15 sinais de alerta de um amigo falso e como lidar com ele

Do you know why true friends are considered a treasure these days? Because it’s so damn hard to find one. Unfortunately, most of us are surrounded by toxic people who only pretend to be our friends so long as they can use us. 

It has become very difficult to spot these fake friends because most of them have become real pros at faking friendships. I’ve compiled a list of signs of a fake friend to help you identify and deal with them. 

You should always remember one thing: it’s better to have um amigo you’re sure you can always count on than to have a wide círculo social where you can’t tell for sure if all those people are your amigos verdadeiros. 

I always say that God chooses our family members for us, but we’re the ones who escolher os nossos amigos. That’s why if you allow your friends to disrespect, manipulate, or belittle you, you’re the only one to blame.

Bons amigos são difíceis de encontrar hoje em dia porque o mundo está cheio de amizades falsas. That’s why you should consider yourself lucky if you have someone you’re sure you can always count on. 

If you have a solid group of friends, guard those friendships because they’re definitely one of the most valuable things in your life. 

15 Limpar Sinais de um amigo falso

 

Even though it’s become challenging para detetar amigos falsos Hoje em dia, existem ainda alguns sinais de alerta bastante claros de amizades falsas a que todos devemos estar atentos. Por isso, se queres saber como saber se tens um amigo falso, continua a ler abaixo. 

Usam-no para seu proveito pessoal

A bad friend will always reach out only when it’s convenient for them or when they need something from you. They hang out with you only because they want to take advantage of you. 

They don’t want to spend quality time with you or to get to know you better. They’ll ask to get together only when they need you, and this is one of the most obvious signs of a fake friend. 

They’re never there when you need them most

Your close friend should be someone who is always there for you – someone who will stand by your side no matter what and who wants to share everything with you, the good moments as much as the bad ones. 

If you can never count on your friend because they were never there for you when you needed them the most, I’m sorry, but the truth is you’re in a toxic relationship, and that person was never your real friend. 

They’re constantly pointing out your flaws 

A good friend is someone who knows you better than anyone else. They’re a person who respects, accepts, and embraces all your flaws and imperfections. It’s someone who accepts you the way you are and encourages you to be a better version of yourself every day. 

Por outro lado, um mau amigo tentará sempre realçar os seus defeitos e fazê-lo sentir-se mal com essas partes menos perfeitas de si próprio. 

They know what your bad sides are, and they’ll try to point them out often just to hurt you. They’ll do it because they want to suck the confidence out of you, and that’s something you should never allow.  

Tentam manipulá-lo ou controlá-lo 

A healthy friendship consists of two people who try to understand and respect each other’s choices and decisions. It’s a healthy relationship where both sides have different interests and perspectives and still try to be compassionate and understanding towards each other. 

Only a bad friend would use your sincere feelings to try to take control of your life. They’ll also try to make you feel guilty in order to manipulate you into doing something they want you to do. 

Isso levaria a uma relação de codependência, which would harm your emotional and mental health. Unfortunately, I was dragged into such a relationship, and it took me a while to understand that I’m the only one who has control of my life. 

Os seus feitos causam-lhes inveja 

A bom amigo is someone who’ll be proud of your achievements and always rejoice in your accomplishments. They’ll see your success as their own because friendship is truly one soul separated into two living bodies. 

Se lhe apetecer o teu amigo tem inveja of your success and all your accomplishments, I’m sorry, but you’re dealing with a very bad friend, and you need to let go of that friendship for your own peace of mind.

They don’t stand behind their words 

Trust represents the essential foundation of every healthy relationship. However, we all know that it’s something that needs to be earned with time. 

That’s exactly why amigos verdadeiros would never lie to you or break their promises. They’re aware that it can cost them losing your trust, which would harm your relationship deeply. 

Você sentir-se desrespeitado na sua amizade 

When it comes to these kinds of close relationships, trust and respect go hand in hand. You can’t maintain a healthy relationship without any of these. 

If your friend is gossiping about you to your mutual friends, it’s a clear red flag they don’t respect you, and it’s also a warning sign that they have never been a true friend. 

Estão constantemente a deitar-te abaixo à frente dos outros 

If your friend continuously tries to belittle you in front of other people, it’s a clear sign that they don’t care for you or your friendship. That so-called friend knows that it’ll hurt your feelings, but it still doesn’t stop them from putting you down. 

A bom amigo will always stick up for you even when you aren’t around. They’ll never allow anyone to speak badly about you because it’s simply o que melhores amigos fazer; eles protegem-nos sempre. 

They don’t support your choices…

A real friend will always stand with you, supporting you in achieving your goals and dreams. Maybe they won’t always agree with your decisions and choices, but they’ll always try to support them no matter what. 

The unfortunate truth is that if your friend isn’t supportive, that only means they’re envious of your success. This can only lead to the conclusion that your friendship is fake. 

E nunca te defendem à frente de outras pessoas 

As I have already said, real friends always have your back, even when you’re not around. They’ll never allow anyone to trash talk you because protecting you is simply their primary task. 

A bad friend won’t ever defend you when other people are gossiping about you because they simply don’t care for you. They just don’t have the virtue of loyalty, and that’s why they can never build a deep and strong bond with other people. 

They don’t care for things that are important to you 

Numa amizade, ambas as partes devem ter interesses e perspectivas diferentes. No entanto, se your friend doesn’t care about things that are important to you, it’s a warning sign that they don’t care for you as much as you do for them. 

I know that we all run to our friends whenever something good happens because we want to share the good news with them. But sometimes, it’s better to keep it to ourselves because we’re surrounded by fake people who only pretend to be our true friends and will never rejoice in our success. 

Deixam-no sempre pelo seu par romântico 

If your so-called friend always breaks off plans with you or ignores you every time they’re dating someone, I think it’s pretty clear you aren’t dealing with a good friend here. 

A verdadeiro amigo encontrarão sempre uma forma de equilibrar a sua relação romântica e a sua amizade, porque ambas as relações são igualmente importantes para eles.  

You always feel like you’re walking on eggshells around them 

If you don’ t feel comfortable around your friend, it’s a good indication that you’re in a fake friendship. You should never be afraid of their reaction if they’re your true friends. 

We all have bad days, but being in a difficult situation doesn’t give someone the right to lash out. A fake friend will use you as a punching bag to take out their feelings. 

They’ll put themselves on a pedestal 

If your friend has a narcissistic personality and you think it’s ruining your friendship, you don’t have to cut them out of your life immediately. 

Pode continuar a conviver com ele, mas seria melhor considerá-lo um inimigo. O facto é que a maioria dos narcisistas nunca consegue ter amigos verdadeiros e construir ligações profundas e reais com outras pessoas. 

They’ll criticize you, make you feel bad about yourself, and make you doubt your worth. Os narcisistas tentarão manipular you and make you think that they’re so much better than you are and that you need them more than they need you. 

They’re real energy vampires

Se o seu amigo só partilha energia negativa, deve afastar-se dele antes que as suas más vibrações comecem a afetar a sua saúde mental. 

Deve eliminar essa pessoa da sua vida before they zap your emotional energy. If you don’t, they’ll simply feed on your energy until they completely drain the life out of you.  

10 maneiras eficientes de lidar com um Amigo falso

Now that we have talked about the signs of a fake friend, it’s time to find out how we should handle those toxic friendships. So, pay close attention to these tips below. 

Expulsá-los do seu pedestal 

Antes mesmo de os confrontar com as suas falsas intenções em relação a si, deve expulsá-los do pedestal em que se colocam. 

They can’t always be right. They aren’t the smartest nor the wisest. They aren’t perfect because they also have flaws, just as we all do. 

O mau comportamento da pessoa em causa resulta muito provavelmente da sua personalidade narcísica. Antes de acabar com essa amizade tóxica, deve avisá-lo de todo o mal que o seu comportamento está a fazer, não só a ele, mas também às pessoas de quem gosta. 

Confrontá-los 

Se reconheceu a maioria destes sinais de um amigo falso na sua amizade, deve definitivamente confrontar o seu amigo sobre isso. Exponha todos os seus pensamentos e sentimentos. 

Don’t do it over redes sociais because it would be easier for them to avoid speaking about it, but if you do it in person, they won’t have any other option but to talk to you. Besides, discussing these serious and important issues over redes sociais é tão infantil. 

Atualizar os seus limites 

Every time you meet new friends, you have to be direct and clear about your boundaries right away. Set your limits, and don’t ever tolerate anyone who disrespects them. 

If your friend has already violated your boundaries several times and you still aren’t ready to let go of that friendship, you can try to refresh your limits and be clear about the consequences of breaking them. 

Pode fazer com que o seu amigo mude o seu comportamento em relação a si, isto é, se ele gostar de si. Mas, mais importante ainda, os seus limites saudáveis manterão pessoas tóxicas da sua vida e ajudá-lo a livrar-se de pessoas falsas who don’t deserve to be a part of your life at all. 

Controlar-se emocionalmente

Realizing that a person you always considered a real friend has never cared for you the way you care for them can take its toll on you emotionally. You’ll most likely feel a whole range of emotions, from anger to sadness and despair. 

No entanto, tem de se recompor e ter consciência de que precisa de seguir em frente com a sua própria vida, com ou sem ele. 

Tentar não se envolver nos seus dramas 

Um dos sinais de aviso de um falso amigo é quando ele está constantemente a criar dramas desnecessários por causa de coisas estúpidas e irrelevantes. 

Há duas razões possíveis para isso: ou querem ser o centro das atenções, ou querem apenas fazer com que se sinta mal com alguma coisa, permitindo-lhes assim controlá-lo. 

If you can’t end your friendship with that kind of person or if you’re in the inimigo Neste momento, na fase de uma relação, o melhor conselho que te posso dar é que te afastes de todo o drama em que te querem meter. Just try to distance yourself from them for a while and see where that’ll take you.  

Don’t ever respect someone who doesn’t respect you

Concordo que nunca se deve descer ao nível deles e comportar-se como eles. Tente sempre ser a pessoa mais forte, controle-se e tente responder ao seu negativismo com bondade. 

No entanto, nunca devemos respeitá-los se eles aproveitarem todas as oportunidades para nos maltratarem e desrespeitarem. Isso só lhes daria o direito de continuar, o que também significaria que não tem respeito por si próprio. 

Reduzir as suas expectativas em relação a essa amizade

Tell me honestly, what can you expect from fake people ? Nothing good, right? That’s exactly why you should never set high expectations in toxic friendships. 

Nunca se pode esperar que essas pessoas estejam presentes ou nos ajudem nos maus momentos. Lembre-se sempre, sem expectativas não há desilusão!

Don’t ever allow them to make you doubt yourself 

Amizades falsas podem esgotá-lo emocionalmente e deixar consequências terríveis para a sua saúde mental. Lidar com pessoas tóxicas pode prejudicar a sua autoestima mais do que imagina. 

Esses pessoas tóxicas know that it’ll be a lot easier to control you if they make you start questioning your own worth. Therefore, you must always have unshakable faith in yourself because it’s the strongest weapon you have in fighting toxic people. 

Prestar atenção às suas próprias necessidades emocionais

A healthy friendship is when two people share a deep emotional connection. However, that doesn’t mean that you should expect your friends to fulfill all your emotional needs. You shouldn’t expect it from fake people because they don’t care about your needs at all. 

Estar em contacto com as suas próprias necessidades emocionais também o ajudará a lidar com falsos amigos e pessoas tóxicas. É preciso ser mais compassivo consigo mesmo e permitir-se sentir as suas emoções. 

Basta deixá-los para trás e seguir em frente

The fact is that you need to come to terms with the fact that some people need to be left behind. God wouldn ‘t ever send someone into your life to hurt you. 

Ele envia-os com um objetivo, para lhe ensinar uma lição importante. Ele quer ensinar-te que nunca deves dar o teu coração aos outros demasiado depressa. Ele quer que saibas que a confiança e o respeito têm de ser conquistados, e não apenas dados facilmente aos outros. 

That’s why the moment you realize that someone isn’t genuine and honest with you, you should eliminá-los da sua vida. I know it’s difficult to leave some people behind because they’ve grown on you, but it’s something that needs to be done to save yourself. 

Para terminar 

I hope you won’t recognize these signs of a fake friend in your friendship because I know how much it hurts to realize that a person you considered a true friend was faking the friendship the whole time. 

The best thing you can do to save yourself is to simply move on and leave that toxic friend in the past. I know it’ll tear you up emotionally, but unfortunately, sometimes it’s our only choice. 

I have known my best friend, pardon my ex- best friend, since high school, and I wasn’t able to see all those red flags that she was only using me for way too long. 

She was my biggest confidant, a person I always admired the most. I just can’t describe how much it hurt when I realized that our friendship was fake because evidence showed that she was never actually a true friend. 

Eu acreditava mesmo que eram melhores amigas. Silly me, I was even sorry I didn’t meet her earlier. I was sorry I didn’t have someone like her in middle school. 

However, I realized that she was only a lesson God sent me to teach me that I shouldn’t trust people so easily and never give too much of myself in relationships. 

Demorei algum tempo, mas compreendi e aceitei que a minha única opção era acabar com essa amizade e seguir em frente com a minha vida. Aprendi que pessoas falsas representam o lixo que precisa de ser retirado da sua vida. 

I know it doesn’ t feel easy, and I won’t lie to you: it’s indeed anything but easy. However, once you accept that it’s for your own well-being, it’ll be much easier to end that friendship. 

No final, só quero dizer que não vale a pena desperdiçar o nosso precioso tempo e que, por muito que gostemos e nos preocupemos com alguém, nunca devemos tolerar o desrespeito. 

O mundo está cheio de pessoas tóxicas e amigos falsose se tiver um verdadeiro amigo, deves considerar-te muito sortudo.