8 maneiras de fazer com que ele perceba que você realmente se importa com ele, mesmo que não consiga dizer isso

Three-words-eight-letters—que desafio! For some reason, it’s one of the hardest phrases to say. This doesn’t mean you don’t love or don’t care about that guy you have been crazy about for the last few months, but something makes you think you are too bashful to say it out loud, or you are too afraid to be seen as a vulnerable person, ou convence-se de que não está em posição de dizer nada sobre os seus sentimentos.

Ninguém a pode obrigar a usar estas três palavras, mas, com sorte, há muitas outras formas de provar que gosta dele de qualquer maneira.

Uma palavra é uma palavra, um som é um som, mas o que realmente importa são as diferentes coisas que dizemos e coisas que faz que demonstrem a vossa intenção e atenção para com aquele homem que sinceramente adoram.

1. Seja você mesmo

Don’t ask yourself if you give enough to him or not. You should never try comparing what you give versus what you get. This is obvious as it has to be a fair game. But if it sounds natural for you to be there for the one you are attached to, anytime he needs you, anytime he asks for you—porque é que agiria de uma forma diferente?

2. Dê-lhe algum do seu tempo

Reserve tempo para ele, sobretudo se é isso que quer. Arranje tempo para se encontrar com ele quando não estiver a escrever-lhe no momento; quando não estiver a pensar nele no momento.

Is it dependence if you feel the need to see him just to brighten your days – se não os seus dias – and if you can barely spend a day without seeing him in person?

Well, it’s called having a deep, deep, deep affection. It’s all good if you and him are on the same wavelength and have similar expectations from this relationship that is yours.

3. Estar atento e partilhar os seus melhores conselhos

Listen to him when he needs to vent to you and don’t mind giving him tips when he asks for your help. Always make sure to explain things carefully and completely. Thus, there is no misunderstanding, and nobody ends up being hurt.

Go out of your way when you know he really needs you at a specific moment. It’s fair to do so because he would probably do the same for you.

4. Agradece-lhe e diz-lhe que

Thank him—for what he does, for what he gives you, for what he says to you, and for who he is. Why? Throughout your life you meet a wide range of different people. Some treat you like kings and queens, others treat you like—nothing. So, when you recognize that that guy does respect you and the person you are, it sounds logical to thank him.

5. Fala com os teus olhos

Like you probably heard before, eyes are windows to the soul. Thus, look at him in the most genuine way you would ever do. Look at him in awe if you feel like it, but don’t be afraid if he sees it in your eyes. Por que razão haveria de ter medo de amar ou de mostrar o seu amor? It’s a bit like making things complicated when they can actually be way more simple.

6. A sua comunicação é a sua melhor ferramenta

Your words regarding your feelings for him should be naturally nice, kind, supportive, positive, and overall, honest when it comes the time to interact with him. Yes, most of your deeds (like your messages) should be wonderfully sweet, but don’t remain silent if you need to let him know something. Don’t shut it up just for his sake.

Caring about him means also being real with him, so dare to say something when something needs to be said. However, do pay attention to the way you articulate your thoughts. You need to scrupulously pick the good words because you don’t want to hurt him on purpose.

Esforce-se sempre mais se sentir que a relação está a atravessar uma zona de turbulência. Como? Fale; abra o jogo de uma forma inteligente e calma; mas tente não gritar. A paciência é uma coisa difícil de manter, mas quando a usamos, poupamos muito. Poupa-se a sua energia, salva a sua mente e salva a sua relação.

7. Ter conversas profundas sobre vocês os dois

You care about that relationship, thus you care about its terms and its future. That’s when you need to play it fair by preventing him from the eventual reactions or situations that could happen—the harsh ones, the ones that could hurt your bonds, the ones nobody likes to talk about but are still a part of the real world.

This doesn’t mean that you don’t trust him, that you don’t believe in the relationship you share with him, it means you know what it is and what it takes to handle a sincere relationship.

Porque é que faria isso? To make sure you’re not going to be a part of all these people who cut a relationship off because they couldn’t go through some various crises. A relationship lasts if both parts work together, because yes, it’s teamwork. Thus you need to talk about you two.

8. Pede-lhe esse favor

You need to ask him to stop you if you go too far, if you ever hurt him, if you ever offend him—because chances are, you never meant to do so. Because you are a person, you make mistakes and it’s alright. It’s human nature. Everybody does it, and he may do it as well, but if you don’t want to mess anything with him, you should ask him that favor.

In the end, you may not be the only one to be scared to pronounce the Three-words-eight-letters sentence or to use the specific words to share your feelings with him. This especially during the first months. It is worthwhile to try to make any relationship last, and depending on the way you will invest yourself in it, you can make it work—é absolutamente possível fazê-lo funcionar.

por Mathilde Clemence Personne