6 sinais de alerta de que está a forçar a sua relação

 

Cada relação é única, mas existem alguns padrões de comportamento que são susceptíveis de ocorrer em quase todas as relações.

There will always be one person who cares more and the other who cares less (or there’s also a third version where you simply don’t give a fuck which is ‘surprisingly’ linked to men in the majority of cases).

And this state of ‘not caring enough’ is what makes you force your relationship without you even being aware of it.

So, here are 6 signs you should pay attention to if you want to know whether your relationship is warning you that it needs fixing before it’s too late or that it’s time to leave.

1. O romance extinguiu-se

 

You don’t hold hands anymore, you don’t hug or kiss as frequently as you used to do before.

É óbvio que o romance se extinguiu há muito tempo, mas continuas a negar admiti-lo a ti próprio.

When someone asks you about your partner the only thing you can say is that they’re good.

It is evident from the way you speak and your gestures that something’s clearly not right (and those who know you best will recognize it, too).

2. You don’t give a shit about answering their calls anymore

Back then, you used to answer their call the second you heard the ringtone but now you could spend hours listening to your phone repeating the same melody again and again even if it is annoying as fuck because it’s easier to do that than to actually talk to them.

It’s also easier to pretend that you didn’t even hear them calling you (even though you know it’s a lie) just because you’re sick of their voice and you know the whole conversation procedure by heart.

3. Passar tempo com eles tornou-se cansativo

Costumava gostar de praticar vários desportos com eles, de jogar jogos de vídeo em modo multijogador, de cozinhar juntos e de se abraçar, mas agora sente mais prazer em pagar as contas do que em passar tempo com eles.

The idea of being next to each other simply doesn’t appeal to you anymore and when you do spend time together, you only think about the moment when you’re going to part because you don’t enjoy a second of it.

4. You’re skeptical about your future

Back then, you used to devise plans for you both ten years in advance but now you’re totally skeptical about your future.

You don’t see them as someone who will stay with you or whom you’ll introduce to your family.

You’re convinced that their weird habits (that you used to find cute) will haunt you for the rest of your life if you stay with them and you’re scared of this more than you’re scared of death.

Sente-se que o fim está a chegar e que é apenas uma questão de tempo.

5. You’re appalled by their flaws

Acabou-se o rir à gargalhada quando eles fazem algo de invulgar que lhes é caraterístico.

On the contrary, you’re appalled by some things they keep doing but you don’t know how to tell them because you don’t want to offend them.

So, when you see them making a fool out of themselves, you just fake your smile, pretending that they’ve succeeded in fulfilling their duty to make you laugh, after which you hope that your brain will delete what you just saw as soon as possible.

6. You can’t repeat those three words because it feels wrong

Saying those three words comes to your mind so rarely (like hitting the gym) and you don’t even bother with it anymore.

You never say it first now and even when they say it, there’s a two-minute pause where you’re trying hard to find a solution to salvar a si próprio do desconforto que sente no seu estômago.

If you don’t come up with anything smart, you pretend that all of a sudden you have a bad headache or your stomach hurts just to redirect their attention to something else (praying to God that they’ll forget about you not repeating those three words).