Base su vida en su propia identidad, ya que una relación puede estallar en cualquier momento

Most of us make one fatal mistake when we’re in a relationship. Damos demasiado de nosotros mismos en nuestra relación y, en algún punto del camino, perdemos totalmente nuestra identidad.

We let our partner control our whole life because we think that’s the way it should be. We think that’s love. We do it in the name of love.

Trust me, that has nothing to do with love. It’s actually unhealthy and toxic behavior. Once that relationship ends, you’ll be crushed and you won’t know how to move on.

Perder tu identidad significa perderte a ti mismo, que es algo que no debes hacer nunca, por nadie, por mucho que creas querer a esa persona.

Yes, I said ‘think’ because that’s definitely not true love; it’s infatuation or maybe it’s even lust but it’s never true love.

A person who asks you to change, one who’s trying to change who you are, is never the right person, is never your soulmate.

True love from the right person will never ask you to change. It’ll accept you just the way you are. Esa persona se enamorará de todas tus partes.

They’ll fall in love with your good sides as much as with your flaws and imperfections. They’ll honestly love you for who you are.

Nunca se sabe con certeza cuándo terminará una relación o si realmente está destinada a durar para siempre. Puedes amar a alguien con todo tu ser y aun así perder a esa persona.

I do believe that we all have that one person who is meant for us, our soulmate, but still, I really don’t believe that you’ll immediately know they’re the one when you meet them.

Don’t think that I’m writing all of this just like that, as I’m writing this from my own experience. I lost my identity once in a relationship and I was very damaged once it ended.

I gave my all to a man who decided to leave me as if we never even existed, as if our love was never real. I really thought that I’d spend my life with that person and it took me a long time to realize that it was all over.

Me llevó mucho, mucho tiempo aceptar que tenía que seguir adelante y avanzar por la vida sin él, completamente sola.

Y estaba realmente sola porque mis amigos también me dejaron mucho antes, cuando comprendieron lo mucho que había cambiado en esa relación.

Yo era una persona completamente diferente y tenían todo el derecho a dejar de salir conmigo.

Yes, accepting all of that was very difficult but the worst part was recovering. I didn’t want to go back to the person I was before and I didn’t like the person who I became because of my ex.

Me di cuenta de que tenía que cambiar una vez más. Tenía que trabajar para darme cuenta de mi valía y mejorar mi autoestima.

That’s when I promised myself that I’d never again allow anyone to change me and that I’d never change for another person ever again, no matter how much I loved or cared for them.

Las prioridades siempre deben saberse y tu principal prioridad siempre tienes que ser tú mismo o de lo contrario permites que otra persona te haga daño y te rompa el corazón.

Por supuesto, debes llegar a compromisos con tu pareja, pero debe haber ciertos límites. Hay cosas en las que nunca debes ceder y tus valores e ideales, por ejemplo, son dos de ellas.

Debes ser fiel a ti misma pase lo que pase. Don’t allow anyone to affect your thinking or your perspectives on life.

Don’t think that you should change yourself to get someone to like you and never think that you’re unworthy of love or that you aren’t good enough for someone. Because you are and you must always be aware of that.

Never be a meek mouse and always let your voice be heard loud. Never lose yourself for anyone else because your identity is what makes you different from all the others. It’s a gift that makes you unique, so don’t discard it.