4 coisas para parar e 4 coisas para começar a fazer se estiver à procura de amor

PARAR

1. …choosing the guy you know is unavailable

Este é um padrão auto-sabotador que muitas mulheres seguem.

No matter the reason for him being unavailable, don’t choose him. If you can see he’s emotionally distanced, stop pursuing a relationship with him.

If he’s one of the boys who are open about never wanting to get married or have a committed relationship – don’t let yourself fall for him.

If you’ve noticed that you constantly lose interest in guys who were unavailable and then become available – work on this issue.

2. …looking for romance and look for partnership instead

There is a certain type of guy or a certain type of situation that will probably attract you if you’re looking for romance.

If your thoughts and ideas of love consist of incredibly romantic, passionate scenarios – you might be on the wrong track.

If you’re searching for loveSe não se sentir bem com o amor, deve deixar de o equacionar com o romance e começar a vê-lo como uma parceria. Isto mudará a sua perceção e afectará a forma como escolhe os seus potenciais parceiros.

Once you know you’re looking for a person who will become your partner and be there for you for better or for worse, you’ll think twice when you’re choosing the one to be with.

3. …focusing on your phone so much

Seriously, adjust your focus elsewhere. While there’s a chance you’ll find love online, the old fashioned ways work better.

Also, if you’re constantly following different people’s lives, it might seem to you that their love lives are amazing.

It may seem to you like they’re continuously celebrating their love and enjoying every single moment of their romance and this can give you false expectations.

So, stop following other people’s lives and trying to recreate other people’s love stories. Instead, get up, go out, and try to create your own, unique story.

4. …thinking the perfect relationship won’t require work

Talking about false expectations, movies and books might have given you the idea that true love requires no work. Well, that’s false.

Embora o amor verdadeiro seja simples e se possa sentir a ligação com a alma gémea, as relações exigem sempre trabalho.

You spend so much time with someone and share so much it’s impossible for it to always go perfectly.

Also, people change with time and the relationship changes with them. Both partners need to be equally ready to compromise and get used to each other and each other’s needs.

Sim, isto significa que deve deixar de esperar que tudo corra sempre bem e deixar de desperdiçar boas relações só porque ocorre um pequeno problema. 

INICIAR

1. …enjoying time on your own

É preciso aprender a gostar de estar sozinho antes de encontrar a pessoa com quem partilhar a vida. Desfrute do seu tempo sozinho. 

If you don’t enjoy your own company, you can’t really expect anyone else to, either.

There are many benefits to being single and you should take advantage of all of them, because once you find your soulmate you’ll be taken forever.

2. …building up your confidence

Ser confiante é importante para o seu bem-estar e também atrai outras pessoas. Pense nas suas melhores características e lembre-se delas.

Se há coisas a melhorar, faça-as. Faça tudo o que a faz sentir-se bem consigo própria.

You have to become aware of your own worth so others don’t make you think you’re worth less than you actually are.

3. …understanding your own needs

Before you enter a relationship and while you’re still searching for love you should use that time to think about your actual wants and needs. 

What is it you’re looking for in a partner? What are some things he simply needs to be/do? What are some things he should never do?

Que tipo de pessoa é capaz de satisfazer as suas necessidades? 

Mergulhe fundo na sua mente, pense nas suas relações passadas e onde é que elas correram mal e decida de que forma precisa de ser amado e que tipo de pessoa lhe pode dar o tipo de amor que merece.

4. …going to places people with the same interests as you go to

Os opostos atraem-se, mas também fortalece uma relação ter alguns interesses comuns. Também facilita o início de uma relação, porque lhe dá algo para falar e para se relacionar.

If you have any particular interests (and everyone does), go to places where you’ll find people with those same interests. If you like books – visit libraries, if you like tennis – go play on a public court, you see where I’m going with this?

Ir a locais onde possa encontrar pessoas que sejam semelhantes a si de uma forma ou de outra dar-lhe-á a oportunidade de estabelecer uma relação com alguém que será capaz de o compreender.