6 sinais de que você está mantendo um relacionamento só porque tem medo de ficar solteiro

Não há nada pior do que ficar numa relação que não nos faz felizes

. Mas a maioria de nós já o fez e continuará a fazê-lo, porque não é algo que se faça conscientemente.

You cannot decide that you’re going to stay with that person just because you’re scared of being alone.

Mas as suas acções podem demonstrá-lo, e é a isso que deve prestar atenção.

When love fades away and your passion is gone for good, it’s hard to save your relationship from a possible breakup.

Sometimes it’s doable, but when you see that there is no hope and you still keep trying, you need to ask yourself why you are doing this in the first place.

Is it because of the fear of being single or because you don’t want to believe that your relationship is falling apart?

Here are 6 signs that will help you decipher whether you’re staying in a relationship just because you’re scared of being single.

Your partner doesn’t make you happy anymore

Esta é a mais importante. Se sentir que o seu parceiro simplesmente não consegue fazer-vos felizes anymore, the chances are that you’re still with them just because you don’t want to be single.

Especially if your partner is trying hard to satisfy your every need, but you simply don’t enjoy it anymore, it means it’s time to move on.

Quando é necessário forçar algo para que seja funcional, isso significa que precisa de ser reparado ou eliminado.

And if you’ve already tried everything and you’re aware that your partner bores you and you’re not interested in them anymore, you should consider leaving them for good because your happiness should be your number one priority.

Queixa-se do seu parceiro aos outros

If you find yourself constantly complaining about your partner to others, it means you’re not happy with them, and there’s no point in staying with them only to gossip about them.

If their habits all of a sudden irritate you, it means you’re no longer comfortable in their company, and you no longer like them for who they are.

Quando gostamos realmente de alguém e queremos estar com essa pessoa, achamos os seus hábitos e peculiaridades divertidos e não irritantes, e essa é a maior diferença entre estar apaixonado e ter medo de a deixar.

You’re constantly daydreaming

Daydreaming about a better future or about another partner is an alarming sign that you’re staying with your current partner only out of fear of ser solteiro.

When we’re daydreaming, we’re contemplatingall of the things that we would want to improve or discard in order to be truly happy.

We’re daydreaming because we are unhappy with our reality / our partner, and we do it as an escape from what we are unable to do—and that is breaking up with them and moving on for good.

In this case, you need to realize that you’re only postponing the inevitable.

Não se consegue imaginar solteiro

Qual é a primeira coisa que lhe vem à cabeça quando pensa em acabar com o seu parceiro?

É a sensação de solidão ou a sensação de liberdade?

If the first thing that pops into your mind is feeling alone, chances are you’re staying in the relationship because you don’t want to feel alone.

Another indicator is if you’re appalled by the thought of dating again.

You’re trying hard to change your partner

It’s totally normal not to be 100% satisfied with your partner, but it’s totally different if you’re constantly trying hard to change them.

If you’re doing this, it means you don’t want them. You want another version of them that has nothing to do with who they really are.

Quer outra pessoa que se adapte às suas necessidades e que a possa fazer feliz, porque é óbvio que não está feliz com o seu parceiro atual.

Instead of changing your partner, you should consider changing your views on the situation you’re in.

You’re not enjoying your own company

Do you feel extreme loneliness when you’re by yourself? Do you find it hard to enjoy your own company?

If yes, this could mean that you’re still with your partner just because you don’t have the guts to go your separate ways.

If you’re not enjoying your own company, it means you’re scared of or you don’t know how to be alone with yourself, and that is why you choose to stay in a decayed relationship instead of breaking free from it.

Don’t be afraid to spend time on your own. Enjoy yourself.

Ama-te a ti próprio porque antes de amar outra pessoa, devemos ser capazes de nos aceitar como somos e apreciar o tempo que passamos sozinhos.