9 sinais de que ele gosta de você (mas tem medo de ser rejeitado)

Os homens não são assim tão subtis quando se trata deles a cair por si. Which is, let’s be honest, a good thing.

Mas mesmo quando temos todos os sinais de que gostam mesmo de nós, quando todas as nossas namoradas o disseram, ele continua preso no mesmo sítio e dar um passo é tão impossível como ir para o espaço.

So, we end up wondering if maybe it’s us, if maybe he’s not attracted to us after all. We are wondering could it be that we have misread the signs.

But, trust me ladies, it’s not us. Looking for sinais de que ele gosta de si é tão fácil como procurar um Hulk na discoteca.

Men are so obvious to everyone except the woman that’s attracted to them. Yes, love has a way of making us blind.

Mas e os homens que não são tão óbvios? E os homens que a tratam de uma forma especial, mas não tão especial?

Homens que te fazem sentir como uma deusa com elogios e te chamam ‘buddy’ no minuto seguinte.

Then, it’s time to look for sinais de que ele gosta de simas ele só tem medo da rejeição.

Porque, como vê, todos os homens têm três medos principais: o medo da irrelevância, da desilusão e da rejeição.

Os homens têm medo de desiludir as mulheres, especialmente aquelas de quem gostam verdadeiramente.

He will seem like the toughest of them all, but deep down, he will go crazy trying to figure out why you’re suddenly sad. Another fear that breaks them is feeling irrelevant.

Men hate feeling like a piece of furniture or a walking paycheck in a relationship, so naturally, if they’re treated that way, they will treat you back the same.

Ou vai simplesmente afastar-se, procurando relevância noutro lugar.

And lastly, fear of rejection. You can say it’s both of the fears before combined.

Tem medo que o seu charme e trabalho não sejam reconhecidos, que o desiluda de alguma forma.

E esta é também a razão pela qual os homens adoram as mulheres que iniciam encontros e coisas nas relações.

Não há como enfrentar a rejeição e dificilmente haverá um homem que a rejeite, a não ser que esteja comprometido.

It’s completely natural that he is taking some time to see if you are feeling the same as he does, to see whether you really want to go out before he pops the question.

Because, no matter how thick-skinned you believe they are, they’re not.

Qualquer rejeição dói, independentemente do nível de compromisso ou de embriaguez.

Arde e queima a sua confiança como ácido. Por isso, para aliviar as suas preocupações, reunimos sinais de que ele gosta mesmo de ti, even if he still hasn’t made a move.

Linguagem corporal

This is something he can’t really control. His words could be distant and cold, but his body will tell you a whole different story.

You will catch him more than once looking at you with that look—you know which one.

Assim que o apanhar, ele vai desviar o olhar ou vai continuar a olhar porque os homens são criaturas visuais. Quando gostam de alguma coisa, olham para ela. E muito. Por isso, este é de facto um bom sinal de que ele gosta de si (mas tem medo). Contacto visual prolongado nunca é uma coincidência.

Another cue to look for is the way he behaves around you. If he seems nervous and keeps on fixing his appearance (hair, tie, shirt etc.), that’s because he wants to look his best for you and he wants to charm you off of your feet.

E o medo da desilusão está a deixá-lo nervoso, pelo que pode estar a mexer muito com os dedos.

Até parece que ele se esqueceu de como as usar. O corpo dele estará sempre virado para si e ele inclinar-se-á para mais perto de si.

He will also find any excuse to touch you. Whether it’s a strand of hair that got lost on your face or to touch your back while you’re sitting down.

To him, you’re like the strongest magnet he simply can’t resist. And to be honest, he’s not even trying.

Ele também sorri muito. No momento em que entrar na sala, um sorriso estúpido estará estampado na sua cara de orelha a orelha.

When we’re spending time with someone we are interested in, we are happy.

Nervous and nauseous maybe, but still happy. It’s the same with him spending time with you.

His face will light up when he sees you and his eyes will smile. That’s a genuine reaction to you which he cannot fake.

Enquanto os sorrisos falsos se ficam pela boca, o seu ilumina toda a sala, não apenas o rosto.

Ele enaltece-se e fala de si próprio

He will smell his best, fix his hair and dress better than usual. This one is easy to catch on to if you’ve seen him with his friends.

If he is not trying so hard with them but you can see he tried hard for you, that’s the only sign you really need.

He will fix his appearance while you’re around all the time. Fix his tie, his jacket or pop a breath mint in his mouth.

He wants to be the best version of himself, so he can show you that he’s actually worth it.

While we’re at the best version of him, he will talk himself up. He will keep on talking about how he is successful at his job but not in a douche, asshole, arrogant kind of a way.

He will give you enough info for you to know what it is about, but not too much to smother you—often called, ‘humble bragging’.

On the other hand, if he’s talking about himself and nothing but himself in that ‘I’m-the-best-one-out-there’ kind of tone, it’s time for you to back away.

Ele não passa de um narcisista and that’s not someone you really want to have in your life.

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Ele aceita qualquer toque

While he’s trying to find a way to touch you, how does he react when you touch him? Does he flinch or move away when you touch him? Or he’s relaxed and actually enjoys when you do it? This is a big sign that he likes you because he would move away if he didn’t.

Pay attention to the subtle moves he makes. If your legs are touching and he doesn’t move his away, he’s more than okay with touching you.

Or if your high five or handshake lasts longer than the usual ones do, maybe it’s time for something little bit more intimate than that?

BUT. With this one, you need to look at the bigger picture. If he’s moving away but you know that he is shy, that doesn’t have to be a sign he doesn’t like you. It could simply be saying that he’s just too shy to make a move.

Ou, se sabe que ele é um jogador, pode estar a receber toques de qualquer mulher que ande por aí.

Veja sempre o quadro geral em vez das pequenas partes. Repare na forma como os dois se movem juntos e na química que existe entre os dois.

His phone is nonexistent while he’s with you

This one is really important and goes both ways. My friends always say that they can notice when I’m in love just by looking at where is my phone when I’m with the guy.

Devido ao ritmo e à forma como vivemos as nossas vidas atualmente, os nossos telefones são um mal necessário.

São tudo aquilo de que precisamos e que é essencial à nossa existência. Infelizmente, mas são.

If you notice that he didn’t even get his phone out of his pocket while sitting with you, there are no worries that you desperdiça o seu tempo com ele. A sua atenção está inteiramente centrada em si; parece que não existe mais ninguém para além de si.

Like the whole world disappeared to him and you’re the only thing that’s left.

E mesmo que receba chamadas telefónicas ou mensagens de texto, trata-as rapidamente e pede desculpa várias vezes.

To him, you are more interesting than thousands of phones and that’s something worth fighting for.

Honestly, as someone who is addicted to the phone—and I rarely drop it out of my arms—if a man is amazing enough to make me leave my phone, that’s the kind of a man I’m willing to do anything for. And it’s the same for men too.

Ele provoca-o

This is a great way for him to check the ground, to see if you’re up for something a little bit more than just goofing around or hanging out as friends.

Ele provoca-o de forma divertida ou empurra-o ligeiramente, apenas para manter o ambiente leve e descontraído.

Plus, it’s a great way to make an excuse for touching you. Men don’t ever really grow up.

From pulling your ponytail to teasing you about the stain on your shirt, it’s all about game and finding a way to your heart through smiles and laughter.

Outra forma de provocação é ele brincar com o facto de gostar de si. Esta é uma óptima maneira de os homens que têm medo da rejeição lidarem com os seus sentimentos e verem qual é a sua posição em relação a si.

Muitos homens que são tímidos ou têm medo da rejeição brincam com o facto de estarem juntos com a pessoa exacta com quem querem estar.

Nunca o ouvirás a brincar sobre isso com outras mulheres, acredita em mim.

Desta forma, mesmo que a rejeição aconteça, ele pode dizer que foi só diversão e jogos, sem sentimentos.

Se encontrar este sinal juntamente com outros da lista, não precisa de procurar mais.

Ele quer conhecer-te

E quero dizer, conhecer-te mesmo. Ele não está interessado nas coisas que dizes a toda a gente quando estás a conversar.

He is interested in dreams you’re dreaming and passions you’re following. And he will truly enjoy listening to you while you’re talking.

Ele lembrar-se-á de todas as pequenas coisas que mencionou antes e perguntar-lhe-á sobre elas.

And even if you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself all the time, with him it won’t be the case.

You are the one person he wants to spend all of his free time with and you don’t have to look for any signs to prove this one.

If he’s texting you and calls you to go out all the time, not because he wants something from you but because he just wants to spend some time with you, he is interested in you.

If you know that he’s not going out of his way for anyone else and that he’s even cancelling some of the plans he already made just so he could be with you, it not because he is a great friend.

It’s because he really likes you and wants to move things to the next level, but he is just demasiado tímido para avançar.

Ele faz-lhe elogios únicos

I don’t mean those ‘You’re pretty/hot/smoking’ kind of compliments but rather the compliments where he actually looks at you and sees you.

He noticed how your eyes change the color in the sunlight and how they’re gloomy when it’s raining.

He noticed how your face lights up when you see Marvel-themed anything and he’s even sending you Marvel memes to bring a smile to your face.

Ele reparou como és espirituoso e admira o teu trabalho árduo e a tua mente brilhante.

He’s not spending time with you just because you’re good-looking.

He’s doing it because he enjoys talking with you and listening to you, not just looking at you.

And you know that when he gives you a compliment, that’s not something he usually does.

Consegue-se mesmo sentir isso nas entranhas. Ou ele começa logo a corar ou muda de assunto o mais depressa possível.

He’s not comfortable with being vulnerable around you and that’s exactly the time when he is open to you.

Ele reparou em algo que nem toda a gente vê e ele sabe-o, mas deixou-se levar pelo momento e escorregou.

So, he will try to step away from it as soon as possible and that’s a sign he has feelings stronger than just as ‘a friend’.

Ele é muito protetor

He makes sure that you got home safe and sound and checks on you how you’re doing after a crazy night out.

E mesmo que estivesses a trabalhar no turno da noite, ele ficava acordado até tarde, fazendo-te companhia pelo telefone, certificando-se de que estavas bem.

When you’re walking, he makes sure that you’re walking on the safer side of the sidewalk and no matter what happens, he is always there.

The moment you call him, he picks up his phone. The moment you tell him that you’re upset, he is already looking for a solution to the problem and trying to figure things out so you get better soon.

He goes out of his way to make sure you are doing okay, to make sure that you’re safe and protected.

And it’s highly possible that he is protecting you even though he’s not making a move.

This is because he’s not sure about your feelings and he’s worried that you’ll cut him out of your life when he makes a move.

Or, he thinks that he’s not worthy of you. He is happy with just being around you and doing whatever it takes to keep you protected.

Assim, ele mantém os seus sentimentos fora do radar e faz-te feliz como amiga. Se há sentimentos da sua parte, certifique-se de que ele sabe.

You’re the only one he wants to spend time with

Even if his schedule is tight, he still finds time for you. Whether he and you are going out with the rest of your friends or alone, it seems like you’re the only one there.

A atenção dele está toda centrada em si e é só consigo que ele se preocupa neste momento.

Se estiver mais alguém consigo, ele senta-se ao seu lado e continua a provocá-la com piadas internas, fazendo parecer que são um casal.

Mas no momento em que alguém o menciona, ele ri-se ou faz piadas sobre o assunto.

Ele aproveitará a oportunidade para verificar a sua reação e agir de acordo com ela, evitando ao mesmo tempo a hipótese de ser rejeitado.

E, no momento em que lhe telefonar, ele vai esvaziar a sua agenda só para si, mesmo que isso signifique ficar acordado o resto da noite, a terminar o trabalho que tem para fazer.

Ele pode ter medo de ficar com o coração quebrado mais uma vez, se ele teve uma separação desagradável no passado.

Or he’s simply afraid of rejection if he never had any luck in love. The important thing is that you let him know where he stands.

If you want him just as a friend, it’s up to you to decide if you want to keep him around or cut him loose so he can get over it. But, if you want something more, go for it girl!