5 maneiras de detetar pessoas egoístas e 5 maneiras de lidar com elas

Já alguma vez se envolveu com alguém egoísta? Se já esteve, sabe como uma coisa destas pode ser um verdadeiro pesadelo.

That is why we’re here to give you a guide on how to identify these types of people and how to handle them most successfully.

Como identificar pessoas egoístas?

As pessoas egoístas estão por todo o lado, embora a maioria delas esconda esta caraterística tóxica de forma sorrateira. No entanto, existem algumas características comuns a quase todas as pessoas egoístas e aqui estão 5 delas.

They’re overly caring

Quando conhecemos uma pessoa tóxica pela primeira vez, ela é normalmente o nosso sonho tornado realidade.

These people are everything you’ve always wanted in a friend or a romantic partner, and at first, you are more than happy for meeting them. And the same goes with selfish people, as well.

At first sight, a selfish person is too good to be true. They’re caring, loving, and friendly, and before you know it, somehow they crawl into your life and become a part of it.

É claro que nem todas as pessoas bondosas acabam por ser idiotas egoístas. No entanto, quando alguém é tóxico Desta forma, mostram as suas verdadeiras cores assim que vêem que estão presos no seu amor e afeto.

They’re possessive

There is one thing all selfish people have in common without exception – they’re all possessive.

They are needy, have trouble understanding that you have other people in your life besides them, and want all of their victim’s attention.

Once they see that they’ve managed to get you, they consider you their prey and aren’t prepared to share you with anyone else.

They know that you are suited for selfish and toxic people who drain all of your energy, and they don’t plan on allowing someone else to start taking advantage of you.

This is especially difficult in a romantic relationship because, at first, you are flattered by the fact that your partner is so crazy about you and doesn’t want to lose you.

Com o tempo, porém, vê-se a razão do seu comportamento e percebe-se que tem muito pouco a ver com amor verdadeiro.

Nunca retribuem os seus esforços

Uma pessoa egoísta nunca porá a mesma quantidade de esforço that you do in your relationship. No matter what, you’ll always be the one giving more and trying more.

Next to them, you’ll constantly feel emotionally neglected and be wanting more of their love and attention.

O pior é que, apesar disso, uma pessoa egoísta consegue, de alguma forma, fazer-se de vítima.

Utilizarão as suas formas sorrateiras para o persuadir a esforçar-se ainda mais para conquistar todo o seu afeto e conseguir que ele lhe devolva o amor que merece.

Falta-lhes empatia

Mesmo antes de alguém nos mostrar as suas verdadeiras cores, podemos detetar o seu egoísmo através do seu comportamento para com outras pessoas e até animais.

These kinds of people have a complete absence of empathy – they can never feel sorry nor happy for someone else.

Selfish people don’t know how to walk in other people’s shoes. They don’t know how to feel others’ misery or joy because they only care about themselves.

So, if you notice that someone close to you isn’t showing any sign of compassion when you guys see a stray animal or when something bad happens in the world, it is a surefire sign they don’t think about anyone besides themselves.

They’re manipulative

Remember one thing: selfish people don’t love you – they aren’t capable of truly loving ninguém! Só gostam de si próprios.

These people are afraid of losing you for everything you’re giving them and for the way you make them feel. They’re actually terrified of the possibility of being alone without anyone to use.

That is exactly why they’ll do everything in their power to keep you around and never let you go.

Usarão a manipulação emocional, a chantagem e tudo o que puderem contra si, só para que se sinta culpado sempre que pensar em abandoná-los.

Como lidar com pessoas egoístas?

Spotting selfish people is a piece of cake if you know what signs you should look out for. However, handling them when they’ve already crawled in your life is much more difficult. But it can be done and here is how.

Accept that you’re involved with someone selfish

Antes de mais, tem de aceitar o facto de que todos à sua volta, incluindo os seus entes mais queridos, podem ter esta caraterística tóxica.

I know it’s hard to accept that the closest member of your family – your parceiro de vida ou o seu melhor amigo – is selfish, but sometimes, you simply have to look the truth in the eyes sooner rather than later.

Em vez de ignorar os sinais, pensando que isso fará com que o problema desapareça por milagre, enfrente-o e faça tudo o que puder para se ajudar a si próprio.

Lembre-se de que qualquer relação com uma pessoa tóxica é emocionalmente desgastante e irá prejudicá-lo a longo prazo.

Começa a amar-te mais

When you’re involved with someone toxic, you have to be aware that this person always puts themselves first, no matter what. And it’s about time you start doing that, too.

Yeah, I know it’s easy for me to tell you to love yourself more, but that is exactly what you need to do. Why do you continue putting someone else’s needs in front of your own, when this person will never stop treating you like their last resort?

You’re not a bad person for prioritizing yourself over someone who doesn’t give a damn about your well-being. Instead of trying to save this selfish person who obviously enjoys their toxicity, do your best to save yourself from them.

Dar-lhes a provar o seu remédio

Sadly, sometimes, the only way to deal with the selfish type is to treat them the same way they’re treating you. This means that you have to show them how it feels to be around someone selfish who only cares about themselves.

It’s time you pay this awful person back for everything they’ve been doing to you.

É altura de começar a cancelar os planos à última hora, quando aparece algo mais conveniente, de os tratar como se fossem o último recurso, de deixar de se importar com os sentimentos deles e de começar a pensar em si.

It’s high time you stand up for yourself and show them that you aren’t anyone’s toy.

By simply doing this and nothing else, you’ll probably chase this selfish person out of your life.

These people can’t stand being around someone they don’t have any advantage over, so it is likely they’ll flee the moment they see they can’t keep on playing with you.

But don’t become like them

No entanto, o que é importante é não nos deixarmos tornar iguais a essa pessoa.

Don’t let them drag you into their toxicity and darkness, and don’t lose faith in all humanity just because you’ve had one lousy experience!

Soltar as amarras

If it happens that you treating this selfish person the way they’ve been treating you doesn’t give you any results and doesn’t chase them away, it’s time for your detachment.

É claro que o ideal seria ir sem contacto , but if this is something you don’t have the strength to do overnight, at least try loosening your ties with this person.

Passe o mínimo de tempo possível com eles, deixe de lhes fazer favores e tente mudar o seu ambiente.

With time, you’ll become strong enough to kick this person out of your life or they’ll walk away by themselves. Either way, you win!