È attratto da me o è solo gentile? 12 modi per capire se è interessato a me
È attratto da me o è solo gentile?
I bet this is a question that popped into your mind at least once when you liked a guy but you hit a dead-end street because you didn’t know how to react or what to do.
Sometimes it’s just hard to decide whether a al ragazzo piaci o se si sta solo comportando in modo gentile con te.
The signals he is sending are so confusing because they are easy to interpret wrongly. You just can’t seem to decide what he’s actually thinking.
Lucky for you there’s one way to always know what he’s thinking. Girls usually don’t know anything about this, but if you uncover La sua ossessione segreta, he’ll be 100% yours.
To set you free of that eternal struggle of whether he likes you or not, I’m going to try to solve this once and for all.
Prima di tutto, smettete di porvi la domanda se è attratto da voi o semplicemente essere gentili e leggere i segni reali senza essere prevenuti o desiderare che i segni lavorino a vostro favore.
But before we start with actual signs that he’s interested and not only being nice, read the heartbreaking signs that he really doesn’t want to have anything to do with you and he is just being polite, trying to let you know in a nice way that he’s not interested.
Non c'è da preoccuparsi: si può ottenere qualsiasi uomo si voglia con La sua ossessione segreta – a guide that helps you win him over even if he wasn’t initially interested in you.
Segni che non è attratto da voi
1. He doesn’t want to hang out with you
Vedete che evita di passare del tempo con voi.
He probably doesn’t want to blow you off so obviously, so he is trying to let you know that he is not interested in a more subtle way.
Even when you are alone together, it doesn’t feel comfortable, as his body language is telling you that he doesn’t look at you in that way.
2. He is not so interested in what you’ve got to say
A guy who likes you won’t allow himself not to notice anything that you say.
Vi ascolterà e presterà attenzione perché, se gli piacete, farà di tutto per ricordare i vostri interessi e le storie che raccontate.
If he likes you, he will genuinely be interested in what you’ve got to say because you are the one who is interesting.
3. Parla di altre donne davanti a voi
A guy who likes you wouldn’t talk about other women or comment on them in your presence.
He is probably just trying to let you know that he is not attracted to you but is actually just being nice because he maybe likes you but only as a friend, or he is just an ass and doesn’t care about your feelings or isn’t even aware of the fact that you like him.
4. Vi nasconde i suoi amici
This is the number one sign that he doesn’t care for you in that way.
You’re just a casual, random person to him and since he doesn’t see you in his life for the long haul, he won’t go to the trouble of letting you meet his friends. This should be a red flag sign that he is not attracted to you in the way you want him to be.
5. Il suo linguaggio del corpo parla chiaro
Quando piaci a un ragazzo, he doesn’t have to say it—his body speaks for him.
Il linguaggio del corpo può svelare ogni segreto di una persona, quindi se gli piacete davvero il suo corpo lo dimostrerà.
When you’re hanging out he’ll constantly seek an opportunity to get close to you or ‘accidentally’ touch you.
He’ll try to keep eye contact with you for as long as possible.
But if you don’t see any of these things, and if you see that he is pulling away from you instead of getting closer to you or avoiding eye contact, then you can be sure that nothing is going to happen between the two of you.
6. Vi tratta come gli altri
You’re not on a special pedestal because, sadly, you’re not special to him.
Non è innamorato di te e si comporta con te come con tutti gli altri.
Se gli piacessi davvero, ti tratterebbe in modo diverso, cercherebbe di attirare la tua attenzione con ogni mezzo.
So, there you are, the sure-fire signs that he has no interest in you other than just a friendly one, which is not so bad I guess, but if you want something more and he is in it only for the friendship, you should either break contact with him if it’s too painful, or try to deal with the situation that there is not going to be any kind of romantic relationship between the two of you.
Now that we’re clear on how guys act when they are not attracted to anyone, let’s solve the often-asked question…
È attratto da me o è solo gentile?
Sappiate che non sono molti i ragazzi che hanno il coraggio di venire da voi e dirvi apertamente che gli piacete e che vogliono stare con voi. Non tutti sono così coraggiosi. Ma è molto probabile che vi diano degli indizi, con il modo in cui si comportano con voi.
Perché i ragazzi lo fanno?
Beh, prima di tutto, tutti noi soffriamo della paura del rifiuto.
Is there anything worse than getting rejected, or hearing or realizing that someone doesn’t like you and doesn’t want to be with you?
Questo fa male e tutti vorremmo evitarlo, eppure succede a tutti noi.
So, it’s no wonder that it’s so easy to mix up when he’s really attracted to you or is just being nice, or he’s scared of how much he likes you.
You have to keep track of all the subtle signs because as I’ve already said, they’re not going to say it right to your face. So, here we go…
Segni che è attratto da te e non solo di essere gentile
1. Vuole sapere tutto di voi
È un uomo che ti sogna di notte, è un uomo che adora il suolo su cui cammini.
Vuole conoscere ogni dettaglio della vostra vita e ogni vostro interesse.
Ok, può sembrare un po' inquietante e da stalker, ma lo dico in modo carino e con la testa tra le nuvole.
He’ll ask all kinds of questions, from those random ones to personal ones, not just to keep the conversation alive but because he genuinely wants to know all those things.
Credetemi, se fosse stato solo gentile, non avrebbe mai mostrato un tale interesse per la vostra vita.
Passerebbe del tempo con voi a conversare solo per essere educato e non perché vi vuole, e la differenza tra le due cose è enorme.
2. Le pupille si dilatano
You can’t beat science. It is proven that our brain works in a way that our pupils dilate when we see something we like.
Perciò, la prossima volta che vi accorgete che un ragazzo che vi piace vi guarda, prestate attenzione alle sue pupille.
Se sono più grandi di quanto sarebbero normalmente, allora sicuramente ha una cotta per te e si sta comportando in modo gentile perché gli piaci.
3. Presta attenzione al suo aspetto
Farà di tutto per farsi notare.
Don’t be surprised if he develops a sense of fashion all of a sudden, or gets a new haircut or does something with his facial hair.
Se gli piacete, farà tutto il possibile per rendersi attraente per voi.
On the other hand, if a guy doesn’t have any romantic interest in you, he would never go to that kind of trouble to impress you. He will hang out with you in his old t-shirt or the clothes he wears around the house.
Se lo fa, potete essere certe che probabilmente è gentile con voi solo perché gli piacete solo come amica.
4. Vi fissa
Maybe even longer than he should but look at it this way—he is in love, he can’t help it.
C'è un fatto interessante che riguarda il contatto visivo: si dice che quando un ragazzo è interessato a una ragazza, la guarderà ogni volta che ne avrà l'occasione e, se lei si accorgerà che lo sta fissando, terrà gli occhi fissi sui suoi per farle capire che è interessato a lei.
Non sono esclusi nemmeno uno o due sorrisi.
But there is another side to the coin and it’s an ugly one.
If he is not attracted to you, you’ll probably see it right away.
It can happen that he looks at you by accident, but if he does, his eye contact won’t last and he will look away almost immediately.
So, don’t confuse the two and you’ll know whether he is attracted to you or is just being nice.
5. Presterà attenzione a ogni parola che direte
He’ll listen and not just to be polite but because he really wants to.
He is really interested in the things you’re saying and he can’t get enough.
That’s why you can talk for hours without getting sick of each other. He will listen to even the most boring stories with the smallest details.
And the thing is, he’ll let you know he’s listening and he’ll ask you questions. You’ll see that he’s enjoying it.
Guys who are only being nice and polite will also listen to you, because they don’t want to be rude, but they won’t remember a thing you’ve said, simply because they don’t care enough about you to remember anything.
6. Si batterà per voi
Se vede o sente che qualcuno parla male di voi, alzerà la voce e vi difenderà.
Vi difenderà, che voi siate presenti o meno. Un uomo che è attratto da voi non permetterà mai a nessuno di farvi del male in alcun modo.
Even if it’s someone who is dear to him, he will take your side.
But when a man is only being nice to you without any attraction, he won’t meddle that much in things that don’t concern him.
Either he will keep quiet and walk away, or he’ll just say a word or two in your defense out of politeness, but without any real effect.
7. Diventerà un po' geloso
It’s not that sick, possessive kind of jealousy, it’s that sweet ‘I like you’ kind of jealousy.
He is attracted to you and he doesn’t want to lose you to another man.
Especially if he hasn’t let you know he likes you and is waiting for the perfect moment to do something about it. You can be one hundred percent positive that he is attracted to you if he is jealous.
D'altra parte, un uomo che vi vede solo come un'amica non si ingelosisce perché non ne ha motivo.
He won’t care if you’re talking to another man or even flirting because he is not interested in you in that way. He is only being nice to you and nothing more.
8. Vuole che tu faccia parte della sua vita
You will know a lot about him. He’ll tell you his secrets and he’ll confide in you because he trusts you completely.
You’ll be a part of his life and you’ll get to know his family and he’ll introduce you to his friends because his intention is to keep you in his life for a bit longer.
Tutta la sua vita sarà incentrata su di voi e not even a day will pass when you don’t talk o mandarsi messaggi. Vuole tenerti e comunicare con te il più a lungo possibile.
Una persona che si sta solo comportando in modo gentile avrà la sua vita a parte voi.
He won’t introduce you to his family or call you to hang out with his friends.
Even when you talk or text, it won’t be personal and you won’t know that much about him and his life, except for the ordinary things that everyone knows.
9. Immaginerà il suo futuro con voi
He will do anything in his power to ensure that you’re going to be together and hang out in the future.
All'inizio si tratterà di programmi a breve termine, come cene e cinema, ma in seguito si tratterà di viaggi, concerti e così via.
This is him giving you subtle signs that he’s attracted to you and wants to have a future with you.
If he’s not attracted to you, he won’t make any plans with you.
He can call you to go to the movies or elsewhere, but usually he calls an hour or two earlier. Maybe his plans fell through and he hasn’t got anyone to go with where he wanted to go, so he called you.
Ma i progetti a lungo termine sono fuori discussione perché lui non è attratto da te in quel senso.
10. Si comporterà in modo diverso con voi
Maybe he’ll even be nervous because it’s a lot of pressure.
Gli piaci e ce la metterà tutta per fare colpo su di voi. Il modo migliore per verificarlo è vedere come si comporta con le persone che ama.
If you see he’s acting differently around you, a bit nervous or clumsy or trying too hard, then you can be positive that he has feelings for you.
A guy who is just being nice will treat you like he treats everyone else around him. He won’t be clumsy or nervous, he’ll just be himself, as he always is.
11. Farà di tutto per vedervi felici
Your happiness means the world to him. That’s why men who are in love do things they wouldn’t normally do, just to see the person next to them smile. Nothing will be hard for him to do.
Sarà persino pronto a cambiare le sue abitudini per rendervi felici. Andrà contro la sua volontà se questo vi farà sorridere.
Of course, he won’t be a complete sucker and let you manipulate him but as long as it’s reasonable, he will do it.
A guy who is not interested in you won’t give you such pleasure.
He won’t care about your wishes and the things that make you happy because for him your smile is no different from anybody else’s.
12. Vi sosterrà
Letteralmente in tutto ciò che fate. Sarà l'uomo che vi dirà che potete fare tutto ciò che desiderate.
Sarà la voce che vi impedirà di rinunciare ai vostri sogni. Sarà lui a sostenervi quando dubiterete di voi stessi.
Anche se vi sfascerete, lui sarà lì per voi per aiutarvi a raccogliere i pezzi rotti del vostro cuore e del vostro spirito. Li rimetterà insieme e vi renderà più forti che mai.
Farà tutte queste cose perché si preoccupa di voi e vi ama più di ogni altra cosa.
Someone who is not attracted to you wouldn’t go to all that trouble. He likes you but not enough and not in that way.
He will be there for you as a friend but when you come home at night you’re going to be alone.
Un uomo che è attratto da voi e non si limita a essere gentile è un uomo che sarà al vostro fianco e non vi lascerà mai andare via dalla sua vista.
