Baseie a sua vida na sua própria identidade, pois uma relação pode explodir a qualquer momento

Most of us make one fatal mistake when we’re in a relationship. Damos demasiado de nós próprios na nossa relação e, algures pelo caminho, perdemos totalmente a nossa identidade.

We let our partner control our whole life because we think that’s the way it should be. We think that’s love. We do it in the name of love.

Trust me, that has nothing to do with love. It’s actually unhealthy and toxic behavior. Once that relationship ends, you’ll be crushed and you won’t know how to move on.

Perder a identidade significa perder-se a si próprio, o que é algo que nunca se deve fazer, nem por ninguém, por muito que se pense que se ama essa pessoa.

Yes, I said ‘think’ because that’s definitely not true love; it’s infatuation or maybe it’s even lust but it’s never true love.

A person who asks you to change, one who’s trying to change who you are, is never the right person, is never your soulmate.

True love from the right person will never ask you to change. It’ll accept you just the way you are. Essa pessoa apaixonar-se-á por todas as suas partes.

They’ll fall in love with your good sides as much as with your flaws and imperfections. They’ll honestly love you for who you are.

Nunca se sabe ao certo quando é que a relação vai acabar ou se está mesmo destinada a durar para sempre. Podemos amar alguém com todo o nosso ser e mesmo assim perder essa pessoa.

I do believe that we all have that one person who is meant for us, our soulmate, but still, I really don’t believe that you’ll immediately know they’re the one when you meet them.

Don’t think that I’m writing all of this just like that, as I’m writing this from my own experience. I lost my identity once in a relationship and I was very damaged once it ended.

I gave my all to a man who decided to leave me as if we never even existed, as if our love was never real. I really thought that I’d spend my life with that person and it took me a long time to realize that it was all over.

Demorei muito, muito tempo a aceitar o facto de que tinha de seguir em frente e continuar a viver a vida sem ele, sozinha.

E eu estava mesmo sozinha, porque os meus amigos também me deixaram muito antes disso, quando perceberam o quanto eu tinha mudado naquela relação.

Eu era uma pessoa completamente diferente e eles tinham todo o direito de deixar de andar comigo.

Yes, accepting all of that was very difficult but the worst part was recovering. I didn’t want to go back to the person I was before and I didn’t like the person who I became because of my ex.

Apercebi-me de que tinha de mudar mais uma vez. Tinha de trabalhar para perceber o meu valor e melhorar a minha autoestima.

That’s when I promised myself that I’d never again allow anyone to change me and that I’d never change for another person ever again, no matter how much I loved or cared for them.

As prioridades devem ser sempre conhecidas e a nossa principal prioridade tem de ser sempre nós próprios, caso contrário permitimos que outra pessoa nos magoe e nos parta o coração.

É claro que tem de fazer compromissos com o seu parceiro, mas deve haver alguns limites. Há algumas coisas que nunca devem ser comprometidas e os seus valores e ideais, por exemplo, são duas delas.

Devemos manter-nos fiéis a nós próprios, aconteça o que acontecer. Don’t allow anyone to affect your thinking or your perspectives on life.

Don’t think that you should change yourself to get someone to like you and never think that you’re unworthy of love or that you aren’t good enough for someone. Because you are and you must always be aware of that.

Never be a meek mouse and always let your voice be heard loud. Never lose yourself for anyone else because your identity is what makes you different from all the others. It’s a gift that makes you unique, so don’t discard it.