e a riuscire in qualche modo a perdonarli, qualunque cosa facciate? 

Sai che trovi sempre un modo per confortare gli amici and put a smile back on their face, even when they’re at their lowest?

Come li ascoltate quando ne hanno bisogno e vi assicurate che non si sentano mai in colpa?

Well, why shouldn’t you start treating yourself in the same manner? Why shouldn’t you make a vow to be caring and kind toward yourself more than you are toward others?

Non nascondere le proprie emozioni

In today’s society, showing feelings has become a sign of weakness. Well, let me tell you that it is actually one of the biggest proofs of your inner strength.

It means that you have what it takes to face your emotions, including the ones you don’t like and would prefer not having.

Siete abbastanza coraggiosi da guardarli dritti negli occhi e da affrontarli nel modo più sano possibile. 

That’s why I’m asking you to make a promise that you’ll never try reprimere le emozioni mai più.

I’m not saying that you should allow them to get the best of you or overwhelm you, but please, don’t think they’ll go away if you pretend they don’t exist. 

Lasciare andare la tossicità e la negatività

Un'altra promessa importante da fare è quella di tagliare i ponti con tutti coloro che vi fanno stare male.

Si tratta di smettere con le abitudini e le cose che portano negatività nella vostra vita e di allontanarvi da tutto e da tutti i tossici.

I don’t care how long you have known that friend or whether this is your sibling we’re talking about – if someone brings pessimism and darkness in your life, you have to kick them out of it, or at least reduce your contact to the bare minimum.

You don’t need emotional vampires, liars, cheaters, manipulators, narcissists, and other types of toxic people who are only making you miserable. 

Ascoltare il cuore

I won’t lie to you – going after your heart will probably bring you more than one trouble.

So, you definitely shouldn’t blindly follow it without even taking what your brain has to say into consideration. 

However, please, promise me that you’ll at least listen to its desires and that once in a while, you’ll do exactly what it tells you.

Yes, you might fail, but you’ll know you did exactly what you wanted and that satisfaction will be more than enough. 

Pay more attention to the signals your intuition sends you and be aware that it is rarely mistaken. You don’t always have to do the right thing!

Not to live by other people’s standards

Remember: You don’t depend on anyone, so why should you listen to other people’s opinions?

Hearing out a piece of advice is one thing, but living your own life on someone else’s terms and being a people pleaser is completely different. 

Promise yourself that you’ll stop doing things just because they’re expected of you. That you won’t be worried about fitting in and following some imaginary social standards that serve you no good. 

Don’t you ever forget that you’re the only one who makes the rules – the only one who is responsible for your own life. 

Per celebrare la vita

Per favore, iniziate a godere di ogni respiro che fate.

No, you don’t necessarily have to spend each day like it’s your last and like there is no tomorrow, but at least sometimes, live in the moment and appreciate all of your blessings. 

Siate grati for the fact that you’re alive, healthy, and sane. For the fact that you’re loved and that you have more than enough for a decent life. 

Siate un po' più ottimisti e concentratevi sulle cose belle che vi accadono, invece di rimproverarvi continuamente per quelle brutte. Festeggiate la vita e festeggiate voi stessi!

Rispettare e apprezzare se stessi

In theory, we all demand respect and you’re no exception. However, how can you expect others to give it to you, unless you start respecting yourself first?

That is exactly why I’m here to ask you to promise that you’ll start respecting your time, space, thoughts, desires, and dreams a little more.

That you’ll start respecting yourself as a daughter, sister, friend, woman, and individual.

Giurate di imparare ad apprezzare di più i vostri sacrifici. Smettere di permettere alle persone di darvi per scontati o di approfittarsi di voi. 

Rispettate e apprezzate il vostro corpo e il vostro cuore. Rispettate e apprezzate voi stessi!

Essere felici

Finally, promise yourself that you’ll do everything in your power to make yourself as happy as possible. Because that’s all of our final goal. 

La felicità può avere molti significati, ma ciò che conta è che la sentiate profondamente dentro di voi, qualunque cosa accada.

Be aware that you’re the only creator of your life and the only one who can make herself truly happy, before expecting someone else to do it. 

Make a promise that you’ll never do anything to break your own heart and that you’ll forever remain in pursuit of felicità and inner peace. Because at the end of the day, that’s what counts.