5 tipos de relações destrutivas que deve evitar a todo o custo
As relações são difíceis. Há as falsas, as tóxicas, as unilaterais e as destrutivas. Quase parece que ser solteiro é a melhor opção, mas pelo simples facto de sabermos que o amor vale a pena, tentamos.
Destructive relationships are not easily spotted. They are filled with negative energy, so much rage and so much blame on the inside, but on the outside, it’s all sprinkles and smiles. They’re perfect looking until the very end, where either one snaps or one leaves. And it’s never a pretty ending.
Ajudar alguém numa relação destrutiva is hard, but if you’re the one who is stuck in such a relationship, run for your life! There’s no point in saving it. There’s no point in staying in it. End it before it ends you!
Emocional
Abuso emocional e mental is the probably one of the worst kinds. This abuse is taking a toll on your mental health, on your confidence and even your sanity. It can vary from undermining your skills, belittling you and your efforts, to manipulations so bad that you no longer know what’s reality and what’s happened in your head.
Ele pode criticá-la ao ponto de se sentir inútil e sortuda por o ter por perto, o que a torna ligada a ele. Pode manipulá-la até ao esquecimento e isolá-la de todos os seus amigos e familiares. Nesse caso, ele será a única pessoa com quem pode contar. O objetivo deste abuso é que ele tenha poder sobre si, sobre as suas emoções e sobre a sua vida.
Se notar alguma destas coisas na sua relação, tente falar com ele. Se ele a culpar ou se chegar ao ponto de a fazer sentir culpada por falar sobre o assunto com ele (o que acontece frequentemente quando se trata deste tipo de abuso), fuja! A situação só vai piorar.
Verbal
Abuse is abuse, even if it’s unintentional. If your partner’s words are hurting you, you need to tell him that. Communication is the key and if it’s something he did accidentally, he will make sure never to do it again. On the other hand, if he blames it on you or he tries to make you feel crazy for feeling hurt, ditch him. Está a lidar com um agressor que usa palavras e jogos em vez de punhos. E como eu disse, abuso é abuso, independentemente da técnica.
Financeiro
The whole idea of abuse is to have control over someone and some abusers find the easiest way to gain that control is financial abuse. Examples of financial abuse are someone taking control over all of the household money or stopping their partner from getting a job so they could have money of their own. The abuser can even take away the access to your bank accounts and credit cards, just so you won’t be able to leave him.
When you have no money, you cannot leave. And that’s perfect way for him to keep you around. And there is even possibility of him making debts on your cards and in your name, which makes it harder for you to get a job later. It’s the perfect way of him screwing up your life, just so he could have control over it. If you notice that there is something off about his demands about money or your working career, be careful! You could be stuck with a financial abuser.
Físico
When someone mentions the word ‘abuse’, this is the first thought that crosses your mind – abuso físico. Even if it’s most obvious one, it’s still deeper than just using strength on someone weaker. It’s about intimidating someone with one’s size and power. When a man corners a much smaller woman, he takes away any chance of her getting away and implants fear in her mind.
No momento em que alguém levanta a mão para si ou para alguém de quem gosta, deixe-o e denuncie-o. Ninguém merece sair com medo do próximo golpe. E não há nada mais doloroso do que ver alguém que amamos recuar quando tentamos abraçá-lo porque está à espera que lhe batamos. It destroys the victim of such a relationship and all people around them. You are seeing them hurt and you can’t do anything about it, except give them your love and time.
Sexual
No means no. No always means no. Regardless if you’re saying it to some dude at the bar, to your date or to your husband. It’s a no. Countries all around the world are making laws to protect women at home because sexual abuse can happen even if you’re married. It’s your right to decide when to have sex and when to not, not anyone else’s. It’s your body, your choice and your mind. Don’t ever let anyone take it away from you!
Unfortunately, not every country in the world is able to protect victims like they deserve to be protected. If you notice that your partner has no respect towards your body or your wishes and desires, he won’t have respect towards your choices either. Abandone essa relação o mais depressa possível porque, nesse caso, o único que o pode proteger é o próprio.
