Ele está atraído por mim ou está apenas a ser simpático? 12 maneiras de saber se ele está interessado
Ele sente-se atraído por mim ou está apenas a ser simpático?
I bet this is a question that popped into your mind at least once when you liked a guy but you hit a dead-end street because you didn’t know how to react or what to do.
Sometimes it’s just hard to decide whether a o homem gosta de si ou se ele está apenas a ser simpático consigo.
The signals he is sending are so confusing because they are easy to interpret wrongly. You just can’t seem to decide what he’s actually thinking.
Lucky for you there’s one way to always know what he’s thinking. Girls usually don’t know anything about this, but if you uncover A sua obsessão secreta, he’ll be 100% yours.
To set you free of that eternal struggle of whether he likes you or not, I’m going to try to solve this once and for all.
Em primeiro lugar, deixem de colocar a questão de se ele se sente atraído por si ou simplesmente ser simpático e ler os sinais reais sem ser tendencioso ou desejar que os sinais trabalhem a seu favor.
But before we start with actual signs that he’s interested and not only being nice, read the heartbreaking signs that he really doesn’t want to have anything to do with you and he is just being polite, trying to let you know in a nice way that he’s not interested.
Mas não se preocupe, pode conseguir o homem que quiser com A sua obsessão secreta – a guide that helps you win him over even if he wasn’t initially interested in you.
Sinais de que ele não se sente atraído por si
1. He doesn’t want to hang out with you
Vê que ele está a evitar passar tempo consigo.
He probably doesn’t want to blow you off so obviously, so he is trying to let you know that he is not interested in a more subtle way.
Even when you are alone together, it doesn’t feel comfortable, as his body language is telling you that he doesn’t look at you in that way.
2. He is not so interested in what you’ve got to say
A guy who likes you won’t allow himself not to notice anything that you say.
Ele vai ouvi-la e prestar atenção porque, se gostar de si, fará tudo para se lembrar dos seus interesses e das histórias que conta.
If he likes you, he will genuinely be interested in what you’ve got to say because you are the one who is interesting.
3. Ele fala de outras mulheres à sua frente
A guy who likes you wouldn’t talk about other women or comment on them in your presence.
He is probably just trying to let you know that he is not attracted to you but is actually just being nice because he maybe likes you but only as a friend, or he is just an ass and doesn’t care about your feelings or isn’t even aware of the fact that you like him.
4. Ele esconde os seus amigos de ti
This is the number one sign that he doesn’t care for you in that way.
You’re just a casual, random person to him and since he doesn’t see you in his life for the long haul, he won’t go to the trouble of letting you meet his friends. This should be a red flag sign that he is not attracted to you in the way you want him to be.
5. A sua linguagem corporal diz muito
Quando um homem gosta de ti, he doesn’t have to say it—his body speaks for him.
A linguagem corporal pode revelar todos os segredos de uma pessoa, por isso, se ele gostar mesmo de si, o seu corpo irá demonstrá-lo.
When you’re hanging out he’ll constantly seek an opportunity to get close to you or ‘accidentally’ touch you.
He’ll try to keep eye contact with you for as long as possible.
But if you don’t see any of these things, and if you see that he is pulling away from you instead of getting closer to you or avoiding eye contact, then you can be sure that nothing is going to happen between the two of you.
6. Ele trata-o da mesma forma que os outros
You’re not on a special pedestal because, sadly, you’re not special to him.
Ele não está apaixonado por si e age em relação a si como age em relação a todos os outros.
Se ele gostasse mesmo de si, tratá-la-ia de forma diferente, tentaria chamar a sua atenção por todos os meios possíveis.
So, there you are, the sure-fire signs that he has no interest in you other than just a friendly one, which is not so bad I guess, but if you want something more and he is in it only for the friendship, you should either break contact with him if it’s too painful, or try to deal with the situation that there is not going to be any kind of romantic relationship between the two of you.
Now that we’re clear on how guys act when they are not attracted to anyone, let’s solve the often-asked question…
Ele sente-se atraído por mim ou está apenas a ser simpático?
Tenha em atenção que não são muitos os rapazes que terão a coragem de vir ter consigo e dizer-lhe diretamente que gostam de si e que querem estar consigo. Nem todos são assim tão corajosos. Mas o mais provável é que lhe dêem pistas, pela forma como se comportam à sua volta.
Porque é que os homens fazem isso?
Bem, antes de mais, todos nós sofremos da medo da rejeição.
Is there anything worse than getting rejected, or hearing or realizing that someone doesn’t like you and doesn’t want to be with you?
Isso dói e todos nós queremos evitá-lo, mas acontece-nos a todos.
So, it’s no wonder that it’s so easy to mix up when he’s really attracted to you or is just being nice, or he’s scared of how much he likes you.
You have to keep track of all the subtle signs because as I’ve already said, they’re not going to say it right to your face. So, here we go…
Sinais de que ele se sente atraído por si e não apenas ser simpático
1. Ele quer saber tudo sobre si
É um homem que sonha contigo à noite, é um homem que venera o chão que pisas.
Ele quer saber todos os pormenores da sua vida e todos os seus interesses.
Ok, isto pode parecer um pouco assustador e perseguidor, mas quero dizer isto de uma forma gira e apaixonada.
He’ll ask all kinds of questions, from those random ones to personal ones, not just to keep the conversation alive but because he genuinely wants to know all those things.
Acredite, se ele estivesse apenas a ser simpático, nunca mostraria tanto interesse na sua vida.
Ele passaria tempo consigo numa conversa apenas para ser educado e não porque a deseja e a diferença entre as duas coisas é enorme.
2. As pupilas dilatam-se
You can’t beat science. It is proven that our brain works in a way that our pupils dilate when we see something we like.
Por isso, da próxima vez que apanhares um rapaz de quem gostas a olhar para ti, presta atenção às pupilas dele.
Se forem maiores do que o normal, então ele está mesmo interessado em si e está a ser simpático porque ele gosta de si.
3. Ele presta atenção à sua aparência
Ele fará tudo o que for preciso para que reparem nele.
Don’t be surprised if he develops a sense of fashion all of a sudden, or gets a new haircut or does something with his facial hair.
Se ele gosta de si, fará tudo o que for possível para se tornar atraente para si.
On the other hand, if a guy doesn’t have any romantic interest in you, he would never go to that kind of trouble to impress you. He will hang out with you in his old t-shirt or the clothes he wears around the house.
Se ele fizer isso, pode ter a certeza de que provavelmente só está a ser simpático consigo porque gosta de si apenas como amigo.
4. Ele olha para ti
Maybe even longer than he should but look at it this way—he is in love, he can’t help it.
Há um facto interessante sobre o contacto visual; dizem que quando um rapaz está interessado numa rapariga, olha para ela sempre que pode e, se ela o apanhar a olhar, mantém os olhos fixos nos dela para que ela saiba que ele está interessado nela.
Um ou dois sorrisos também não estão excluídos.
But there is another side to the coin and it’s an ugly one.
If he is not attracted to you, you’ll probably see it right away.
It can happen that he looks at you by accident, but if he does, his eye contact won’t last and he will look away almost immediately.
So, don’t confuse the two and you’ll know whether he is attracted to you or is just being nice.
5. Ele prestará atenção a cada palavra que disseres
He’ll listen and not just to be polite but because he really wants to.
He is really interested in the things you’re saying and he can’t get enough.
That’s why you can talk for hours without getting sick of each other. He will listen to even the most boring stories with the smallest details.
And the thing is, he’ll let you know he’s listening and he’ll ask you questions. You’ll see that he’s enjoying it.
Guys who are only being nice and polite will also listen to you, because they don’t want to be rude, but they won’t remember a thing you’ve said, simply because they don’t care enough about you to remember anything.
6. Ele defender-te-á
Se ele vir ou ouvir que alguém fala mal de si, levantará a voz e defendê-lo-á.
Ele defender-te-á, quer estejas presente ou não. Um homem que se sente atraído por si nunca deixará que ninguém a magoe de forma alguma.
Even if it’s someone who is dear to him, he will take your side.
But when a man is only being nice to you without any attraction, he won’t meddle that much in things that don’t concern him.
Either he will keep quiet and walk away, or he’ll just say a word or two in your defense out of politeness, but without any real effect.
7. Ele vai ficar um pouco ciumento
It’s not that sick, possessive kind of jealousy, it’s that sweet ‘I like you’ kind of jealousy.
He is attracted to you and he doesn’t want to lose you to another man.
Especially if he hasn’t let you know he likes you and is waiting for the perfect moment to do something about it. You can be one hundred percent positive that he is attracted to you if he is jealous.
Por outro lado, um homem que a vê apenas como uma amiga não vai ficar com ciúmes porque não tem motivos para isso.
He won’t care if you’re talking to another man or even flirting because he is not interested in you in that way. He is only being nice to you and nothing more.
8. Ele quer que faças parte da sua vida
You will know a lot about him. He’ll tell you his secrets and he’ll confide in you because he trusts you completely.
You’ll be a part of his life and you’ll get to know his family and he’ll introduce you to his friends because his intention is to keep you in his life for a bit longer.
Toda a vida dele será sobre ti e not even a day will pass when you don’t talk ou enviar mensagens de texto um ao outro. Ele quer mantê-la e comunicar consigo durante o máximo de tempo possível.
Alguém que está apenas a ser simpático terá a sua própria vida à parte.
He won’t introduce you to his family or call you to hang out with his friends.
Even when you talk or text, it won’t be personal and you won’t know that much about him and his life, except for the ordinary things that everyone knows.
9. Ele vai imaginar o seu futuro consigo
He will do anything in his power to ensure that you’re going to be together and hang out in the future.
No início, serão planos a curto prazo, como jantares e idas ao cinema, mas, mais tarde, serão viagens, concertos, etc.
This is him giving you subtle signs that he’s attracted to you and wants to have a future with you.
If he’s not attracted to you, he won’t make any plans with you.
He can call you to go to the movies or elsewhere, but usually he calls an hour or two earlier. Maybe his plans fell through and he hasn’t got anyone to go with where he wanted to go, so he called you.
Mas os planos a longo prazo estão fora de questão, porque ele não se sente atraído por si dessa forma.
10. Ele vai agir de forma diferente perto de si
Maybe he’ll even be nervous because it’s a lot of pressure.
Ele gosta de si e vai esforçar-se muito para o impressionar. A melhor maneira de testar isto é ver como ele se comporta com as pessoas que ama.
If you see he’s acting differently around you, a bit nervous or clumsy or trying too hard, then you can be positive that he has feelings for you.
A guy who is just being nice will treat you like he treats everyone else around him. He won’t be clumsy or nervous, he’ll just be himself, as he always is.
11. Ele fará qualquer coisa só para te ver feliz
Your happiness means the world to him. That’s why men who are in love do things they wouldn’t normally do, just to see the person next to them smile. Nothing will be hard for him to do.
Estará mesmo disposto a mudar os seus hábitos para a fazer feliz. Ele irá contra a sua vontade se isso o fizer sorrir.
Of course, he won’t be a complete sucker and let you manipulate him but as long as it’s reasonable, he will do it.
A guy who is not interested in you won’t give you such pleasure.
He won’t care about your wishes and the things that make you happy because for him your smile is no different from anybody else’s.
12. Ele apoiar-vos-á
Literalmente em tudo o que fazes. Ele será o homem que te dirá que podes fazer tudo o que quiseres.
Ele será a voz que vos impedirá de desistir dos vossos sonhos. Ele será o teu apoio quando duvidares de ti próprio.
Mesmo que te vás abaixo, ele estará lá para te ajudar a apanhar os pedaços quebrados do teu coração e do teu espírito. Ele voltará a juntá-los e torná-lo-á mais forte do que nunca.
Ele fará todas estas coisas porque se preocupa consigo e gosta de si mais do que tudo.
Someone who is not attracted to you wouldn’t go to all that trouble. He likes you but not enough and not in that way.
He will be there for you as a friend but when you come home at night you’re going to be alone.
Um homem que se sente atraído por si e não está apenas a ser simpático é um homem que estará ao seu lado e nunca a deixará sair da sua vista.
