Homens que precisam de atenção feminina constante: 7 sinais, porquês e dicas
Buscador de atenção (substantivo): Publicar várias selfies por dia (leia-se: implorar por gostos nas redes sociais), procurar elogios, namoriscar com toda a gente.
Gender stereotyping states that women are the ones who seek more attention than men in real life and on social media. We can’t know if this is true for sure, but one thing definitely is:
Os homens também podem ser culpados de serem maníacos por atençãoe não se trata de algo que deva estar relacionado com o género. Posso confirmar que sair com homens que precisam de atenção constante das mulheres pode ser muito frustrante e, muitas vezes, é um grito de INSECURAÇÃO.
Por vezes, estas inseguranças têm origem na infância (por exemplo, quando se é criado numa família disfuncional), ou são traços narcísicos.
Verdade seja dita, there are more reasons why a guy would seek constant female attention, and we’ll talk about that later. First, let’s focus on defining guys who need constant female attention, including the signs they exhibit.
A minha experiência com homens que precisam de atenção feminina constante
Antes de passarmos aos sinais de que os rapazes estão a ser pessoas que procuram atenção, I have a strong urge to share my personal experience regarding them. Here’s a fun fact:
Most of these guys will desperately be looking for attention and then act like they’re annoyed by you paying them attention.
For example, one of these guys once told me: “I no longer enjoy it when people shower me with too much attention.” Ten seconds later, he tells me this: “I guess you didn’t notice that I have a new haircut.”
Seriously? If you’re sick of people paying you attention, then why are you fishing for compliments? ? Well, that was a minor thing probably unworthy of mentioning. What really bothered me most was his tendency to flirt with everyone around him.
Independentemente de estarmos no café, na mercearia ou no parque, ele encontrava sempre uma forma de namoriscar com outras mulheres. He’d do it in a sneaky way (e.g., ask them what time it is, play with their child only to start a conversation, or just smile at them).
So, when you tell a guy like this that you’ve had enough of his attention-seeking “sickness,” guess what he’s likely to reply? “WOMAN, YOU’RE OVERREACTING.”
Ele quase me convenceu algumas vezes de que eu estava a imaginar coisas e a exagerar, mas quando falei com as minhas amigas, elas apenas confirmaram o que eu já sabia.
Os homens que precisam de atenção feminina constante nunca conseguirão comprometer-se totalmente consigo devido à sua sede de atenção constante. procura de validação and admiration from others. Eventually, you’ll get cansado de implorar por atenção e estar nessa situação de limbo.
Escusado será dizer que namorar com rapazes que precisam de atenção feminina constante é um grande contrassenso, MAS nem toda a esperança está perdida para cada um deles. Alguns rapazes decidem realmente trabalhar os seus problemas de autoestima, auto-valorização e saúde mental em geral.
But the most important thing is that they need to be persistent when it comes to these matters. Only then will there be a brighter prospect in dating them. To help you figure out whether you’re dating one of these guys, keep reading.
7 sinais de que o seu homem é um verdadeiro caçador de atenções
Ele é ou não é um daqueles tipos que precisam de atenção feminina constante, também conhecido como um "attention seeker"? Bem, se a maior parte dos seguintes sinais se adequarem a ele, então sabe que ele pertence ao grupo dos que procuram atenção.
1. Exagerar nas selfies
Gym selfies, party selfies, job selfies… There’s not a day that goes by when he hasn’t posted a few selfies of himself, be it at the gym or at home.
That’s his number one way of seeking constant attention from other people. He’s feeding off other people’s likes, comments, etc.
Sempre que publica uma selfie, recebe um tiro nas redes sociais cheio de entusiasmo e esperança nos gostos que se aproximam.
Overdoing selfies has become a problem, but he’s not aware of it. If you tell him that he’s overdoing it, he’ll most likely contradict you.
2. It’s ALL about him
If you start retelling a story of something that happened to you recently, he’ll immediately tell you that he had it worse than you. Whatever the situation, he always finds a way to make it about him.
It’s clear he can never get enough attention from others, which is the biggest red flag. E se começar pedir a sua atenção, you’ll be disappointed because he’s too busy seeking attention from others.
If you go shopping, he’ll try on several outfits only for you to pay him compliments on his appearance. When you try on a few outfits yourself, he won’t even bother to look until you ask him. Even then, he’ll probably be busy taking selfies.
3. A pesca de elogios e louvores é o seu jogo favorito
Por cada pequena coisa que faz ou por cada pequena mudança na sua aparência, procura elogios e louvores dos outros. Isto acontece tanto na vida real como nas redes sociais.
He’ll often intrusively say something like: Gostam da minha nova T-shirt? Viste o que fiz com o meu cabelo?
Quando publica fotografias suas nas redes sociais, certifica-se frequentemente de que adiciona hashtags como #novo penteado #camisa fixe #rocando este fato, etc.
He does this to ensure that others notice and compliment him. Most importantly, he does this to be the center of attention because that’s his lifestyle.
4. A obsessão com os seguidores nas redes sociais é real
His main goal on social media is to have as many followers as possible. The more people he has, the more attention he’ll get from them, right?
This obsession with social media followers is serious because he’s keeping track of people who unfollow him. Pode também contar com ele para deixar de te seguir para chamar a atenção.
You often catch him talking rubbish about those who unfollowed him or those who don’t pay him enough attention on social media.
His obsession is real, and it’s becoming a problem in your relationship. It feels like he’s stuck in the virtual world of likes, followers, and everything else that goes with it.
5. A obsessão com a sua própria aparência também é uma coisa
If he’s not the center of attention, then something’s not right. His obsession with his appearance doesn’t have limits.
Pede frequentemente a sua opinião sobre a barba, o penteado, a roupa, os sapatos, etc. Passa mais tempo em frente ao espelho do que a falar consigo. Então, sabe-se quão séria é a sua obsessão pela aparência.
He’s constantly focused on upgrading his appearance in the hope of receiving more compliments from others. When you go to a party, he needs to be the best dressed because he wouldn’t survive being in the shadow of other guys.
6. Doesn’t shy away from flirting with EVERYONE
Seeking the attention of others gives him life, and because of that, he doesn’t shy away from flirting with literally everyone. Guys who need constant female attention behave exactly like that.
Normalmente, há duas opções:
• You can ignorá-lo para chamar a sua atenção.
• You can pretend that this doesn’t bother you.
Se lhe disseres que isso te incomoda, prepara-te para uma lavagem cerebral séria, porque ele nunca admitiria a sua busca de atenção.
In my opinion, everything starts with flirting. Soon he’ll find himself guilty of trair ao telefone e infidelidade emocional que muitas vezes se converte num caso físico.
7. Mudanças de humor frequentes
If he doesn’t get enough attention from others, he becomes nervous. Think of it like he’s addicted to comportamento de procura de atenção, and when he doesn’t get his dose, he enters crisis mode.
Controlar as alterações de humor is not an easy thing to do, especially for these personalities. If you tell him to come to his senses, he’ll act confused and try to justify his behavior.
Estar numa relação com frequentes mudanças de humor é um desafio para todos. A sua atenção já não está centrada na vossa relação, mas no comportamento de procura de atenção dele.
Well, even mood swings are probably his way of asking for attention. Wherever you turn, he gets what he wants, and you’re the one who feels neglected.
6 causas mais comuns da procura de atenção
Some of the main causes of attention-seeking are low self-esteem, jealousy, loneliness, and narcissistic personality disorder. Below you’ll find a list of the most common causes of attention-seeking explained in-depth.
1. Baixa autoestima
A falta de amor-próprio e de autoestima pode tornar as pessoas desesperadas por atenção e validação. Normalmente, homens com baixa autoestima são aqueles que namoriscam com quase todas as mulheres que conhecem.
Elas querem sentir-se desejadas e necessárias por outras mulheres e não apenas por si. Having low self-esteem is a tricky thing because it forces you to do things you normally wouldn’t.
In most cases, those guys are not even aware of what they’re doing. They just know that to them, it feels right because they’re getting what they desperately need: ATTENTION.
We’re talking about selfish acts toward their partners because they pay more attention to others than them.
2. Inveja
Este tipo de pessoa que procura atenção é um dos mais pessoas tóxicas por aí. Procurar a atenção dos outros é uma das coisas que os homens fazem para nos deixar com ciúmes.
In other words, they kill two birds with one stone. By making you jealous, they’ll get attention from both you and the women they’re flirting with. Uma dose dupla de atenção irá certamente satisfazer as suas necessidades.
Truth be told, guys do this when they’re jealous of others as well. They’ll seek constant validation and attention from you only to make sure that you’re still into them.
If he sees you talking to another guy he’s not fond of, he’ll immediately enter the attention-seeking zone.
3. A solidão
A solidão e o tédio são os dois principais culpados pelas muitas coisas estúpidas que as pessoas fazem. Uma delas é, naturalmente, a procura de atenção.
Por solidão, ele optará por publicar várias selfies, mudar frequentemente o penteado e fazer outras coisas que lhe dêem gostos e elogios.
So, his favorite method of curing his loneliness is fishing for compliments. It doesn’t matter if it’s a random person complimenting him or someone he knows.
O que importa é que ele já não se sente sozinho porque as pessoas estão a reparar nele. (Ou tudo isso é apenas na cabeça dele).
4. Perturbação da personalidade narcisista
Todos sabemos que o narcisismo consiste em pensar apenas nas suas próprias necessidades e tentar obter o máximo possível dos outros e do seu parceiro.
Bem, uma perturbação da personalidade narcisista também está relacionada com a procura de atenção.
It’s when your partner doesn’t care about how you feel emotionally or physically. Instead, he’s 100% invested in himself. Abuso narcísico numa relação pode prejudicar seriamente o seu bem-estar.
5. Perturbação da personalidade limítrofe
Uma perturbação da personalidade limítrofe é sobre ter uma autoimagem distorcida, impulsividade e más relações interpessoais. Sentimentos de vazio e comportamentos auto-destrutivos estão também associados a esta perturbação.
Uma autoimagem distorcida pode obrigar estas pessoas a procurar constantemente a atenção dos outros, porque lhes falta autoestima e amor-próprio.
Sometimes, they’ll seek attention just because they’re bored or feeling impulsive.
6. Perturbação histriónica da personalidade
People with this type of disorder feel underappreciated when they’re not the center of attention. Hence they constantly feel a strong urge to seek attention in all kinds of circumstances.
Para isso, recorrem muitas vezes a comportamentos provocadores, ao drama, à acentuação da sua aparência, etc. Having histrionic personality disorder means being unpredictable and constantly seeking new ways of catching other people’s attention.
Como é que se lida com um parceiro que procura a atenção?
A forma mais eficaz de lidar com um parceiro que procura atenção é dar-lhe a atenção necessária e ter uma conversa com ele.
Dealing with an attention-seeking partner (be it male or female) can be really draining. If your guy is seeking attention from other females, most of the time, you’ll feel neglected. However, here are some things you can do to alleviate his attention-seeking tendencies:
• Give him the needed attention
Sometimes, people start seeking attention elsewhere because they’re not getting enough of it from their partners. To keep this from happening, give him the needed attention but don’t overdo it.
Also, expect him to reciprocate. If he continues seeking other women’s attention (e.g., flirting with them) even though you’re giving him enough attention, then have a talk with him.
• Support his positive traits
If he has low self-esteem, make sure to praise his positive traits from time to time. This might help boost his confidence. If he’s good at something, make sure to acknowledge it.
Quando ele fizer algo por si, exprima a sua gratidão. Tudo isto lhe dará a atenção de que necessita e fá-lo-á sentir-se valorizado.
• Have a talk
Se tudo o resto falhar, pode sempre ter uma conversa com ele. Diga-lhe honestamente como o comportamento dele a faz sentir.
If he’s constantly flirting with other women in front of you or fishing for compliments, let him know that this should change.
Perhaps he just needs someone to redirect him because he got stuck in attention-seeking land. Once he’s out, you can expect things to change.
4 razões legítimas pelas quais namorar pessoas que procuram atenção não é uma boa ideia
Being with someone who is in constant need of attention and admiration is extremely challenging. If you’re not sure whether you should date one, here are four legit reasons why you shouldn’t. Let’s be honest. There are more reasons why you shouldn’t than you should, right? ?
1. As discussões constantes são inevitáveis
Estar com homens que precisam de atenção feminina constante dificultará a formação de uma relação saudável. Porquê? Porque a discussão constante tornar-se-á a vossa vida quotidiana.
From my experience, it’s like you’re in a relationship with a 5-year-old guy. The more you try to explain that he’s overdoing it by seeking attention, the more annoyed he gets.
Either that or he becomes indifferent only to prove to you that you’re the one who’s wrong here. Em suma, estar numa relação com um tipo como este significa, sem dúvida, muitas discussões (sobretudo sobre pequenas coisas).
2. He’ll prioritize attention-seeking more than you
Given that he requires a lot of attention, he’ll prioritize that more than spending time with you. Regardless of whether he is seeking the attention of the opposite sex or male attention, the consequences are similar.
O meu conselho para si: Don’t fight for his attention. If you do, he’ll most likely take you for granted. If seeking attention is more important to him than spending quality time with you, then he’s not worthy of your time.
3. You’ll constantly feel like you’re not good enough
Apart from the fact that your love life will be dysfunctional, you will also constantly feel like you’re não é suficientemente bom. Quando um homem procura continuamente a atenção de outras mulheres, isso pode prejudicar seriamente a sua autoestima.
Most of the time, you’ll think that you’re the one to blame and that something’s not right with you.
Durante este processo, pode até recorrer à mendicidade para obter a atenção dele. Lembre-se que uma mulher forte nunca implora por atenção. That’s why you’re better off without him, so don’t even bother dating him.
4. Os que procuram atenção são frequentemente batoteiros
Yes, attention seekers are human beings after all, but they’re also often batoteiros. Tudo começa com tentativas triviais de flirt, e depois acaba num caso.
The main cause of this is their need to seek attention. Since they get addicted to it, they don’t know when to stop. No, I’m not trying to justify their cheating tendencies but just to clarify things.
Attention seekers are often cheaters, so why bother even dating one of them? I’m not saying you shouldn’t try, but if your gut tells you that you shouldn’t, then listen to it.
If He’s Not Willing To Work On Himself, Move On!
Nope, not all hope is lost for guys who need constant female attention. Some of them are willing to work on themselves, and that’s the only valid reason you should give them a chance.
If your loved one isn’t interested in dealing with their attention-seeking issues or seeking professional help, then my advice is to move on.
As you’re moving on, you can also think about what attracted you to him in the first place so that you can self-reflect. Also, remember that it takes two to make a relationship work.
If they aren’t willing to cooperate and acknowledge that they have a problem, move on and save yourself from such a relationship. Fazer com que um homem mereça toda a sua atenção.
