12 textos que ele envia e que revelam a sua personalidade abusiva

As relações abusivas assumem várias formas e, infelizmente, podemos ficar presos numa delas sem sequer nos apercebermos, antes que seja tarde demais.

As mensagens de texto que podem parecer engraçadas e amorosas tornam-se controladoras e abusivas.

A sua necessidade de saber sempre onde estás transforma-se numa perseguição agressiva.

Há certos sinais que revelam a sua personalidade abusiva antes que a diversão e os jogos se transformem num inferno.

Onde estás e com quem??

His constant need to know where you are and with whom shows that he doesn’t trust you even the slightest bit.

He doesn’t really care about your feelings being hurt here, because he needs to ease whatever is going on in his mind.

It’s one thing to show concern for your partner, but demanding constant intel on their life is just disturbing.

You’re going to be in trouble if you don’t answer me now.

He doesn’t care if you’re busy or unable to get hold of your phone and he doesn’t care if you’re asleep, at a meeting or sick; he’s so sure that you’re doing something you shouldn’t that he needs to hear from you the exact moment he texts you.

What’s with those revealing pictures?

If you post a picture on social media wearing anything other than a onesie that’s also covering your face, he hates it.

No matter what you wear, how much make-up you have on your face, or how dressed up you are, he thinks that you’re just showing off your body to lure other men in.

He believes that you’re doing it só para o deixar com ciúmes.

I don’t think you really love me. You never listen to me.

Ele disse-lhe especificamente para lhe ligar às 14 horas, disse-lhe que detesta esse vestido, disse-lhe que quer que esteja em casa quando ele voltar do trabalho.

It’s your fault that there was a traffic jam, it’s your fault that you love that dress that goes great with your eyes, it’s your fault because you don’t listen to him. It’s like you must not even love him.

You can’t go out without me.

Como se atreve a divertir-se sem ele num lugar onde há tantos outros homens?

Como te atreves a comportar-te de forma tão ordinária, quando ele te ama tanto e te dá todo o mundo?

He knows what men truly want and that’s why you can’t go without him.

That’s why he needs to be by your side ALL the time. Because, you know, he just loves you so much.

Será que te preocupas comigo quando fazes planos sem me consultar?

 

You made plans with your girls because you haven’t seen each other for ages. And all of a sudden he’s the hurt one, he’s the ignored one.

He wants to go with you, and you’re forced to choose between bringing him with you to ruin everyone’s night or staying at home and ruining only yours.

O que é que estão a fazer com ele?

You’re on a break with a colleague from work or having a family reunion with a bunch of cousins (and, of course, some are male) and he freaks out because you’re spending time with someone besides him who has balls.

If he’s constantly asking you questions about your relationships with the most random men in your life, then that’s a clear sign that you’re dealing with an abuser.

I don’t think I’m to blame here.

He snapped only because you didn’t listen to him. He snapped because you left without letting him know where you were going, or you weren’t home when he got there.

No matter how hard you try, he always finds a way to make a fuss about something you did wrong (even if you weren’t aware that you did it) and finds a way to blame it on you.

Even my friends think you’re crazy.

Usually, a text like this is followed by some of his crazy demands, because he’s right and you’re wrong.

And even his friends can see that, so how come you can’t?

Ele quer que questiones a tua sanidade mental, porque dessa forma ele pode controlar-te muito mais facilmente.

You can’t talk to him; leave if he goes to the party.

Whether it’s a guy from work, your ex or some friend you have known for ages, he’s so jealous of him that he demands that you leave the moment he gets to the party or even to the bar while you’re hanging out there.

Unless he’s there with you, as that way he can establish dominance over him.

Convince me you’re home. Send me a pic.

A partir do momento em que ele começa a exigir-lhe provas e fotografias, a diversão e os jogos desaparecem.

If you haven’t left before this, then it’s time you finally do. No man is worth losing your freedom for.

We’re breaking up if you do this.

He’s practically blackmailing you into staying with him.

Será que esse tipo de relação vale mesmo a pena?